Parental traits from you and your partner to the baby

wtfisup · March 2014

What do you hope the little one gets from each of you?

What do you hope you or your partner don't pass on?

What are you most curious about in terms of genetic inheritance?

wtfisup · March 2014

Physical: From my husband, I hope she gets his gorgeous, marblesque teeth; his beautiful, olive, tiny-pored skin; his long legs and height. From me, my flexibility, strength, and eyebrows.

I hope she doesn't get my allergies. I've spent my life on shots and medications, covered in rashes and hives, swollen with sinus infections.

Personality: Dear lord, give her my husband's temperament. Make her calm and self-entertained and independent. But don't give her his social anxiety -- let her have my love for socializing and desire to be meet ALL THE PEOPLE. I hope she has a combination of our smarts -- we have good and different brains.

tbmadeamistake · March 2014

Well, I know what C got from each of us. My physical build, his facial expressions, my hair, his blue eyes, etc. I sort of hope that Charlie is the opposite. Steve's build, my more introverted nature, Steve's curly hair, my green eyes. I love C, I just want to see what the other options look like, and it would nice to have a calm baby for a change...

I hope neither of them inherit my anxiety. I hope Charlie doesn't get my celiac, as we're pretty sure C has it.

I'm curious about the passing on of more "nurture" traits, like personality. I'm amazed at much like Steve C has been right from the beginning. Even as an infant. Some of that must be inherited, so at what point does nurture take over, or how much is nurture swayed by nature? I find that whole debate incredibly interesting.

kbellizio3 · March 2014

Oooooo this is a fun little questionaire!

I really hope our little girl gets my eyes (they're a very unique hazel color) and DHs smile (he's got a gorgeous smile). In terms of personality, I hope she's like DH. He's got a fantastic sense of humor and is very good at making people laugh and breaking the ice. And he's a very level headed thinker.

What I really hope she doesn't get is my large chest (at least early, it was very awkward having Ds in 8th grade virtually overnight) and DH and I both have horrible skin and had acne issues so hopefully this LO won't get them. And I hope she's not as stubborn as I am

I'm really curious to see if LO will get the red hair that is on both sides of our family.

bumpuser9343355 · March 2014

I hope he gets DH's gorgeous copper red hair and his metabolism! I hope he gets my hair texture (thick) and my skin tone (I'm still fair, but I don't burn like DH does).

Either way, his sense of humor is going to be pretty dry and sarcastic as both DH and I share that. I hope he gets DH's musical talent and his patience. I hope he gets my love for reading and my independence.

Mostly, I hope he inherits my love for the Dodgers as my husband is a Giants fan and it might kill me to have to deal with two Giants boys during baseball season (the important things, right?).

lest12 · March 2014

Awesome question!

I hope the baby inherits my husband's positive attitude. I swear that man sees the good side to everything, and I think it allows him to enjoy life in a way that I don't. It's wonderful when he just rubs off on me, so I want that for my kids. On the same note, I hope the kid doesn't get my predisposition to depression or anxiety. Or my family's tendancy towards addiction.

I hope to pass on a healthy dose of my Type A, get things done attitude. I'm not aftaid to pick up a phone, ask questions, find a way to make what I want to happen, happen. I want to raise my kids to know how to go for what they want in life.

We both want the baby to have our balance od street and book smarts... and our love of f ood and travel.

Physically, I hope he gets DH's green eyes and both of our light hair. I'm the only fair one in a family of olive-skinned brunettes, and when I married DH, all anyone could say was they couldn't wait for the blonde babies!

k2k2tog · March 2014

Ooh, love this!

I hope she get's DH's laid-back attitude and ability to see all sides of an argument. I hope she gets his level-headedness. From me, I hope to pass on a love of reading and the ability to think critically about the things she reads and the world at large.

