Baby blues -- share your story.

lopezalonso · March 2014

It has now been one week since our little Isabel was born and I have been crying so much! I cry because my in laws won't leave me alone (they're trying to help but they're all up in my space), I cry because I'm dreading leaving her to go back to work in July (even though that's so far away), I cry because work is far and long and I worry she'll forget me, I cry because I feel bad DH doesn't have more time with her, that she'll grow up and move out one day, and I even cried because my belly looks ugly and I want DH to still be attracted to me.

I'm even jealous with the baby. I don't want anyone except my mom, dad, brother, DH, and myself holding her. I know it's unfair to my in laws but I'm like give me back my baby! I don't say it but I think it. Anyway, no one should be touching my newborn. I already had to tell them to stop kissing her. WTF.

Has anyone else been experiencing this mood shift? How long did it last for you? I just want to be happy and enjoy my new baby and family of 3. I don't need a house full of people trying to "help."

Velleia101 · March 2014

Major crying spells just started for me yesterday nine days pp. My mil is a post partum doula and says this is right on schedule. If I still feel this way constantly in a week it would be time to seek help. Knowing all that made me feel better. I cry because I don't want mil to leave us Friday.. I am lucky that it is heaven to have her around, I cry because I am so scared of how it will be to have my mom here next week. Mostly I cry because LO is so beautiful I can't stand it or believe it and I don't want her to grow up at all, though of course I really do. That sounds like a dumb thought to cry about but I do for hours. I am terrified of work, too, though it is also months off. I just want time to stop... And also to stop crying so much! BFing is dehydrating enough. You are not alone :-*

Npironi · March 2014

Your definitely not alone! I too get jealous of ppl holding her I want her in my arms all the time except when she's with my mom or sister. I cry when I feel like I didn't give my cat (my 1st baby!) enough attention, I cry just thinking about how AMAZINGLY beautiful my daughter is, and when she crus hysterically I sometimes cry cus I hate hearing her upset! It's like a wave of emotion just SMACKs me in the face and I instantly start crying when I hears something sad, happy, or sweet.

kare_bear_12 · March 2014

I cry just because I really am trying to do a good job and am trying to understand all of lo's ques so I can really know what he wants. When he cries sometimes I just cry with him. I also hate sharing. It was the worst in the hospital passing him around to others. I balled even when he was crying when leaving the hospital.

tsmith312 · March 2014

Yes !! I was wanting to post something the other day . I'm 1 week 1 day PP , yesterday was the first day this week I didn't feel sad ! I ugly cried Monday when I found out the 7 weeks I was taking off for work won't be paid ! I cry bc I've been stuck inside all week , I cry bc DH only took last week off from work while I was in the hospital and I'm sad he hasn't had time with us at home . I cried bc I worry I'm not being a good mommy and worry if I can raise DD the way I've dreamed of . As much as I love having an outside baby I got depressed bc I'm not pregnant and my delivery was so sudden bc she was 2 weeks early . I cry bc I don't want to go back to work bc I feel like time is flying already and I don't want to miss anything , I cry when I sit here and look how beautiful she is and realize how lucky and blessed I am to have a healthy beautiful little girl !!Soooooo yea I've been a hot mess the past few days but I think it's getting better !!

coreyeliz · March 2014

I'm worried that my baby blues are going to turn into more. I've been crying nonstop about my c-section. I just can't stop no matter how rational I try to be. I cry because I feel like it was my fault. I cry because it's numb on the incision and I worry it will stay that way forever. I cry because I'm afraid it's going to ruin my sex life if I have constant numbness and my husband won't love me anymore. I cry because our life has changed so much and I'm afraid of being alone. I cry because DH has to go back to work 8 weeks before me and I'm scared I'll be overwhelmed and lonely. I cry because of so many things, and I'm worried it isn't just baby blues. But I'm only one week out, so I want to give myself some time.

sebullows · March 2014

I'm 2 and a half weeks pp and been feeling the same things. I have started to feel better in the last few days as I've started to adjust. My amount of sleep definitely makes a difference. I've just been trying to stay very aware of my feelings and try to know when to ask for help.. Which is much easier said than done. Being a new mother is very very hard, I'll be thinking of all of you.

