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13 months- need some sleep help

Mmm79Mmm79 member
edited April 2014 in Parenting after a Loss

So A has always been a typical to good sleeper. I always looked at this as the trade off for his crappy napping ways.  He had been doing 7pm to 5am- with the occasional wake up, but he was easy to settle down again and then we wouldn't hear from him again.  He started sleeping like this last September- and we had a good run until 12 months.  And holy hell has it gotten bad. 

In the past month he's cut two new bottom teeth and had hand, foot, mouth disease.  I attributed the awful sleep patter to these things.  There were some nights where he'd be up every hour- it was like having a newborn.  Typically to get him to resettle DH or I would go in there and pick him up, rock or bounce him for a few minutes then put him back down awake and he would resettle.  Some nights he'd go back to sleep for the rest of the night, but on a few occasions it was just an awful cycle throughout the night.  Then about a week or so ago, he seemed to be returning to normal, but the last few nights have been increasingly rougher.  The baby that used to settle down into bed following his bedtime routine now requires 2-3 return trips to settle him down.  And in the past week, he has turned on DH who can no longer soothe him.  If DH goes in there, A gets more upset until I finally go in.  Typically, I can get him to resettle in a few minutes.  Yesterday, after talking with his DC provider about the crappy sleep, she and I guessed he was cutting another tooth.  So we gave him advil at bedtime.  It did not help.  He took 3 tries to settle down by 7:15, then was up at 8:30, 9:30, 11:30, 12am and by that point, I couldn't get him to settle down.  He'd be quite for a minute or so after I left and then start crying again.  Rinse, repeat.  Finally at 1am we brought him into our bed- something we have never done before.  The crying stopped.  But of course he tossed and turned so DH and I got very little sleep.  SO this morning, I am thinking that it's not a tooth or pain- because he went from inconsolable and crying to calm as soon as he was near me- and maybe a separation anxiety thing.  But I am not sure how to fix this.  I want my good sleeper back! 

 

Do you ladies have any advice, suggestions, insight, etc?

   

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Re: 13 months- need some sleep help

  • ProfessorPedals825ProfessorPedals825 member
    I'll be stalking this thread.  Phoebe does the same, and we've just decided to put her in bed with us every night.  She kicks and flails in her sleep, but at least we're right there if she needs anything.  This morning at 4am, she decided to stand up and bounce on me for a few minutes then lay back down and snuggle in.

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  • Mmm79Mmm79 member
    edited April 2014
    esd said:
    About that age is when I decided to try a modified CIO. His sleeping had gotten so bad and it was affected everyone else in the house too. It took about a week but he finally started sleeping better.
    What did modified CIO look like?  A now immediately stands up in his crib when he starts to cry, so I don't know how he will settle down.

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  • NBBride05NBBride05 member
    I will also be watching this thread. Miss A used to STTN until January when she started waking up crying in the middle of the night and standing up in her crib. If I don't go to her immediately she cries louder so I don't know how CIO would work. Thankfully DH and I can take turns going to her. We sit down on a chair with her and she settle right in for a snuggle. Then falls right back to sleep. That works for us. It has gotten better now and we have certain nights she will sleep all night. Last night she was up 4-5 times. I think it has to do with teething, but will be seeing what everyone posts here.
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