February 2014 Moms

Sex after c-sec! (Possibly a TMI question)

Ok I know we had a thread on sex after delivery but I did not see anything specific on sex after a c-sec so wanted to ask you ladies.

My H and I finally DTD but OMG it hurt like hell. It was this weird sore, tugging pulling pain. It hurt horribly when he hit my cervix (I think). I got the okay from my OB that everything looked good down there and we had plenty of lube! It actually hurt inside like the whole thing was sore. I realize sex may not be fantastic after delivery but this was really torcher. I'm really upset as I'm freaking out going at it again and of course DH is not daring another go either after how I reacted to the pain.

I did suffer from a UTI recently but that's all cleared up so should not ideally hurt. I was expecting uncomfortable but not painful like this. I almost feel like going back to the dr it hurt so bad. So all you c-sec ladies, were you in a similar boat after your c-secs or am I the odd one out?


Re: Sex after c-sec! (Possibly a TMI question)

  • Out first (and only) time DTD since my c-section was painfully dry despite copious amounts of lube, but like PP went away after. I need to bite the bullet and try again sometime soonish.
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  • DesirreK said:

    Hmm...I'm a c-section mama and your experience sounds different than mine. Basically, it just felt really tight and dry when we DTD. It was painful and basically felt like it was my first time again. The pain pretty much went away immediately after though.
    I'm sorry you were in pain, hopefully it's nothing!

    This is my experience too. Sorry OP!


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  • DesirreK said:

    Hmm...I'm a c-section mama and your experience sounds different than mine. Basically, it just felt really tight and dry when we DTD. It was painful and basically felt like it was my first time again. The pain pretty much went away immediately after though.
    I'm sorry you were in pain, hopefully it's nothing!

    This for me too- I'm almost 10 weeks pp (tomorrow) and it's still uncomfortable when we first start dtd. So dry....

    Hope you can figure out the cause of your pain!

  • Thanks ladies. I wasn't in pain after DTD but it was more during. I'm going to give it one more shot in a few days and if it still hurts that bad I am calling my OB.
  • Actually, after both previous c/s, I felt like you described even with lube. It took a long time to build up those muscles again to be able to enjoy it. It honestly never felt normal again until after I weaned. C/S or not, those muscles went through a lot of stretching and changing and then with hormonal changes on top of that... It just sucks for a while. :-(

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  • DesirreK said:

    Hmm...I'm a c-section mama and your experience sounds different than mine. Basically, it just felt really tight and dry when we DTD. It was painful and basically felt like it was my first time again. The pain pretty much went away immediately after though.
    I'm sorry you were in pain, hopefully it's nothing!

    This is how it is for me too! I'm 8 weeks PP and it still hurts everytime! And afterwards it hurts to pee! We have only DTD a handful of times so hoping each time it will start to get better. I have noticed this past week that I have started to have some light clear discharge like I used to so maybe that is a good sign things are getting back to normal down there :)

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  • This was csection #2
    We DTD 3 weeks post - bleeding stopped & i'd been feeling wonderful since a week after. No pain doing anything.
    DTD didnt hurt-only when, as pp said he would hit my cervix. Um ouch. And peeing afterwards hurt.
    Then the fact that ever since the first time we did, its been the effin sahara down there -_-
    Sorry youre in so much pain from it. Hope it gets better soon!!
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    @RosiePeare‌ ours was definitely a quicky ;-) but we did plan it sorta- waited for LOs afternoon nap which we knew would be at least an hour. You will need to look for one of those windows or just plan for it in a night when LO is having long stretches. Also make sure you enlist DH to help out on the next feeding ;-) Sex blackmail is the best!
  • Bit of a thread jack, but when are you finding time to DTD? I've been cleared for a week, but we're too tired at night after LO goes down, and there's no guarantee on how long a weekend day nap will last.

    I was thinking this.
    If/when I do, I also need to manage to find time to shower....and chances of scoring shower time and sex time? ....I don't think those odds are in my favour anytime soon...
    (Yes we could combine the two - but we weren't coordinated well enough for this before now...and first time pp and post c-section, not sure if it will work out so well...)
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  • Bit of a thread jack, but when are you finding time to DTD? I've been cleared for a week, but we're too tired at night after LO goes down, and there's no guarantee on how long a weekend day nap will last.

    We have a 3 1/2yr old boy and LO who will be 5 weeks tmo. DH works alot. I stay home.
    As far as shower time - either during one of LO's naps while DS1 is playing or DH & I take turns. Easy peasy. Stick LO in a bouncer or his swing right in front of shower & we're good. I can even shave & do a coconut lime sugar body scrub lol.

    Sexy time? If DH stays awake, then its sometime aftet midnight. On weekends. Which is when LO goes down for the night, or in the morning when DS1 is still asleep & LO had his morning feed/play and is down for morning nap. During the week, so far-just dont happen. DH has to be up at 5am so not so good for him. Yano, men & no sleep -_- i get 4-6hrs of sleep a day & im golden so its all good.
    Here's to hoping ya'll find the time!!!
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