VENT: BFing Side-eye

HOLL1WOOD · March 2014

Does anyone else get the side-eye from other people when they find out you're still BFing? It seems like over the last month, several people have made comments about it and it's really annoying. "You're STILL breastfeeding? Aren't you ready to be DONE with that? Isn't your baby ONE now? She can have regular milk now, you know!" Yes, I do know. And we will transition when we are ready but for right now, we're both happy and healthy so that's what's important to me. I'm realizing that people will always find something to judge about your parenting choices. 8-|

flummadiddle85 · March 2014

Pinkie78 said:

I can never understand why people think it's their business to judge on these types of things. If you were doing something to harm your baby it's one thing but I think everyone knows BF is good for babies.

not everyone knows the benefits of extended BF, or the WHO recommendation. I haven't gotten any comments. My SIL tagged me in a buzzfeed thing though, like 20 weirdest products for parents or something. There were a couple of BF things on there that kinda annoyed me. One was the BF commemorative necklace with your BM in it. The other was a BF doll. The doll really annoyed me. It's apparently weird to let your kid learn that breasts can feed babies. I guessi'm a weird parent.

lars1226 · March 2014

Congrats on making it to a year and beyond!

People can be so funny about BF, it's good good good until age one then suddenly you're a weirdo for continuing. Extended BF is pretty common among my friends and family so most people have been supportive. Though I'm sure I'll start to hear more negative comments after he turns one next week.

Jbunny100 · March 2014

I've gotten the same thing from a few people. Every time my mother and I talk she says "so you're not breastfeeding anymore are you??" Yeah I am. Get over it.

mhickey426 · March 2014

People always have something to say. I give you credit for being able to bf for so long. Whatever is right for you and your baby is amazing.

DanandVan · March 2014

Buckle up, cause its about to get worse. People find a way to tell you how to parent about everything! My sister (single, owns two dogs) gives me parenting advice she uses for her dogs. Ok, thanks, haha!
Just ignore it all, and trust your instincts. You're doing what is best for your baby! I never understand people who think they need to wean on baby's 1st bday!

shellmh · March 2014

I got a comment at DS's birthday party last weekend. It was kinda indirectly asked. I was bf-ing him on the couch, and someone asked "So, um, what percentage of his intake is still breast milk?", in a tone like why was I breastfeeding him during the day... shouldn't he be eating food instead? I happily commented that his daily feedings are 75% milk and 25% food and that he's perfectly healthy

SarahRae85 · March 2014

I'm actually getting it in reverse. I do plan on weaning once DS turns 1 and when I dare to complain about how difficult it's going to be, since he's so attached to the boob, I get peppered with questions about why I want to wean and why I don't want to just let him keep nursing and don't I know the benefits to extended nursing and all the other questions.

Or I get the guilt trip from people who couldn't nurse with similar ideas of how I should appreciate that I can do it, etc.

Just let me parent my way, you parent yours.

HOLL1WOOD · March 2014

Glad to know I'm not the only one with this issue! I'm with all of you - I have a hard time biting my tongue and not telling people to butt out. Guess we'd better get a thick skin because I'm sure the judgments won't stop here.

poppyc8 · March 2014

I've had tons of negative comments directed towards extended breast feeding to me as well. At work my boss (a women) said 'youre not going to be one of those weird moms who continues breast feeding past 1 are you?' I was caught so off guard that I think I just ignored her question.

rm2013 · March 2014

Whew! Glad to know I'm not the only one OP! LO turned 1 last week and I don't really have plans to stop. My biggest concern is just trying to transition her to a straw cup (of breast milk) instead of a bottle. I'm just hoping it wont get a little awkward at daycare because it will be easier to spill and then that calls for a hazmat team

one prospective daycare I considered told me they won't even allow breast milk in a sippy or straw cup. Needless to say we didn't go with them!

MrsG071809 · April 2014

I have definitely been asked a few times how long I'm going to continue, and my response is always as long as she wants to! It doesn't hurt her, only benefits her, so why should I stop?! And I want to add, remind me why it's your business how I feed my baby??

@rm2013 I am in the same boat with trying to move from a bottle. no luck so far here! that's hilarious about daycare...and also ridiculous. My DD is with my mom so luckily she is fine with milk in a sippy, it's just DD that doesn't like it!

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