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8 month old HAS to be held all day long

Oct03Bride2BeOct03Bride2Be member
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Help! My DS is 8.5 months old and HAS to be held all the time. If you put him down, in a jumper, swing, etc he starts to cry immediately.  It is getting frustrating. To make matters worse he does the same thing at Daycare, but since there are more kids he has to cry sometimes.

How do i get him to self-entertain, stop crying anytime he is not being held.

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  • JulySpark05JulySpark05 member

    Has he always been like this? DD was like this up until she was 3months or so but then outgrew it.. Have you tried putting him down and maybe sitting in front of him and play with him? I would sometimes sit in front of DD when she was in the Jolly Jumper and I would laugh and talk to her "make it fun" and then after a bit, she was fine.. 

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  • tay5267tay5267
    Is your LO crawling yet? My DS was really bad with it and started crawling a few weeks ago and now he isnt so bad. We just make sure he has a ton of toys out and he is better on the floor now. Good luck.
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  • soldiersgirl78soldiersgirl78 member

    I don't want to sound brash, but stop holding him all the time.  He needs to learn that he cannot be held 24/7.  Just stay close and play with him and work up to leaving him on his own for a little bit.  Don't give in every time by picking him up. 

    There is a boy at daycare about 9 months old that cries all.day.long. because his mother doesn't put the kid down.  This creates a very unsettling environment for all the other babies in the room!

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  • Oct03Bride2BeOct03Bride2Be member
    I do put him down, but he just screams until he is picked back up...it could be 5 minutes or 50 minutes.  I don't want to hold him all the time, I can't get anything done EVER.  I will continue to try to leave him down more.
    He is not crawling, so maybe once he does it will get better.
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  • teamsweetteamsweet member
    Is this since birth?  Otherwise, I vote separation anxiety.  A friend's son is going through it - it's perfectly healthy and doesn't mean you're spoiling him.  That said, try working in small steps.  Sit him in your lap and play, sit him next to you and play, and slowly move further away - all the while calming him w/your voice.  And wear him so you can get stuff done.  I'll put ds on my back while I clean/cook so he gets some mom time (I work ft) and I can other stuff done.
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  • Hazelbaby86Hazelbaby86 member
    My daughter just turned 9 months on Tuesday and as of last week she cries 24/7. She is only happy if I hold her or if she is on our bed playing. She cries getting into the high chair and cries anytime I put down on the floor to play or in her jumper. This is something new as up until now she loved playing on the floor and everything else. Doctor chalks it up to teething but no new teeth coming through yet. She has two teeth already since 6mo. She goes to daycare 4 days a week and she does the same thing for them. I've tried everything but nothing is helping!
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  • jessalynn521jessalynn521 member
    We are coming into this right now at 7.5 months. I recommend a baby carrier or sling or something that will get your hands free but still meet his need to feel comfort. He will outgrow it eventually.
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  • Hazelbaby86Hazelbaby86 member
    And the doctor says to ignore her as long as she is safe and that this can last up to a couple of months. Ugh
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  • vintageutopiavintageutopia member

    My only advice is "this is only temporary". I promise.

    Of my three, my youngest is the most clingy by far. She is the happiest baby, but she wants to be held most of the time. Each day, it gets a little better and I know it won't last forever. It's hard to get anything done, though!

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  • cheapocheapo member
    What if you put a toy that he loves in front of him?  My DS is the same, always wants to be held but when I put his talking puppy in front of him when he is in his highchair he suddenly stops.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    soldiersgirl78 said:

    I don't want to sound brash, but stop holding him all the time.  He needs to learn that he cannot be held 24/7.  Just stay close and play with him and work up to leaving him on his own for a little bit.  Don't give in every time by picking him up. 

    There is a boy at daycare about 9 months old that cries all.day.long. because his mother doesn't put the kid down.  This creates a very unsettling environment for all the other babies in the room!

    I really disagree with this. When babies are on the verge of a milestone the world can be a scary place. They are frustrated & need reassurance. Meeting your babies' needs can never fail. Yes, it's frustrating but it's just a phase.

    You can't "teach" your kid not to need you or stop feeling what they feel. All they know is what they need. It's part of sound emotional development. I promise it passes, but trying to "buck him up" will backfire. It will make him more frantic.


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