I am at the end of my rope here. LO is almost 3 and bedtime is a nightmare. It's 9:00 and she is still crying and going on.
I teach in an inner city HS and that takes so much of my energy. Even with a routine bedtime is a mess. We do snack, bath, brush teeth, 2 books and lights out. She is stalling at every turn and as much as I try sometimes I just loose my patience. Thing is that she needs 10-11 hrs of sleep otherwise she is a grouch in the morning.
I let her pick books.... She changes her mind after the first page or will take forever to even choose one in the first place. She does not sleep in her bed, she usually sleeps on her floor or on the couch in her room. Tonight she kept going back and forth between the 3. I really don't care but I want her to lay down somewhere. Tonight she couldn't find her Dora book. I can't find it. She is over tired, I am over grouchy, no Dora book, she is running all over the place.
Finally I shut her in her room to give myself a few seconds break. She tried to break the door down. I literally know what it feels like to want to beat your child. I will never do it, but I understand why it happens. When she took off her PJs and peed on the floor I broke down crying.
I love my kid, but I can not do this on my own. X is never around, and when he does take her she comes back worse because he lets her do whatever she wants.
I just need to vent. And cry. And have a beer. And cry some more.

Re: I can't do this anymore
I don't really have any advice but know that my 3 year old tests me and boundaries all.day.long. It is exhausting being the only one have to fight those boundaries and make sense of the world.
For a time, we out those plastic door knob safety things over the handles, taped them shut real good so he couldn't open them, and took out the light bulbs so he had nothing else to do but find his way to bed eventually. And we started earlier so that he would fall asleep at a half decent hour.
Good luck. I know what you are going through!
Edit: typo
What really sucks is that she will go to bed without a peep or fight for anyone else. Just me she fights
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