My Good Friend Hemmie

Married071709 · March 2014

(This is quite possibly TMI

)I don't know what I did to be blessed with such good friends, Hemmie and Hemmie Jr. We have been great friends since I was about 16 weeks. The stuck with me through my entire pregnancy and a month or 2 pp. I thought I had done something wrong when they disappeared on me for a few months. Out of nowhere they came back into my life.

I'm really getting frustrated with them. How dare they be there through a really important time in my life (pregnancy and deliver) and then just disappear and reappear like nothing happened. I feel like a bitch but I want them out of my life.

Serious part of my story. . . What can I do to make them smaller or go away? Anyone else still dealing with these shit heads? I've tried over the counter cream, Tucks Pads, wiping gently, wet wipes instead of tp. I don't strain when I go so I'm not sure why they are back. I'm sure I will deal with them forever. I can't wear thongs cause they rub on them and then they bleed (TMI yet?? DH said thank you for sharing that bit of info with him. He was thankful it was after we DTD!

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Anyone else or am I alone with my dear friend Hemmie? @nalFTW any advice?

giraffeluvspi · March 2014

My friend is fissure. No advice here, other than fiber is a very good friend.

PrimRoseMama · March 2014

I'm sorry. It sounds dumb but Vaseline? Might help keep friction away from the skin?

Karebear6978 · March 2014

No advice but u r not alone....

Pink724 · March 2014

Yep, not alone over here, either

24karat · March 2014

Ever since DD so 2 years and counting...it sucks.

Sorry in advance if this sounds gross or TMI...one of my midwives suggested pushing them back in if possible. Sometimes it's possible and helps, other times it won't.

thegoodpotato · March 2014

They will come and go for the rest of your life, unfortunately.

The Hem family are permanent friends, whether you feel them or not.

Lots of fibre, lots of water, and they'll calm down.

Sorry. But I totally know what you're going through. They're on-and-off visitors at my house. Jerks.

new2011mommy · March 2014

I had this issue when I was pregnant with DS and then they popped up a couple times after I had him. They did not pop up with my pregnancy with DD. I have been putting fiber in my coffee every morning and eating prunes. They are terrible!

jackson290721 · March 2014

Yes, they are permanent friends. They never truly go away. Just go through random periods of inflammation. I'm sorry.

alimegan · March 2014

I have had mine since DD1. Sorry you have to deal with them. I use Preparation H, Witch Hazel and as a pp said try Vaseline. Hope it helps.

lovemyminions · March 2014

I fel your pain. I didn't get my "friends" until after delivery of dd2. It was so bad I was honestly afraid to look. My midwife prescribed something that you inject (can't remember what it was) and to soak in a warm tub and try to push them back in. That eventually worked. I didn't realize this was a permanent thing so I threw out the leftover. A bad case of the flu brought them back with a vengence. What then worked for me was the tub soak and push back in (the longer they are out the worse they get, and gravity is not your friend. Also I put a pea sized mix of hydrocortisone cream and anusol and that cleared it up for now. Good luck