waiting to tell the news...

thedjinn88 · March 2014

How many of you are waiting to tell till 12 weeks? My bf would like to tell around 10, with my daughter I was 20 years old and didn't know about the wait till second trimester lol so I told the moment I took the test. I

MrsAdventure · March 2014

With my first pregnancy, I told everyone right away. We had tried for four years so we were over the moon. Unfortunately, that pregnancy did not have a happy ending and so my husband and I got to go through that very publicly, at home, at work, with all our friends and family.

With this pregnancy, we are taking things more cautiously. I wanted to wait until my first appointment before we told anyone, but my husband doesn't do well with surprises, so we waited about a week before he drove me so crazy. So my folks and in-laws know and my best friend knows, but no one outside that. On April 16th I will have tests done that will show whether this baby has the same problems as our Zoë did. So around 11 weeks we will have our answer, and if all is well, we will announce around 12 weeks. Fingers crossed.

thedjinn88 · March 2014

I will wait till after my first appt with my midwife for sure, my cousin is also pregnant, two days behind me actually lol. But she has miscarried twice so I don't want to announce it too soon and kind if rub it in her face

but I also don't want to damper or excitement either.

Helenahhandbasket · March 2014

We told my family at 8w.

Work and the rest of our family/ friends after my NT scan at 12w.

It's not a "rule" that you have to wait. You tell when you and your SO feel comfortable. I had 2 early losses, so I personally wanted to wait.

soccer4us2013 · March 2014

We have only told our families & our 2 best friends. I am waiting until 12 weeks, just in case anything goes wrong. We would still want the support of our families, so we didn't want to keep it from them.

DH wants to tell everyone and their mothers NOW...pretty sure he's been blabbing at work, but I'm keeping mum on the situation for now.

12bailey18 · March 2014

We waited until 10 weeks this time. Told right away with the other two. There's no right or wrong.

tlc35 · March 2014

We told our parents and siblings right away. We plan to tell friends after first ultrasound and FB/acquaintances/work after NT scan.

Jenrileysmom · March 2014

We waited this time until 16 weeks. That was when I felt comfortable and we already had a successful ultrasound and a couple appointments under our belt

haliebabyx3 · March 2014

There is really no right or wrong answer to this.

We told parents as soon as we found out. Everyone else found out around or after 8 weeks.

WashingtonQueen · March 2014

Do what makes you feel comfortable. We told everyone pretty much right away with our first pregnancy. We waited a while with our second pregnancy just because we liked keeping it to ourselves for a bit.

Rainbow17 · March 2014

We are waiting 12 weeks. Possibly even 14 weeks. I want to make sure everything is running smoothly before we give everyone big news.

angeltennis3 · March 2014

We told parents after our 8 week ultrasound. We're waiting to tell the rest of our family til after my 11 week appointment, which is on April 1, and we hear the heartbeat again. I will start telling friends as I see them for a few weeks.

I plan on telling work at about 12 1/2 weeks.

We won't put anything on social media until probably somewhere between 14 & 16 weeks. I want a chance to tell my friends in person and call family that isn't in town.

thedjinn88 · March 2014

Thanks ladies,I know it's not a rule to wait,I just was seeing when other women like to.we will most likely tell at 10 weeks.after we tell family and close friends.thank you for your input

coffee89 · March 2014

We kept it to ourselves until around week 8 when we told our parents and my sister. At that point we had seen a heartbeat. We went public with extended family and friends closer to week 12.

We had just gone through a m/c so we didn't want to share until we knew things were looking better than the previous.

MrsMac613 · March 2014

We are telling everyone our family next weekend which will be about 12.5 weeks. I will wait until 14-16 to tell my job.

futuremrandmrsrioux · April 2014

We told our families and best friends when we found out. We're waiting to tell the rest of the world after 12 weeks. With this being our first pregnancy I want to be sure that everything is looking good before it's public knowledge.

history12 · April 2014

We told our parents the day we got our BFP, as well as my sister. I told co-workers because the morning/all-day sickness and fatigue was pretty obvious. We've told some close friends and others, but haven't made a big announcement (Facebook or whatever) because we're waiting until our first appointment and u/s next week. We originally planned to wait to tell anyone until 12 weeks, but after feeling so physically miserable the last couple of weeks, I find it helps a little to be able to share that we're expecting and see people's excitement. Helps me fight through the nausea, etc. But no right/wrong way to tell...just tell who you want, when you want.

Celticlass6 · April 2014

We're waiting to tell our immediate family until after our first appointment and u/s. That being said, my best friend knows already. It was too hard to hide at a night out with her.

We plan to wait to tell everyone else until at least 12 weeks. Ideally I'd like to wait until the scan is done as I have some family history I'm slightly concerned about. If it gets too hard to hide though I'll let people know. I'd want their support if something were to happen.

happyhorse · April 2014

I agree with several people, in my opinion, it's all about what feels right to you and your significant other.

We told only close family and friends at 8 weeks. We planned to wait to tell coworkers and regular friends until after the first round screenings for abnormalities were done and the 2nd trimester was started. We were figuring around 13 weeks for the official announcement.

But around 10 or 11 weeks people started asking me or my husband or just walking up to us and saying "Congratulations!" Boy could that have been awkward if we weren't expecting!

They'd either noticed that I a) wasn't drinking b) had a little belly pooch going whereas I've always been slim and athletic c) we were going to the doctor together.

So kind of a warning there I guess, some people might notice and say something. Boy if I were them I sure wouldn't, it's kind of not my business until someone makes it official to tell me, but hey, you can't change some folks.

So anyhow, we gave up on waiting until 13 weeks and started telling people around 11 since most had guessed by that point.

LadyCheena · April 2014

I haven't even told my husband. Our second pregnancy 21/2 years ago was a miscarriage and he took it really hard. We currently have a 5 year old who takes a lot of our attention - thankfully. No has noticed any of my symptoms. I am waiting for the doctor appt at 8 weeks to see what they say. Even then I may wait until 10 weeks to tell him. I just want to be sure everything is fine before I release the news. My sister and best friend are my emergency contacts right now.

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