Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
shaunessa
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Re: Daycare Hell!
If you're really uncomfortable leaving your child in their care you will want to look for another arrangement or talk to the Director about your concerns.
Is this place licensed? Did they have more infants than the ratio prescribed by state law?
As far as the kids with runny noses, you're going to encounter that anywhere there are groups of children. It's gross but that's just par for the course when you send your kids to daycare. I do think they should be making an effort to keep them clean though. Believe me, your kid will get colds back to back and you will not keep them home over a runny nose, either. Also, some kids get a runny nose when they are teething. Unless the kid is terribly uncomfortable or running a fever they usually go to DC.
My LO started DC January 24th and has since had 5 colds, an ear infection, and pink eye. He's only stayed home with me when he got pink eye because it's terribly contagious, and on another occasion when he was inconsolable because he was so miserable from his cold.
Your LO will get sick at DC, at any DC. Anywhere young kids congregate, your baby is likely to catch something. It could be a birthday party, church daycare, etc. Whatever they don't catch now, they'll get eventually when they start pre-school or kindergarten.
You need to have reasonable expectations. Will your baby get fewer illnesses if they are with a nanny instead of daycare? Probably. Will vaccinating your child protect them from any of the cold and flu viruses floating around? No.
I'm not telling you to accept daycare conditions that make you uncomfortable. However you don't seem like the realities of daycare are something you can accept so perhaps it is better if you consider having someone watch your baby in your home.
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You can't get a vaccine for the common cold or a sinus infection which is most likely why the babies' noses were runny. So if you never want your baby to catch anything, you should just get a nanny. I would start looking now, as the sleeping all the time thing will wear off very soon.
Regarding the bibs. As long as they are being washed, no harm, no foul. I would actually be thankful since you won't have to lug home dirty bibs every day (and they get particularly nasty once you introduce solids).
The bump. Most places I know require a call for any injury above the neck. I highly doubt that you were completely aware of the happenings. However, it is easy enough to enquire. See what their policy is and then mention what you observed. It is possible the teachers were being irresponsible. More likely you didn't see/hear all.
Finally, regarding the number of kids. Are they keeping ratio? Were they older toddlers visiting from another room? Ask if you have concerns.
Bottom line, you are being overly dramatic about some things but others may be cause for concern. Rather than making assumptions you should speak up and ask. It will make you better informed so you can make a good decision.
Sure you can but I'll tell you now that if you keep chasing an impossible goal you will never allow yourself to get comfortable with daycare.