Lnvane00 Birth Story

lnvane00 · March 2014

I went into labor 3:30am Friday morning. Labored at home until noon. Then went to the birth center.

I was planning a med free all natural birth at a birth center with midwives a doula.

I had excruciatingly intense back labor the entire time. I cant imagine a more excruciating pain then back labor. But I was doing it. I got checked when we got to the birth center and was only barely a two. Devastated but kept going I was determined.

I was finally able to get in the birth tub when I reached a 6 around 9 that night and I also had to get a shot of antibiotics since my water had broke 18 hours before.

I'll skip ahead of the million other details because basically i was in excruciatingly painful back labor the entire morning day and night on friday. We didnt get any sleep and it was so intense and draining. So i had been in labor for 24+.

Saturday morning comes, I had been laboring all night into the morning and was begging for a break. And my whole birth team was exhausted including my amazing husband who never left my side.

I was able to lay in bed but it was not really any kind of break because I was still contracting with back labor. So I dozed off between each painful contraction. And finally around afternoon my midwife said we need to get things going because my contrax were like 10 or more minutes apart.

So for the rest of the afternoon we tried everything possible. Birth ball, nipple stimulation, peanut ball and on all fours, acupressure, homeopathic remedies, walking, squatting, birth stool the last thing was an enema . Everything.

After the enema contrax still did not start.

After many many tears we decided to transfer. It was around 5pm on Saturday at this point 38 hours of labor....

Get to the hospital and pitocin starts around 6 on the lowest possible dose and I was still refusing meds. I went a few hours with this and when the doc came in and checked me I was still not fully dilated. It was around 10pm Saturday night 42 hours of labor with no pain meds so far and a pitocin drip.

Doc said she will come back and check me again at 2am and they were upping the pitocin. I knew I couldn't do it. My body and mind could not handle the pain anymore.

My husband kicked everyone out of the room knowing we had an important decision to make. I looked at my husband and doula and said I think I need the epidural. I never in my whole life thought I would want or need to say those words. I worked SO hard for natural birth... but I was desperate and was in labor for 42 hours at this point.

After getting the epidural, and I handled it like a champ because I have a deathly fear of needles, I was finally able to relax and concentrate on getting rest and fully dilated.

Doc comes in about 1:30am and says she is thinking it's time for a csection. My body is just not dilating fully for me to push my baby out. Even on pitocin for over 6 hours I only went from a 8 to a 9. She knew we needed to get my baby out especially since my water had been broken the entire time....

When she said that my husband almost threw up..and I was scared to death. Once again, the last thing in the world I thought would ever happen to us, was happening.

But after asking a lot of questions just to ease my mind and know I did everything possible to have a natural birth I accepted what was about to happen. I was beyond ready to see my son.

Off to the OR I went and not getting into the details of the csection cuz there are so many..

My baby was finally brought into this world. After 48 hours of hard back labor, being transferred to a hospital and put on pitocin getting an epidural and then an unexpected csection...

Jaxon James Foster

March 23 2:30am 7lbs 11oz

After all that I had went through to have a natural birth it turns out I would never have been able to push him out because the cord was wrapped around his chest like a sash. I would have needed a csection no matter what

Recovering has been very hard. Breastfeeding has not been going so smoothly and I'm about to the point of starting formula for my own mental health.. I just cant take much more. We have been put through SO MUCH in these last 5 days. I do plan on writing a blog post with maybe a bit more details and pictures of my labor and birth. The pictures tell an incredible story. But for now here is my long but short birth story...

Here are a plethora of photos of my PERFECT son...

And I would love to answer any questions about my experience

nblondheim · March 2014

Holy moly that's quite the story!!! You're a champ! Congratulations! He's adorable!!!

SomersIsles · March 2014

He is so adorable!! Kudos to you and all your efforts!! Rest up and I hope your recovery goes smoothly

CONGRATS!!

kls33145 · March 2014

You're a trooper!!!!!
So sorry things didn't go even close to what you had hoped and planned for. But your son is healthy and so freakin cute!!
Wishing you a quick and easy recovery...especially after that long and challenging birth!

mevensen · March 2014

Wow lady! You are one strong woman! Congrats, he is perfect!

jennybean80 · March 2014

Sorry to hear things didn't I the way you hoped, but congratulations on your handsome boy!!

kaking78 · March 2014

Congratulations @lnvane00! Sounds like you went through hell and back, but you and the baby are safe and sound. That's what really matters.

