Does anyone feel like their husband is not ready for baby? This is #2 for us and all I can think about is getting ready for baby and baby actually being here. My husband doesn't really have much to say about it. He was even wondering why we are having a baby shower (this is a girl and we have a boy). I know men are different but I wish he was acting a little more excited. He says he is excited but just ready for it to be here. So I'm trying not to talk about it a whole lot so maybe he won't be sick of hearing about the same thing from me. Haha Anyone else feel the same way?
I'd wonder why you were having a 2nd shower too, but to each their own. My DH is like yours in that it will hit him when she is here. He is excited but he doesn't get to experience the pregnancy like us, so it'll be more exciting for them when the baby arrives.
What's wrong with having a diaper shower for a second baby? I'm going from a boy to a girl so it's like starting all over with some things. My sister wanted to give me one so who am I to tell her no.
My DH doesn't show excitement like I do. He says he can't wait, but some of his actions tells me he isn't ready for his life to change completely. I hope once baby arrives he'll show more excitement. This is our first.
What's wrong with having a diaper shower for a second baby? I'm going from a boy to a girl so it's like starting all over with some things. My sister wanted to give me one so who am I to tell her no.
What's wrong with having a diaper shower for a second baby? I'm going from a boy to a girl so it's like starting all over with some things. My sister wanted to give me one so who am I to tell her no.
Girls (babies in general) don't care if they use items that were previously used for a child of the opposite sex.
I'm not going to get into too much of the shower etiquette thing, but your logic is flawed. If you're having a girl and already have a boy, you don't need a diaper shower at all. Boys and girls wear the same diapers.
Why do I post things on here? Isn't this supposed to be for support to talk to other moms? Do you think I have left over diaper from my first baby? You guys are assholes. I'm deleting my account.
I'm a Ftm due May 1. I don't understand the deal with having showers for each baby. Its something we do in my family. People don't always register but we always have food, sweets and presents for the new baby.
I don't even know what you mean "go here". Is this a middle school or something ?? Some of you people are so judgmental
I think she is referring to the fact that anyone who spends any amount of time on TB at all knows that 2nd showers are generally frowned upon and that "but I am having a different sex" is also not an excuse that generally is viewed around here as necessitating a second shower.
Personally, I don't care whether you have a second shower or not--your life not mine--but having a baby of a different sex doesn't really require that you purchase all new baby items like having a baby for the first time does. You should be able to re-use most of the items--i.e. car seats, strollers, high chairs, jumpers, toys, carriers, pump, bottles, etc.
Edit: I will also add that I don't think it is a "judgment" reserved exclusively to The Bump. In general, I think most people frown on second showers from an etiquette stand point unless there is some exceptional circumstance like having a decade between babies or a house fire or something.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
Well, I'm not sure what you need to "start over" with just because baby is the opposite sex as your first, other than clothes?
Regardless, Both my husband and I are basically feeling like your husband is so I don't really have any insight. Having been there done that, I'm not really into all the prep like I was the first time around. It is what it is.
Why do I post things on here? Isn't this supposed to be for support to talk to other moms? Do you think I have left over diaper from my first baby? You guys are assholes. I'm deleting my account.
This thread is hitting all of the spots on the Bingo card.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
What's wrong with having a diaper shower for a second baby? I'm going from a boy to a girl so it's like starting all over with some things. My sister wanted to give me one so who am I to tell her no.
And it's definitely everyone's responsibility and obligation to buy all that stuff for you. A second time. I have no idea why your husband isn't more on board with it.
Why do I post things on here? Isn't this supposed to be for support to talk to other moms? Do you think I have left over diaper from my first baby? You guys are assholes. I'm deleting my account.
Check off "Isn't this suppose to be for support?" on your bingo cards ladies.
You can check off "You guys are assholes" and "I'm deleting my account" too. Hay-zeus, I almost have BINGO from this post alone.
FWIW @Gmom2010 - second showers never go over well here. Just because you're going from girl to boy doesn't entitle you to have yet another shower or to require people to spend more money on you and your kids. If they want to buy you a gift, SUPER, but being an AW is eye-roll worthy for sure. And because you don't have diapers left from kid #1, other people should be forced to buy them for you? No. It's your kid. Buy your own diapers.
Also, you can't delete your account. Like, ever. You can go ahead and not sign in, or not post, or whatever you want, but it's not possible to delete your account.
