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MeganWordenMeganWorden member
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Ok silly FTM question I am sure. My lo is a great sleeper, at least 4 hour stretches. For naps we are working on not having to sleep on me. So I usually spend 2 hours trying to get him to go down then he naps for at least an hour and we do this twice a day. When he is awake I talk to him and make faces but his favorite thing is to be on his play mat batting at the toys and listening to music. He is perfectly content to sit and play by himself for almost an hour, 2 to 3 times a day. I feel really guilty not engaging with him during these stretches but when I try he will look at me for a bit but then just wants to play again and ignores me. So my silly question, should I try harder to engage him or just let him play as long as he is happy? Do any of you los fo this?

  
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  • worleygirlworleygirl member
    Just talk to him while you do other things. I'm not sitting looking at DD all the time but I'm always talking to her and telling her what I'm doing, plans for the day, etc. Both of my kids loved to sit and look at toys and watch the world.
     
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  • valigrl21valigrl21 member
    If he's happy - I say let him play! Of course you should keep checking on him, and talk to him while you are doing things like @worleygirl suggested but if he's happy, then enjoy a little time to get some things done or relax or take a little time for yourself.
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  • kiki1978kiki1978 member
    I agree with PPs. Enjoy that he keeps himself occupied for awhile and you can get things done, like eating a meal. I really wish my DS would want to play with his toys longer.  He gets sick of all his playthings (Mamaroo, Kick n Play, bouncer, etc.) after about 15 minutes.  
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  • MeganWordenMeganWorden member
    Thanks ladies! And yeah I talk to him or sing to him all day. Dh also reads to him for at least an hour a day (they just started "prince caspian" last night.) I was just having some silly mama guilt over not interacting with my baby every second he is awake.

      
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  • lmills730lmills730 member
    I wish my baby would do this. The most I can get is 5 min. I would say enjoy it and don't feel guilty at all!
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  • bee1916bee1916 member
    I would let him do what he loves! If you want to feel like you're still engaging him, you could talk to him while he plays and acknowledge him when he talks ("You're touching the fuzzy sheep!" "Look at the yellow star!"). That way he's still making connections and you're feeling involved. I would also use some of that time as "mommy time"!
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    peanutmuse said:
    Just some more reassurance -- he might be one of those ones who is easily overstimulated by people and needs his "me" time. You are probably doing him a favor by not trying to get in his personal space all of the time. :)
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