DH has a gamut of learning disabilities that makes it difficult for him to read and write. He's never let it hold him back from being successful and if our daughter is going to have the same struggles, it won't be the end of the world, but it would be a lot easier on everyone if she didn't. Also, we both have terrible eyes. It's beyond unlikely that our daughter will, therefore, have good ideas, but, you know... one can dream. I'd like to not pass on the way I get angry - going quiet, and snappish, and very poor at communication. Also, the way I worry.

I am curious about things like DH's language struggles and my tendency towards worry and anxiety. Are these things fully hereditary and how much can we combat them with our influence?

steprozz · March 2014

ohhh so much fun!

well since DS is a mini replica of DH... I would love for this little guy to look like me a little more.

I want him to have DHs perfect straight white teeth. and I want him to be more laid back all though I don't know where it will come from because neither DH nor I is exactly go with the flow kind of people.

I want him to escape (even though it's coming from both sides) severe anxiety and addiction problems

I'll be curious to see if his personality is like DS or the opposite. so far based on being in the womb he is the exact opposite of how DS was when I was pregnant with him.

shellbell813 · March 2014

I hope from me, the baby gets creativity and brains. He could also use a little bit of my social ability (since DH is so quiet). I hope he DOESN'T get my depression and anxiety (I've always been scared about passing that on).

From DH, hopefully he will get a good metabolism, fitness, and good character. Also he could use the lack of laziness DH has (as opposed to my couch-potato ass).

Taymiller · March 2014

I hope little Murphy gets DH's hand/eye coordination, his spelling skills, my blue eyes and dimples, our science brains, my math skills, his outgoing personality, his attention span and my blonde hair.

I hope he doesn't get DH's flat feet, my eyesight, my ADD, my pale skin, his video addiction (haha like DH will ever let him play) and his morning grumpiness.

BMaidPlanner · March 2014

With his teeth and my eyes she wouldn't need glasses or braces. That would be financially lovely.

Personality him: Social, fun, smart, remembers tons of random facts, always learning, extremely driven, king of big ideas, has a creative brain that's also built for business.

Me: Sharp and calm in a crisis, deeply intuitive, everyone's best friend, able to make money off of my comedic timing. Talent (performing arts, wish I could say fine art or domestic arts! I can book a TV gig or sell out a small comedy club but I can't even sew a button.)

May she not inherit my mood fluctuations, undiagnosed depression, fear of success, impulsiveness (although with intuition it could serve her well) lack of patience, insecurities or laziness.

May she not have his temper, road rage (lol), sometimes too blunt insensitivity, occasional over sharing, inability to handle most stress or crisis situations effectively or calmly, undiagnosed ADD.

Pepper6 · March 2014

Physically, I hope DD gets my vision and metabolism and H's skin tone and smile. I hope she doesn't get his acne, but we both had to have fairly significant orthodontic work, so she's screwed on that front either way.

Personality wise, I hope she gets both our intelligence and independence and H's drive to learn new things.

CaityEMC · March 2014

Great thread! One day they will probably have a first trimester test that tells us all this!

I hope our little girl gets our green eyes, my husbands olive skin with just A FEW of my freckles, my sense of humor and creativity and my husbands math skills and athleticism.

I hope she doesn't get my fair skin and laziness or DH's dog allergies and his need to put work in front of fun all the time!

Silvermystique13 · March 2014

I REALLY hope Isaac will get my hubby's green eyes (they are so much prettier than my brown), his intelligence (I'm pretty smart, but DH is a freaking GENIUS, no joke), and his ambition. From me, I hope he gets my optimism and my goody-two-shoes-ness (my hubby always says I was such a good kid compared to him). We're both pretty creative, so that shouldn't be a problem. I'm hoping like hell Ikey won't get my ADHD, (both of us have, though mine's officially diagnosed) depression or anxiety, or my crappy metabolism. I'm also hoping he doesn't get my husband's bad back or knees, but he got that through playing sports and growing way fast and way tall.