Brissett · March 2014

About one week post baby, I cried for two days straight. This seemed to be for no reason -at least no reason I could identify. This didn't happen with my first child and it made me feel like I was loosing my mind. Normally I am in control!! This crying was followed by a night of chills and night sweats. Fun times!!!!! Luckily it didn't last long!

lopezalonso · March 2014

I love being with DD. I want her all to myself and just today MIL came over to "help" and all she's done is bring me breakfast at noon, keep telling me the baby's hands are cold, and then sit on the couch next to me on the computer for 3 hours. I started walking upstairs because I wanted to nurse and felt uncomfortable doing it in front of her. She then moved to another room and I started bawling my eyes out because I was so frustrated she was in my house.

MA&CB · March 2014

This just set in for me yesterday. I cry because my husband makes faces when I ask him to do things, because he makes annoying noises like tapping and whistling, because I feel really easily over-stimulated by noise and touch. Yesterday I developed some lump above my incision and I cried because DH said it was probably nothing to worry about. Then I cried through my sandwich for dinner. Then I went to the OB today to have the lump looked at and she told me she only had 15 seconds because there was a lady pushing in the other exam room. Then I cried in the hallway because my husband joked that "see, there was nothing to worry about". MH is definitely bearing the brunt of the crying and irritation, he's really not that bad, and I know it's irrational. I keep telling him I'm super emotionally fragile and I need him to just let me be right about everything and be really supportive for a couple days.

lopezalonso · March 2014

I've talked to friends who have had babies about this and they said it's all normal. One friend said it lasted a month, My OB said to expect 2 weeks of "teary eyes." Teary eyes???? More like embarrassing and irrational water works!

lopezalonso · March 2014

A big hug to all of you. I totally understand. This is so freakin' hard. I'm sure it will go away. It feels so good though to at least have this thread to come back to and vent and see I'm not alone.

AshleyO925 · March 2014

I cry because I am having difficulties with BF and it hurts. I cry because MH snores soundly while I'm up all night with a fussy baby. Sometimes I cry because I feel like I'm spending all my time feeding LO. I'm hoping things will get better in the coming weeks. I never thought I could be so in love with my daughter and so stressed and sad at the same time.

lalaith50 · March 2014

I bawled my eyes out when my mom left. Also cried a ton for no reason the first time out of the house, at the pediatrician. And could barely even get my name out at the breastfeeding support group. But everyone has been do understanding. (Poor dh, he hasn't really understood.) and it's getting a lot better. I haven't cried at all yet today!

mizzjulien · March 2014

I thought I was the only one I had an emotional break down the other night because SO seems to not understand that his little brother does not understand the fact that I, we need space and he thinks it's ok. I shouldn't have to cover up in my own house let alone bedroom to bf my son or pump because he won't get the hint and leave... The time SO was home I felt like we barely spent just us (the three of us) time without his brother there unless we were sleeping smh.

KariB509 · March 2014

I know how you feel. DD was born on the 10th and I've cried nearly every day since. Last night I cried for quite a while because she just wouldn't stop fussing and dh are I were getting frustrated and arguing. Every time she falls asleep and I put her down, she wakes up. The only time she stays asleep is when she's in bed with me. And I really don't want to do that. This is just such a hard stage. I was hoping itd be easier since I've done this before but it's not. It's harder. And it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. It'll be months before we finally have a good sleeping routine. Ugh.
Anyway, I'm glad to read that everyone else is a hot mess like I am. Because sometimes I wonder if I'm just crazy.

KariB509 · March 2014

lmalear01 said:
Nobody tells you how lonely being a new mom can be.

THIS! I've been trying to put this feeling into words and this is exactly it. I feel very alone right now. But it feels good knowing that I'm not the only one feeling that way because I'm so worried these blues are going to turn into something more.

