How's life with 2?

-T- · April 2014

I'm getting nervous to TTC. Life with DS is chaotic at times but I love how much attention we can give him. I know we're not done, so ladies, tell me how life with 2 is. I feel like I'd be a first time mom all over again, there's so many things we missed out on with DS so I feel like I'm going to be clueless! How hard is it to go from 1 to 2?

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Ricola · April 2014

So far it's much easier than we thought it'd be. DH works from home though and has very flexible hours, so he helps a lot. He's mainly taking care of Alex, since I am often stuck somewhere nursing Julie. She's a very frequent eater, so that helps me a lot.

I'm really looking forward to the phase in a couple of years, when both are old enough to really play with each other etc. Until then we'll just try to survive and have as much fun as possible ;-)

sportsmomma · April 2014

It was much harder than I thought it would be, honestly. Part of this is that DD is a much more high maintenance baby than DS was. The hardest thing for me is wanting to give 100% to both DS, DD and DH and being unable too, especially while working full-time. I have a lot of guilt about that and yes, like Mtb said, "me" time is non-existent.

All of that being said, the bond I see developing between the 2 kids is amazing! DS just loves kissing DD, "reading" her books, "helping" her play on her playmat, getting her to smile and comforting her when she's upset with kisses, pats and blankies. And DD is a totally different baby than DS which is fun to see how different they can be.

I think I was just naive about it all since DS was so easy and so the beginning was hard, but we're finding our groove!

jesselayne8 · April 2014

The first 5 months were very hard. My second is way more demanding and gets in to way more trouble. He is an earlier walker and at 10 months is already scaling the furniture and teaching his big sister new tricks. My kids started playing together when #2 was 8 months. They now chase each other and wrestle and fight over toys. DD adores her little brother now but she went through a phase about 6 months ago where she bit him constantly. Going from 1-2 was much harder than 0-1. I now realize how different life would be with just one kid and I now understand why people are one and done. All that being said I want another baby!!!!!!

Jen4033 · April 2014

BlueCards said:

It was much harder than I thought it would be, honestly. Part of this is that DD is a much more high maintenance baby than DS was. The hardest thing for me is wanting to give 100% to both DS, DD and DH and being unable too, especially while working full-time. I have a lot of guilt about that and yes, like Mtb said, "me" time is non-existent. All of that being said, the bond I see developing between the 2 kids is amazing! DS just loves kissing DD, "reading" her books, "helping" her play on her playmat, getting her to smile and comforting her when she's upset with kisses, pats and blankies. And DD is a totally different baby than DS which is fun to see how different they can be. I think I was just naive about it all since DS was so easy and so the beginning was hard, but we're finding our groove!

This is exactly us too. The first 10 weeks or so were the hardest for me. I am extremely lucky to have DH home with me the whole time though since he works seasonally. When he goes back to work, I will have to find my new groove of handling dinner etc each night when I get home from work. Colton loves HIS baby Carter & is always wanting to help with him.

Other than that, missing bonding time with DS1 & having time with DH is hard.

Oasismomma · April 2014

It's both harder and easier than I imagined. DH had a week-long business trip last week, so I was alone with both boys for the first time. That was rough, but even that, we survived.

I will say that I felt like a first time mom in the hospital. I forgot how to change a newborn's diaper, how little they really are in the beginning, what it's like to nurse nonstop, etc. A friend of mine is pregnant with her 7th (I KNOW!) baby and she says she feels like a first time mom every time, so I think that's just par for the course.

Every baby is SO different, it really is a matter of getting to know an entirely new personality and figuring out what works for him/her. Like, DS1 would cry bloody murder until we picked him up, while DS2 will cry until we put him down. I was rocking him and bouncing him nonstop because that's what DS1 always wanted...until I figured out that all DS2 wanted was to be put down and now he falls asleep on his own every single time.

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Leap08 · April 2014

For us, going from 1-2 was MUCH easier than going from 0-1. I think a lot of that had to do with the girls' personalities. DD1 was a much more demanding baby. DD2 was very easy. As long as she had a full tummy she was pretty content to just hang out and watch everything. I also think we were clueless when we brought DD1 home. We were nervous about everything and we didn't really have a plan for how to handle things. I think she could sense that and reacted to it. Our nerves made her nervous. Anyway, with DD2 we were much more relaxed and I think that helped her.

I think there's a learning curve for everyone when number 2 comes home. You have to figure out what can wait and what has to be done immediately. And you have to figure out how to give both kids attention at once. It's a juggling act for awhile and then it get easier because you figure out how to do it and because the little one starts to need less attention.

Now, 2 years later, I can't imagine what it would be like to only have 1. The girls play together so well now. It's amazing. And there are very few moments these days when they both need my undivided attention at the same time. Things are still crazy and chaotic at our house, but they're crazy in a different way now.

jesselayne8 · April 2014

@Oasismomma‌ - I felt like that when I gave #2 his first bath at home. I looked at my mom and said "I don't remember how to do this."

Kelly1109 · April 2014

BlueCards said:

It was much harder than I thought it would be, honestly. Part of this is that DD is a much more high maintenance baby than DS was. The hardest thing for me is wanting to give 100% to both DS, DD and DH and being unable too, especially while working full-time. I have a lot of guilt about that and yes, like Mtb said, "me" time is non-existent. All of that being said, the bond I see developing between the 2 kids is amazing! DS just loves kissing DD, "reading" her books, "helping" her play on her playmat, getting her to smile and comforting her when she's upset with kisses, pats and blankies. And DD is a totally different baby than DS which is fun to see how different they can be. I think I was just naive about it all since DS was so easy and so the beginning was hard, but we're finding our groove!

That is me to a T! I had a harder time going from 1 to 2. DS was very colicky and didn't STTN until he was like 18 months & still has nights where he wakes up & wants his mommy! (DD was the easiest baby ever and STTN at 6 months & rarely ever wakes up - if she does it's to go potty). However, I love seeing them bond and play together. They are so cute. DS absolutely adores DD. Now that they're older, they have a lot of fun together and I'm so glad I was able to have them as close in age as they are (remember - I'm older - I didn't have a lot of time to wait)

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