k318 · March 2014

I hope she gets my teeth and my husbands eyesight. His family's petite build (I don't really care so much about that.. I just think it would be an interesting contrast from ds who has my family's large build), my husband's drive and my book-smarts. I really hope she has my husband's social skills. I can be introverted and socially awkward. I hope she does not get my terrible vision or my husband's messed up teeth. I hope she does not get my anxiety or my husband's temper.
We will see and love her no matter how she turns out.
Seeing the mix of me and dh in our son is amazing. I am white and dh is Asian. I swear my son has his face with my pale skin and my family's big German build. He has my h's personality but my calmness as well.

ricecakes1216 · March 2014

Physical
Hope he gets:
His eyes, teeth and build.
My hair, skin tone and nose.

Hope he doesn't get:
My psoriasis and height.

I hope he is athletic like H. We are both incredibly stubborn so I'm sure he'll be stubborn. I hope he gets my book smarts and Hs street smarts. I want him to be independent like me and affectionate like H.

I want to add that I hope he's social like H and not as introverted as me.

temursgirl · March 2014

Physically, I would love for LO to get my fitness and athletic ability, but I think that can be learned to some extent. I hope she is darker than I am. I love my coloring, but being really fair is inconvenient (sunblock every single day!). I hope she doesn't get my nearsightedness.

Personality: I'd like to pass on my adaptability and both of our ease with socializing. DH is better at school learning than I am, and that would make LO's life easier. I hope she's more confrontational than I am, and more intuitive than DH.

amackattack · March 2014

I hope she has H's coloring (ginger with blue eyes), with the texture of hair from my side of the family (extremely curly hair). I hope she inherit's my dad's and my metabolism. She will likely either be average height or tall, and either way would be good. I hope she gets H's skin.

I hope she get's H's sense of humor and social skills....he is really funny and everyone loves him. It would be great if she got our musical skills and H's desire and capacity for constantly learning new things. I hope she gets my ambition and drive.

I obviously hope she avoids any depression/anxiety or addition issues coming from either of the families. I also hope she's not as much of a worrier as I am, and she doesn't get H's need to hold a grudge.

Funny how after I typed it out I realized most of the traits I want her to have come from H. I wonder what he'd say.

babygabe614 · March 2014

Oh, this is a fun thread! I love reading everyone's responses.

What do you hope the little one gets from each of you? I hope she gets my love of learning, appreciation of nature and the environment, and sense of humor. I hope she gets DH's work ethic and outgoing personality.

What do you hope you or your partner don't pass on? I hope I don't pass on my anxiety in social situations, or fears of trying new things. I want her to be fearless like her dad. I hope DH doesn't pass on his short fuse.

What are you most curious about in terms of genetic inheritance? Physically, it will be interesting to see if she has some of the "unusal" traits DH and I both carry, namely, having light eyes and olive or darker features. I'm Puerto Rican, black, and Irish and DH is Italian and Irish. Our dominant heritages would both typically dictate us to have dark skin and hair (which we both do) and dark eyes, but I have green eyes and DH has pale blue eyes.

PressLove · March 2014

Great thread!

I hope she has DH's beautiful eyes, his eyebrows, and my teeth. Lord knows we would save on waxing and threading I've always had to do. I can tell from the u/s that she has long legs like both of us.

Although he learned patience over the years, hopefully that will be passed on. DH's work ethic and my ability to listen to all sides would also be great.

I hope she doesn't get his large pores, my frustration, or my self-doubt. Mostly, I pray she doesn't rebel against her Catholic upbringing.

folding · March 2014

Well... the one we already have is a year old and is already showing exactly what traits he has from each of us. He is stubborn and particular like me. Fidgety like DH. He has my eyes, eyebrows, smile, and hair type. He has DH's head shape (aka Extremely Large Head). He was born long and lean and is now more short and stout. So that's a combo of both of us (I'm small). He is extremely silly which is a trait of both DH and me. He is shy at first, which is more me than DH. He does not like being held for too long and we have no idea where he got that from because DH and I are both snuggly people.