KariB509 · March 2014

@coreyeliz‌, I just want to give you a personal shout out. I didn't have a c section but all your thoughts remind me of my own. The constant worrying is exactly what I do. And I'm also worried that my baby blues are going to slip into something more. I hope it at least makes you feel better knowing that you're not alone in your feelings. I know this entire thread has made me feel more normal.

coreyeliz · March 2014

KariB509 - Thanks for sharing that. This thread really has served to help me feel more normal, and it's comforting to hear that someone else has worries similar to mine. DH has been such a rock, and I'm trying really hard to be proactive and talk things out with him, but as wonderful as he is, the perspective of women who've gone through this is invaluable to me.

StephBrim24 · March 2014

I'm grateful for this thread. I think it's important to admit and communicate when you're feeling the blues. Keeping it to yourself can increase that feeling of isolation and loneliness. It consumed me the first time around. This time I'm communicating it to my mom, husband, and a couple friends so I have people keeping an eye on me and I know I'm not alone. It's tough for a while here. Sleep will help. :-)

kls33145 · March 2014

I'm 5weeks PP and my OB has me going to talk to a counselor today @10am because I'm still super emotional....
I cried/flipped out on DH for eating the last slice of pizza...seriously?! Like, inconsolable...
They don't think I have PPD but think it could potentially go down that path. I'm not against talking with someone, especially with some of the difficulties I've had, so we'll see how it goes!

Keep your heads up, ladies!

Christal161 · March 2014

The first day back home, I was pumping to get a good little bottle for LO. When I was done, I was so happy that I didn't realize I was spiling the milk while teying to put the cap on. I cried so much and my mother was trying to make me feel better by saying it wouldn't be my first spiled bottle. I was crying more to the fact I didn't want him to use formula (at the time) and that my nipples were to sore, cracked and bleeding to breastfeed that day. Also I had PPD pretty bad in the hospital. I laugh about it now too.

Melissa72777 · March 2014

My son is just over a week old & I had him via an emergency c-section. I was in the hospital for 4 days and the only time I cried when I was there was when he was born. I felt great while i was there and on the PPD screening they did i did excellent. I still feel extremely happy to have him and have tons of support from DH and family during my recovery from my c section. The only slight issue I have had is MIL being a bit pushy about trying to come over every day but other than that things are going great. However, the past 3-4 days I have found myself breaking into tears over nothing. I will just be sitting on the couch and look at LO sleeping and start crying. Sometimes I will think about how he will grow up and all the things I will get to experience with him. Sometimes I'm just amazed that DH and I made him. I also cry because my recovery isn't going as fast as I would like and DH has been doing a lot of caring for LO that I wish I could do for him. And sometimes I have no thoughts at all that accompany the tears yet I can't stop crying. If this goes on for more than a week more I think I will be contacting my OB about it.

Ahutch428 · March 2014

I know this thread is kind of old , but I just wanted to say thanks... It helped me so much. LO was born two days ago and today is our first day home. I have cried constantly... About how perfect she is, about wanting to soak in every moment before she grows up too fast, about missing pregnancy.... You name it. Thanks for making me normal! Has anyone's baby blues subsided yet?

beachcomberbride · March 2014

Haha I am so jealous with my baby, with all of my babies. I hold him, dad holds him, MIL, and I allow sister in law to hold him, but I don't like it. Ain't nobody else gonna be touching my angel!!!

BTBergstrom · March 2014

Mine hit hard at a two weeks and it was bad for a few days and then went away. I think part of it was my husband was going to be gone the following week so I was stressed about that too.

lopezalonso · March 2014

Hey there! I'm glad the thread was helpful. It definitely helped me to see I'm not alone. My baby blues began to subside by a week and a half. We're 16 days out now and I feel a lot better. DH's cousin said it was a month for her. Regardless, it will get better!! Big

Brich3321 · March 2014

I too appreciate this thread. I've mostly cried because of LO having trouble with going to the bathroom or his lil crusty eye and it makes me sad that I can't do anything for him (the eye I can but you know what I mean). It's true that you would take every pain yourself if you could.