Staying on track here.... I think DH is ready to have a child (our first) and do the parenting thing but he also just told me he doesn't want to cut the cord and that he's really nervous about L&D. The cord thing is fine with me I wud rather him be honest but it looks like I'm def going to need to depend in someone else. I don't see him being a good coach which sucks bc I really want him there. We have our childbirth class this wkend so hopefully that helps. I feel ya
Married 5/5/12 ~ Miscarried @ 6wks 7/1/13 ~ Has Pacemaker ~ Due May 7th
I had my shower a few weeks ago and not 1 single person bought us diapers. I've been laying awake at nights worrying that I'd have to be one of those weird diperless trend moms and then boom I had an epiphany! We could just buy them ourselves. Now if we have a second kid in a few years time I can save myself from all the worry by just buying everything we need from the start.
Why do I post things on here? Isn't this supposed to be for support to talk to other moms? Do you think I have left over diaper from my first baby? You guys are assholes. I'm deleting my account.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Why do I post things on here? Isn't this supposed to be for support to talk to other moms? Do you think I have left over diaper from my first baby? You guys are assholes. I'm deleting my account.
aw OP, you seem to be confused yourself about this second shower you're apparently having. You're calling it a diaper shower and mention needing diapers but also talking about how you need different things because it's a girl. One has nothing to do with the other but nice try.
I agree with @ISeeYouRN. What do you even do with that many diapers?
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
Well that was fun. Anyway, can't relate. DH is way prepared and I'm still trying to figure out why we decided to have another kid and not be scared to having two. Maybe a second shower would help all the pieces fall into place for me. I should probably throw it myself too.
Re: Husband ready?
For serious, do you even go here?
DD born 2/3/03
BFP 3/21/13 w/ EDD 12/02/13, C/P 3/29/13.
BFP 9/18/13 w/ EDD 5/26/14,
Beta #1 @ 14-16dpo = 375, progesterone 33.6
Beta #2 @ 20-22 dpo = 8,782!
Beta #3 @ 27-29dpo = 44,230, dx subchorionic hemorrhage/ threatened mc
Beta #4 @ 29-31dpo = 72, 080
Grow, little one, grow!
***** All AL Welcome *****
Personally, I don't care whether you have a second shower or not--your life not mine--but having a baby of a different sex doesn't really require that you purchase all new baby items like having a baby for the first time does. You should be able to re-use most of the items--i.e. car seats, strollers, high chairs, jumpers, toys, carriers, pump, bottles, etc.
Edit: I will also add that I don't think it is a "judgment" reserved exclusively to The Bump. In general, I think most people frown on second showers from an etiquette stand point unless there is some exceptional circumstance like having a decade between babies or a house fire or something.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Regardless, Both my husband and I are basically feeling like your husband is so I don't really have any insight. Having been there done that, I'm not really into all the prep like I was the first time around. It is what it is.
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
DD born 2/3/03
BFP 3/21/13 w/ EDD 12/02/13, C/P 3/29/13.
BFP 9/18/13 w/ EDD 5/26/14,
Beta #1 @ 14-16dpo = 375, progesterone 33.6
Beta #2 @ 20-22 dpo = 8,782!
Beta #3 @ 27-29dpo = 44,230, dx subchorionic hemorrhage/ threatened mc
Beta #4 @ 29-31dpo = 72, 080
Grow, little one, grow!
***** All AL Welcome *****
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
You can check off "You guys are assholes" and "I'm deleting my account" too. Hay-zeus, I almost have BINGO from this post alone.
FWIW @Gmom2010 - second showers never go over well here. Just because you're going from girl to boy doesn't entitle you to have yet another shower or to require people to spend more money on you and your kids. If they want to buy you a gift, SUPER, but being an AW is eye-roll worthy for sure. And because you don't have diapers left from kid #1, other people should be forced to buy them for you? No. It's your kid. Buy your own diapers.
Also, you can't delete your account. Like, ever. You can go ahead and not sign in, or not post, or whatever you want, but it's not possible to delete your account.
Dang it Beevs, I was about to call Bingo! haha
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
On topic...I got nuthin. I'm an asshole too.
LCT - 5.15.14 ~ 9lbs, 22.5 inches
Say what? His personality makes him even MORE attractive! We ain't frenz no mo.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
We say "bros before hoes" here in the US.