For the new baby, we hope this one is less fidgety. And maybe a little less stubborn and more "go with the flow" like DH is.

coffee89 · March 2014

I hope he gets my eyes and my hair texture, but my husbands hair color. I hope he has my husbands smile and height. I hope he gets my husbands ability to self entertain, persevere, interest in learning and his imagination. I hope he gets my ability to look for the best in anything and anyone.

I hope he doesn't get our bi-polar or anxiety. Or my temper.

As far as interesting traits, I'm sure physically some things could pop up. I'm the only one in my family with green eyes instead of brown and my sister was the only one to get brown hair and not blonde. My husband is half Irish half Ukrainian, but the Ukrainian genes dominated physically more on him than his brothers (both brothers had red hair, my husband got the dark brown curly hair)

Susanrush13 · March 2014

What do you hope the little one gets from each of you? Physically I hope Jack takes after his father. He's tall, lean and energy for days whereas I struggled with weight my whole life. I want the him to have my mouth and dimple and his father's hands but if the sonogram is any indication, I'm going to birth a mini version of my bf.

Personality wise, his carefree nature, musical abilities and adventurous side. My sense of humor, gentleness for animals and from both of us, our persistence that everyone should be treated equally and with kindness.

What do you hope you or your partner don't pass on? Both of our stubborness and depression. My wanting to find the easy way out and his temper.

Both my bf and I have dark hair, big round brown eyes, full mouths and are tall. People joke that even if the baby comes out looking like him, he'll still resemble me :P We did have some worries that Jack would carry on t.a.r. syndrome as my bf is a carrier and his sister has it full blown. His sonograms and testing show that his kidneys are both there and his bones/limbs are on target for his gestational age, so the only thing we'll have to test once he's here is his blood platelets.

otter1103 · March 2014

Since I have a DD already, I've got a little bit of an idea of how more or less Asian she will look. Both of my kids have my dark hair but only one (DD) has my almost amber eyes. The both have all slightly darker complexions but not nearly as dark as mine. This LO has a different dad so it will be interesting to see how her complexion is compared to her sibs.
I'd love if she had my dark hair and Hubs baby blue eyes. From all of the U/S pics it is already pretty clear she has my full lips.

I'd love her to be fiery like me but with a bit more reservation like Hubs. If that makes sense. I can be a real hothead and have a horrible temper. Hubs is more reserved or quiet when he blows his top. We are both stubborn as all hell so the deck is already stacked in that direction there.

I'm short with a very athletic build, Hubs is tall and lean so hopefully she will be a happy medium that loves to learn and find adventure like us.

Regardless of all of that, I can't wait to meet her!

rastrau · March 2014

I hope he gets DH's temperament - calm and cool - but my empathy. Please don't let him inherit my temper!

I hope he gets DH's charm and ability to talk to anyone, anywhere, but my ability to see things from multiple perspectives.

I hope he has my eyesight (DH's is terrible) and DH's knees (mine blew out early). I also hope he has his dad's sense of adventure and none of my anxiety!

Mrs_D_in_KY · March 2014

We already have a 4 year old DS who is DH's mini me, right down to his off the wall remarks.

I'm hoping this next little guy looks more like me but still has his daddy's height. I am only 5 ft even and my whole family is short. DH is close to 6 ft tall.

Jennylou0604 · March 2014

I hope she gets my husbands blue eyes and nose, my skin tone, dark hair, and lips. We're both pretty short so I'm sure she'll be screwed in the height department.

I hope she has my husband's sense of humor and is as laid back as he is, but I hope she has my common sense (sorry, babe!).

I hope she does not get my husbands asthma, allergies, sleep apnea, or eyesight and I hope she doesn't have my temper, anxiety, and addictive personality. Oh and I hope she doesn't get my huge ass feet.

I'm so curious to see if she's anything like her brother. G was such a wonderful baby. I have a feeling I won't get lucky twice! Crossing my fingers, though.

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