I do feel so lonely though and I can't shake that feeling even though MH is still home. He's helpful but he is still selfish with his time/sleep/eating and going out for fun activities. I cry when he leaves because I realize it will never be the same between us. This is everything I wanted but definitely takes time to adjust. Nice to hear I am not alone in this.

rockopera · March 2014

I'm 10 days in and I'm a wreck. I'm crying because I'm happy, sad, scared, anxious and everything in between. He's so little, he's getting so big, he's perfect, I'm worried something is wrong. And everything BFing gets challenging, I lose it.

H goes back to work on Monday. I don't know if I will be able to handle it.

stephmsully · March 2014

Rad&Co said:
Oh I'm losing it. I cry because BFing was going so well and now I'm having trouble getting her to latch so I feel like we're regressing and it hurts! I cry because DH has to go to school. I cry because I'm alone with DD all day and I'm getting cabin fever. I cry because I love her so much but also because a selfish part if me misses our old life. I cry because I'm overwhelmed. I cry all the time. She's 9 days old and I'm hoping these feelings go away soon.

This is me too! I cried my first day alone with DD #1 and LO... I survived but I cried most of the day. That was Wednesday- 9 days pp.

ezelinski · March 2014

I'm two weeks PP and have been a total mess these past few days because I've been horribly sick all thanks to my boobs. Had latching issues from the very start with DS and I decided to EP because it relieves the stress of knowing if he's getting proper nourishment and also, makes things easier what with also taking care of a super active 2 year old DD at the Sam time. Had a 103 degree fever for two days, felt like complete s**t thanks to the engorgement I had. Actually have an over supply of breast milk so I hope it goes down so my fever goes away and my boobs stop hurting so badly. I just want to feel normal again so I can take care of both kids without wanting to breakdown. Plus, my mother has been here to help since DS birth and is leaving today. Don't know how I'm gonna do this alone since DH works 16 hours a day. I don't know if I can do this! Waterworks here we come.

theluckiest9 · March 2014

@ezelinski‌ are you sure you don't have mastitis??

I just wanted to chime in. It was really rough for me starting around 8 days PP. I cried at the drop of a hat. Any talk about BFing made me sob. I felt awful and just not like myself. Those hormones are no joke!

The past couple of days I've really noticed a change for the better (I'm 19 days PP). My mood has leveled out a lot. I haven't cried for a few days now. I feel like I'm actually bonding more with my LO. Initially, I felt very disconnected from her, which also made me cry because I felt like a bad mom. It's so hard at first and I felt like it would never get better. I just want to say that it WILL get better. Everyone is doing their best for their LO and that's what matters!

katykatykaty · March 2014

Mine started in the hospital the day after I had Charlie. I cried pretty much non-stop for the first week and couldn't eat anything, which left me feeling really nauseous all the time. Mine was from feeling guilty that Caroline was no longer the only child. After I got home and got into a routine and had to control my crying in front of Caroline, I started feeling more normal.

I had a similar experience with Caroline when she was born, only I was regretting having a baby with her (which made me feel even worse and cry even more). That also lasted about a week. PP hormones are no joke.

tokash516 · March 2014

Glad I'm not the only one. 9 days pp and I cry a lot. Sometimes because I'm happy and I love her so much. But most of the time it's because I'm scared that I'm not doing it right, scared for when DH goes back to work next weekend. Sad that I'm so lonely. Over watching tv all day. DH told me I need to quit "giving her the tit every time she cries". Am I a bad mom?? In scared that DH and mines relationship will be affected. Before her we were best friends. He's my favorite person. But we have been bickering a lot. And when she cries and I can't figure out how to console her I cry. How am I going to do this if I can't handle her crying???? Not to mention all my fears about never getting her to sleep not in my arms. Ugh. This is hard!! I'm so glad she's here and I love her more than anything but my life will never be the same abd that makes me sad.