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To Avoid a Mommy War...Need to Vent

PSU_TexanPSU_Texan member
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I don't want to start a mommy war, so I'm venting here rather than going off on the other party.  I'm so tired of some of the stay at home moms at my kid's school having no regard for the work schedule.  No, I cannot attend an end of the year party at 4 pm on a Tuesday.  And since I volunteered to help plan and you didn't, I think you should suck it up and attend on the Friday of the last week of school at 4 pm.  I know that Thursday is the last day of school but are there really that many people going out of town one day later?  And I know "protocol" is to have the party before the school year ends but really, one day?  I know that people don't like to spend their Friday nights/weekends doing kid crap, but guess what, that's the phase of life we're in.  I'm trying to be accommodating to all by having it on a Friday at 4 pm.  So unless you want to supervise all the kids with working parents, work with me, ok?

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  • VORVOR member
    Ok. - I'm sorry, but I have to ask.  What's the difference between Friday at 4 and Tuesday at 4?
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  • ASmallWonderASmallWonder member
    Ditto @vor because a weeknight at 4 pm is a weeknight at 4 pm and has nothing to do with working or SAHM. Also, it's weird to have an end of year party after the last day.  The very last day of school is filled with hugs and goodbyes and "have a great summer!" and all that shit.
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  • PSU_TexanPSU_Texan member

    Fridays are more like the weekend in my opinion.  I would get less of a side eye from my boss to leave early on a Friday than a Tuesday... also, less meetings are scheduled late on a Friday

     

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  • PSU_TexanPSU_Texan member
    Ok, so maybe I'm being irrational... I can take it.  I just get frustrated that a certain set of moms feels like they get to dictate everything... just roll with it.  It's more about I'm planning it so unless it's a real issue, get over it.
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  • snicksnacksnicksnack member
    Where is the party?  Can you have the party at the school once school is over?  Just wondering.  Not to take sides but in the summer we go away on weekends and often leave Friday night so I can see how Friday on the last week of school would not work for some.
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  • itsmevkbitsmevkb member

    As a working mom, the 4pm start time on day weeknight would annoy me.  And Fridays are actually harder for me to get off because everyone wants to leave early on Fridays.

    But, like you said, it would seem that perhaps the issue is more that you volunteered to plan it, they didn't and now they want some say in it and I agree with you there, they just need to go with whatever it is you plan.

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  • MommyAttyMommyAtty member
    You plan. You pick! And what's up with you having to plan? All I hear from SAHM friends is how grateful working moms should be because they pick up for us slackers who never do anything for school. (That comment always annoys the crap out of me, so I just couldn't resist.)
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  • PSU_TexanPSU_Texan member
    Right?  I know, but I like to participate in something and this should have been relatively easy.  Pick the date, reserve the splash pad/pool, buy pizza and cupcakes, collect the money...  I personally wanted a say in the date so I volunteered.  I'm just thankful my boss is super understanding of kid activities... I personally just hate running out of the office early.
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    PSU_Texan said:  Right?  I know, but I like to participate in something and this should have been relatively easy.  Pick the date, reserve the splash pad/pool, buy pizza and cupcakes, collect the money... 


    Welcome to the world of planning!  And also why perhaps the SAHMs aren't readily volunteering anymore.  They know it's not easy.  What time works best for them doesn't work best for you, etc etc etc.  It's IMPOSSIBLE to make everyone happy. 

    And I will say - yes, for me, Friday afternoons would be better than a Tues or Wed.  But.  Clearly that's not the case for everyone - even all working parents. 

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  • *sparky**sparky* member
    I understand that it is easier to get out early on a Friday vs. Tuesday - it is the same in my office. But I would also say having the party on or before the last day of school makes more sense. So in this case I can see why they don't want to have it on Friday.

     

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  • laurakaz13laurakaz13 member

    I do think Fri afternoon are different than Tues afternoons, at least in my workplace.  We do tend to leave a little bit earlier on Fridays when possible, so that would work better for me. 

    I do know that whenever planning an event, regardless of the parent's employment status, the time and day will never satisfy everyone. 

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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    Friday afternoons are terrible for me.  That's one of my busiest times, and I usually work late.  My colleagues are pretty cool about accommodating random kid events.  We cover for each other a lot for this type of stuff.  But the earliest I could plan on being at something, without having to arrange coverage in advance, would be 6 pm any day of the week.
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