WWYD: Work Clicky Poll! Update

elsa1688 · April 2014

My boss is being "rampagey" and will be until I leave (it's our busy season). I am not returning so do not need to worry about using maternity leave. I have already said I'm leaving on June 5 (39 weeks) but am considering moving it to May 8th (35 weeks). I don't want to spend the last month stressed out because of my boss. I also don't feel comfortable working the event we have over Memorial Day weekend. WWYD?

Update in comments.

ashanne88 · April 2014

I agree-if money isn't a concern, I'd save yourself the stress and leave earlier. Work stress is the last thing you need!

wtfisup · April 2014

Financial ramifications?

coffee89 · April 2014

If you can swing the finances then I say leave. Just try to leave on the best possible note and not just drop a bunch of unfinished work and walk out since you may need the reference in the future (and presumably don't want to screw over your non-sucky coworkers)

ElTrain5 · April 2014

If finances are not an issue I'd give them two weeks notice and peace out.

elsa1688 · April 2014

Finances are not a factor, we have prepared to go down to one salary so it wouldn't be a big hit.

I figure a month notice is enough time to prepare. It will be hard for someone to just walk in at this point (5 person company & busy season) but not anymore more difficult than in June

AandJ28 · April 2014

I agree that if finances aren't an issue, then leave in May. Is there an option for you to stay the extra 4 weeks and not work the event over Memorial Day weekend? Just curious as this would be a factor for me in this decision.

nunzchucks · April 2014

I'm with @Tdonatoni‌ and @lizardbreath14‌. If you'll need a future reference, you need to honor your original commitment. I am sorry that your boss is sucking.

elsa1688 · April 2014

Eh, I'm the event coordinator so I can't miss the event. There is a chance they would bring someone on earlier to replace me but no guarantee. I'm not planning on returning for a few year and ideally will be self employed. I don't think it would burn any bridges, if I felt like that was a possibility I would stay.

Thanks for all the advice ladies!

k2k2tog · April 2014

Another vote for leaving if you can afford it. If you don't have to, there's no point in putting yourself - and baby! - through the stress. Like the others said, try not to burn any bridges as you leave!

Pepper6 · April 2014

If finances aren't an issue and you really hate your job right now, then I'd go ahead an leave earlier than planned. As a way to maybe not burn too many bridges, perhaps you can tell them that you underestimated the effect that your job is having on your pregnancy and don't feel comfortable continuing with your level of responsibility and feel it would be more beneficial for both you and the company to get someone trained and in your position sooner than expected. If you word it in a way that makes this a health concern for you, and keeping the companies best interest in mind for them...then it looks more 'professional' than just saying your boss is an ass and you don't feel like dealing with it anymore when you don't have to.

elsa1688 · April 2014

@KrystaJ‌ it's just who he is. He gets stressed and flustered and takes it out on staff. Everyone in the office knows it but he owns the company so what can you do?

Update: I'm choosing not to react in anger and give a hard date, but I am talking to HR today. Basically, I'm saying what @Pepper6‌ said: I've underestimated the challenges of pregnancy, I don't feel able to work the event over Memorial Day and I would like to leave earlier than anticipated. I will honor my original date but feel it would be in the companies best interest to bring someone on earlier.

Thanks for all the help ladies. The hormones have made my already short BS tolerance pretty much nonexistent. I get heated so quickly, thanks for all the great advice.

ELC252011 · April 2014

I agree with PP if your not going to get paid and money isn't an issue I would leave as soon as I could. You do not need the added stress especially from work. I'm having work issues as well and would love to just leave now. Good luck

katekat8721 · April 2014

elsa1688 said:

Finances are not a factor, we have prepared to go down to one salary so it wouldn't be a big hit. I figure a month notice is enough time to prepare. It will be hard for someone to just walk in at this point (5 person company & busy season) but not anymore more difficult than in June

All this - I'd leave!

Katieluc106 · April 2014

When I was pregnant with DD1 I left work around 35 weeks. I worked as a preschool teacher (talk about stress!) and I actually went back part time to cover breaks until I went into labor because I was sooooo bored!!! Not having any thing to do made it go by so slow!
Just my experience

whoberry · April 2014

I answered SS because what are you doing to do for a month? I think I would be bored and miserable at home with nothing to do. As stressful as work may be now, knowing you are leaving permanently should make it more tolerable. People I know who stopped working before their due date with no kids at home were driving themselves nuts waiting to go into labor. It seems to get really miserable at the end so I think I'd want to be at work to distract myself from the discomforts and the waiting. Good luck.

MSUMands · April 2014

I'm a big proponent of stress free pregnancy and go to great lengths to be in avoid people/places/situations that are stressful. Sounds like your boss is a good person to avoid. I would leave early if I could.