I appreciate this board so much

2redtulips · April 2014

I checked in on my BMB today, and there's a thread specifically aimed at making fun of other members of that BMB for posting their baby name choices.

It really bummed me out.

This board and my other favorite (pg 35+) are so supportive and positive, and I just wanted to let you ladies know how much I appreciate that. It's nice to have a place to go that's warm and welcoming.

PatientlyWaiting10 · April 2014

Why would members make fun of other members? How sad!

2redtulips · April 2014

I know. It felt so mean-spirited.

Some were even making fun of people's final name choices, which really hurt my heart. That's someone's child you're talking about! (One of the ladies I know for sure is pgal, too, so I was feeling especially protective of her.)

BookishMomma · April 2014

I have yet to intro on my BMB except in the PgAL check-in. I feel hesitant about it, maybe because I've intro-ed early on in the past, only to have losses and then have threads bumped up (by people who obviously didn't see my siggy). I'll do it sooner or later. Just not feeling ready yet.

MommaAshley12 · April 2014

PGAL does have much more positive and supportive tone. It's intimidating to post on my BMB too. Glad to have this community as well!

SandSunBliss · April 2014

Ugh that is rediculous. I must agree this place is wonderful. I have not shared our baby names with anyone because I want NO outside opinions. Once my DH and I have chosen our names and have a birth certificate, family and friends would really have to have a lot of nerve to share a negative opinion. And they would get some SSB lip about it. Basically, I don't care what they think. The end.

mtaylor404 · April 2014

Agreed! I saw a thread on my BMB making fun of the name of a woman's previous child when she was asking help for naming her new baby. So unnecessary. It went ON and ON. I love that I can come to this board and I know there will be no nastiness.

katiebartton · April 2014

I love this board as well!!! My mom is staying the weekend and I was sharing with her my excitement about BPF and she was asking out if curiousty the difference between my BMB and this board. I explained how it's structured different etc and her response was why bother with the other ha!

I guess I was praising how great and caring everyone is on this board. So thanks everyone for making this a safe place to call home!

2redtulips · April 2014

SandSunBliss said:

I have not shared our baby names with anyone because I want NO outside opinions. Once my DH and I have chosen our names and have a birth certificate, family and friends would really have to have a lot of nerve to share a negative opinion. And they would get some SSB lip about it. Basically, I don't care what they think. The end.

I agree! I shared part of my list here, but the final names will be 100% secret until the birth certificate is final. You can't please everyone, so why bother trying?

I just don't see the point in being nasty just because someone else has different taste than you do.

PatientlyWaiting10 · April 2014

I haven't introed on my BMB…I've been there a few times but this place just feels like home and I'm not sure I'm ready to be intertwined with others who haven't had a loss (or several). It's a totally different ball game.

LifeofCat · April 2014

Agreed. I haven't been following the name thread, but other discussions have given me anxiety/bummed me out. I'm not saying that I entirely dislike my BMB, because there seem to be several lovely ladies, but it's just not the same. I feel much safer here, in more ways than one.

Pmmama · April 2014

Wow that's crazy. What's wrong w people?!?

voplo · April 2014

I am in the same wagon. My BMB is the same as yours @2redtulips and I have been lurking for a long time. I have been tempted to post a few times, but after watching people making fun of other people for almost everything..gosh...I am not going to lie, I am horrified!

I have seen posts about gender being flamed because they didn't use the word sex, gender (or sex) reveal parties posts go horribly wrong, if you ask about "is this safe" they laugh at you..."names posts" gone even worse. I don't feel is a supportive group at all. I wonder sometimes how TB allows this kind of posts degenerate to the point of people insulting other people (words I would never say like t**t or c**t, seriously).

And that post you mentioned, I just read it, makes me sad...

This board is awesome, full of sensitive people. I wish we didn't have to be here, but I feel everyone here is in the same boat, trying to get to the same place. One thing I love is that we really celebrate every step of our little ones life, because (sadly) we understand how precious and fragile it is.

[Deleted User] · April 2014

I agree with the PP's who say this board feels like home. I've done some lurking in my BMB but haven't posted. The atmosphere just feels off. And it sucks, because with my first pregnancy, which ended in m/c, that BMB was awesome! I was truly sad to leave it. It's strange that sometimes you might get an awesome group, and other times it just doesn't feel right. A lot of that could do with the fact that I'm a different kind of expectant mother now, after two losses, than I was that first time. Now I lurk in my BMB and feel out of place because there are so many naive bumpies who have never experienced loss and post the silliest things, like gender prediction stuff. But I can't really blame them for that; they don't know any better. Nor would I ever want them to! I admit to being jealous of their untarnished, worry-free joy. Us PgAL ladies are a different breed for sure.

After I lurk my BMB, I literally come running back here. I love this place. As others have said, PgAL is the best club you wish you weren't a part of. ((Hugs)) to all of you!

BANBIE18 · April 2014

I lurked for a few days i decided it felt like bullying to me... Mean girls belong in high school not in a forum that is supposed to be for support and joy. Is so sad that BMB does that and ppl allow it. Thats why i stay here... I dont feel like being cyber bullyied ( pardon my spelling). ((((( hugs)))))) to all the wonderful kind hearted ladies here.

kimmyberly26 · April 2014

Just board is definitely more like home than my BMB. I don't post much on either but I feel comfortable posting over here and nor so much over there unless its part of our weekly PGAL check-in.

amwangel · April 2014

AMEN! So much more love over here.

2redtulips · April 2014

voplo said:
One thing I love is that we really celebrate every step of our little ones life, because (sadly) we understand how precious and fragile it is.

Yes! The celebration is so important, I think.

SoxFan777 · April 2014

Wow... I thought I would into on my BMB but this post seems to ask me why I should bother? It's so sad but I've seen that on thebump before, too... Probably why I stuck to ttcal instead of TTC.... I haven't been on there in probably a year, but there were some MEAN GIRLS on there... One in particular who I think LOOKED for opportunities to be mean, because that's all she ever was... Sad to live life like that, though, ya know? I'll stay here. My safe space...

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