Well that FB status escalated.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

If you're friends with me go look. If not then the recap is my brother despite the five losses his ex had thought my post was stupid and I'm a fun killer and the type of person that leads to the trophies for everyone mentality.

PrimRoseMama · April 2014

Holy hell.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

It actually got pretty heated and sad.

cuterusaurus · April 2014

Realizing I don't know who my bump friends on Facebook are... hah.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

This is it in a nutshell. I'm not sure how he coped with his losses but I'm surprised by him.

Brother: This is so stupid. For all those with a stick so firmly suck up your anus, please bend over and, in order to keep the pain at a minimum, quickly pull it out.

Me: Well I would think that as someone who has seen miscarriage firsthand and the pain it can cause I thought you would be more sensitive to it. I'm sorry if my miscarriage has caused me to be more considerate of others going through that kind of pain and therefore makes me more vocal. Apparently there at least 35 others that feel that way as well.

Brother: It's not about being sensitive to the feelingss of others, it's about being so stuck up that you feel the need to chastise those of us who can cope with that loss by trying to take away a little fun. People like you and the "35" other yentas who agree with you are the reason why every child gets a trophy with their juice box & fruit snacks. Grieve anyway you see fit and if you need help, I'll be the first one there to help, but don't take away my fun. Don't forget either that I've been through 5 of them myself & one after 6 months in the womb. I know what I'm talking about.

Me: I think we will just disagree about whether or not it's a funny joke. I don't believe everyone should get a trophy but I do think people should be compassionate about such a heart wrenching thing as infertility and the loss of a baby. I'm actually very surprised you find it in the least bit funny considering your loss history. I hope never to make light of your personal heartache.

He didn't respond.

PrimRoseMama · April 2014

Meimsx said:
It actually got pretty heated and sad.

Here's what I don't understand. It's not like folks advocating for no fake-pg-pranks are killjoys. It's really not funny-- like ever. It's lame.

I've got a great sense of humor but joking about pg is not funny. :-??

Lelo2006 · April 2014

What's the joke? I'm confused. Sorry you're fighting with your brother.

cuterusaurus · April 2014

Yikes. He hasn't actually dealt with it or he attempts to bury sad under funny. What was your post that started this?

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

@Lelo2006‌ this was my status.

Lelo2006 · April 2014

Ohh. Now I see. It is extremely dumb when women do that. I'm sorry

cuterusaurus · April 2014

Yeah. I'm with you on this one.

reallylongusername · April 2014

Meimsx said:

@Lelo2006‌ this was my status.

I would've shared your status.

emmanemm · April 2014

Yeah, I read it as it was going down and just kept shaking my head.

EagleWife · April 2014

Sorry that you got that lame reaction. I would have shared your status, too. And thanks for the reminder that tomorrow is April 1.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

I don't think it's so much that as he doesn't want people to tell him what he can or can't do. He thinks I'm condescending or something. He is one of those people (and most of the time I am too) that thinks people need a thicker skin and you choose to be offended. You don't have to take everything to heart and be a bleeding heart. However, this is one of those things that is very close to me and sadly I know way too many people that are suffering from pregnancy loss or infertility and it just hurts too much and isn't funny. Most pranks I don't get offended over. Like I told him, I'm surprised he doesn't get where I'm coming from.

queenbone · April 2014

Wow. I would not expect a reaction like that given his history.

And this is a good reminder for me to stay off fb tomorrow. I HATE these posts.

fabk · April 2014

I amm sorry he decided to take your post the way he did.

MRads · April 2014

I hate pranks, in general, but this is a prank that just makes no sense. I'm sorry your brother went off on you.

valstulas · April 2014

He can choose whichever way he wants to deal with his grief, but he should be sensitive to other people, especially his sister.

jemasa33 · April 2014

That is so ignorant. I'm sorry you have to deal with that nonsense. You responded very well though. He looks like an ass.

kaylakim · April 2014

I saw that, yikes! Your response is perfect and I can't believe your own brother would say such nasty stuff especially with his loss history.

lrichmond86 · April 2014

I'm glad you posted that. .. I was considering posting it myself. No offense, your brother sounds like an idiot. Idk how anyone could fee offended by your post.

Stina2012 · April 2014

I guess I'm not sure why it's necessary.

I've literally never had any friends pull this prank on FB. I'm shocked people would actually pull this as a prank. And glad that no one in my circle would pull this.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

After thinking about it all night and this morning I think I know why he reacted this way. I think he and his new wife were planning on pulling this prank. I think that's where this whole "don't chastise others" thing is coming from. Because now I ruined their April fools day joke. Sorry not sorry.

KikiCohen · April 2014

Wow. I think it's really sad that he can't wrap his head around where you're coming from. Ridiculous.

hollandmama · April 2014

lizabethann06 said:

That's really sad. As a total stranger my first thought is that your brother is grieving through anger - and having a very difficult time acknowledging his heartbreak. Sometimes it's easier to lash out in a jerky way rather than admit how we really feel.
I was thinking this too. Sorry Meismx.

Me too... but as meimsx said, you still need to think about others

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

Honestly I'm just sad for him. It brought up my pain from my loss but I'm sure it brought up his too.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

Yeah that would be him. But we worked all of that out and after he got everything into the garage it was obvious he needed our help. It's packed. Still annoying but whatever.

Carrie3102 · April 2014

You know I read this and thought that he may be trying to pull that joke, then I thought... why in the world would you do that to your family? Sheesh.

giraffeluvspi · April 2014

Team Meimsx!

Married071709 · April 2014

I've deleted a few people for pregnancy jokes. They aren't always on 4/1 either. It's stupid and sad to joke about it. I'm mad/sad for you.

Stina2012 · April 2014

ncchnat said:

Stina2012 said:

I guess I'm not sure why it's necessary.

I've literally never had any friends pull this prank on FB. I'm shocked people would actually pull this as a prank. And glad that no one in my circle would pull this.

Then you're lucky. I have friends over a large age range (some cousins still in high school) and over the ten years I've been on FB (starting when I was in college myself), a lot of people have done this, at least one every year. I didn't think it was funny before my loss, but since, it just pisses me off to no end.

ETA: April Fool's Day 2012 was a month after we lost William David. I had been on a FB break, but came back a few days before that. Three of my friends decided it was a good prank. It was hard enough seeing legit ones. Fake ones had me literally crying. Admittedly, I was still very raw, but it hurt like hell.

That totally sucks.

Yeah, my groups just don't do that stuff.

opheliainwaders · April 2014

@meimsx I think, despite everything, you guys might appreciate my sister's status:

On April Fools Day, it is apparently typical for wives to tell their husbands, "I'm pregnant." However, it was far more entertaining when I received a lovely bouquet of flowers from my husband today, with a note that said, "I'm pregnant." I wonder if it will be a Hulk or an Arnold.

sparkymcgeee · April 2014

That would be epic.

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