Tuesday vent

TittsMcGee · April 2014

I know I haven't posted a lot lately but I need to vent.

We had H's cousin over on Sunday and they have a 5 y/o. I was watching my friends 7 year old and they were all playing downstairs.

All of a sudden I hear DS shriek and start crying. I ran downstairs and he was crying hysterically.

I asked what happened and my friends 7 y/o said that the 5 y/o slapped DS because DS knocked over the blocks he built. I was so pissed and upset. It took a good 15 minutes for DS to calm down.

This is not the first time he has hit DS and pushed him. He doesn't like younger kids and will hit/push them any chance he gets. H was upset as well and told his cousin that we don't feel comfortable with his kid around DS.

He tried to play it off and told us that they're just being kids but I feel like a 5 year old, he will be 6 in August, should know better.

I couldn't help but think that he will turn into a bully and that's one of my biggest fears for when DS starts school.

I know I am probably overreacting but I just needed to vent.

ETA; DS is 2.5.

JackoftheBox · April 2014

Umm I totally agree that a basically 6 year old should know better. And he would have had to slap him pretty hard for him to cry uncontrollably b/c i know at DS's daycare they shove ect for things but i have never seen anyone cry. I'm surprised his parents weren't more concerned. Did they punish him?

TittsMcGee · April 2014

JackoftheBox said:

Umm I totally agree that a basically 6 year old should know better. And he would have had to slap him pretty hard for him to cry uncontrollably b/c i know at DS's daycare they shove ect for things but i have never seen anyone cry. I'm surprised his parents weren't more concerned. Did they punish him?

The mom gave him a talk and told him she was very upset and they went home shortly after that.

His dad is kind of a jerk who couldn't care any less how his child behaves.

Ugh it irks me that parents don't talk to their kids about this kind of behavior more.

TittsMcGee · April 2014

Priss08 said:

A 6 year old hitting a 2.5 year old hard enough to make him cry like that seems way out of line. Is there a reason he dislikes smaller kids so much?

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They have a 8 month old as well and his mom said he's really jealous of the baby.

The 5 y/o's aunt also complained about him hitting her 4 year old. He basically picks on kids younger than him but gets along with kids his age or older than him.
So this wasn't the first time he's hit a younger child.

I was upset as well and the fact he's done this before (H hid it from me) upset me even more.
We just agreed that we cannot leave DS unsupervised with him anymore and H told his cousin that.

KatieB19 · April 2014

Wow I would be so upset too. Hopefully it's all just related to jealousy over his younger sibling and it will work itself out over time.

PB102012 · April 2014

I would be pissed too! I don't think you are overreacting at all.

meo34 · April 2014

Wow! I can't believe that. Count me in for not overreacting. I would never ever in a million years tolerate someone doing that to my child or allow my child to behave in that way. I have over the years witnessed other kids behaving like this. And usually the kids acting like this have parents who don't correct the behave....no surprise . Even if it hasn't been DS if the parent doesn't say anything to the child I do. Not really in a discipling way but I will make commentary about how unaccecptable that type of behaviour is. Pretty sure it doesn't sink it but at least I can make it known I don't approve.

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