Wish me luck, due date buddy - I go in for my induction tomorrow night!

kmeyers0611 · March 2014

Wow, you are such a trooper! Sorry things didn't go the way you hoped but I am amazed at how long you held out naturally. That must have been so hard! Good job on bringing this beautiful boy into the world! Congratulations!

amandapthompson · March 2014

Oh my gosh. First I just want to say, he is soooo stinking handsome. Congrats!!!
Second- I am sorry you didn't get the birth you wanted and holy crap are you amazing for going as long as you did med free. I got an epi as fast as I could and they didn't/couldn't get the dosage right and had sooo much pain in one spot that I couldn't imagine going completely med free thru that.

What's going on with your breast feeding momma? Wanna talk about it?

mrsdahamm · March 2014

So glad you and baby are ok. And like everyone else, sorry you didn't get what you hoped and planned for. He's amazingly beautiful mama!

lnvane00 · March 2014

Thank you girls. Your words mean so much to me.
@Jt7dreamz‌
good luck tomorrow!!!! I will be thinking about you all day! I hope you get the birth you want! Thanks for being there for me during my last weeks of pregnancy

akflutterby · March 2014

I'm so sorry you had such a hard time and things aren't getting any easier

Your little man is so adorable and I'm so happy for you that you've got him now. I hope things level out for you. Good luck AND congrats!!

nlane0723 · March 2014

Congrats! You're such a trooper! I got tears in my eyes just imagining how difficult your entire labor must have been. I hope your recovery goes smoothly!

jjt616 · March 2014

Congrats! He's beautiful! I'm sorry your birth didn't go the way you wanted it to. This happened to me with DD ad you truly do mourn the loss of your "planned birth". I let myself feel that and then as time went on I saw that she's healthy and I was healthy and that in the end that's what's truly important. Hang in there and I hope you continue to heal well.

LaurenAsh23 · March 2014

Wow! Glad everyone is safe and sound now at home. Take care of yourself and heal

AshleyO925 · March 2014

Congrats! I'm sorry you didn't get the labor you wanted but you are so strong for holding out as long as you did. Your little man is very handsome!

cdnmomma · March 2014

Wow! You're one tough cookie! Sorry it wasnt what you had hoped but congrats on your little man.

lnvane00 · March 2014

kaking78 said:
Congratulations @lnvane00! Sounds like you went through hell and back, but you and the baby are safe and sound. That's what really matters.

Wish me luck, due date buddy - I go in for my induction tomorrow night!

@kaking78
Oh good luck!! I got confused and linked the wrong screen name! I cant believe you have hung in there this long! Hope everything goes wonderful tomorrow night xoxo

lnvane00 · March 2014

Jt7dreamz said:

lnvane00 said:
Thank you girls. Your words mean so much to me.
@Jt7dreamz‌
good luck tomorrow!!!! I will be thinking about you all day! I hope you get the birth you want! Thanks for being there for me during my last weeks of pregnancy
I think you're confused. I had Blair early Monday. C section ;( she didn't descend.

Let's keep nj touch.

@Jt7dreamz‌
Yes I got confused. Sorry

lol momma brain I guess?
Omg she is absolutely adorable!! If you have a birth story posted let me know and I'll search for it. I'm mobile right now.. I wanna know all about what happened!
Xo

tsmith312 · March 2014

First off your son is absolutely gorgeous !! What a story !! I know we all have been waiting for your update

, and kudos to you for trying to go med free and for that long , I couldn't even imagine ! You are super strong ! I know the c-sections not what you imagined but atleast you have your healthy little boy , CONGRATS !!

ladyglittersparkles · March 2014

Congratulations
You're a champion!
He's do handsome.

ntdane · March 2014

Congrats on the birth of your handsome little man! I'm so sorry you have had such a rough road between labor and BF. Just know that switching to FF does not make you a bad or incapable mom. You need to preserve your mental health to be the best mama you can, and that's more important than anything.

jwls84 · March 2014

Aw I am sorry things didn't go as planned, but I am glad you have your adorable son in your arms now! Congratulations!!

Aturl · March 2014

So sorry it wasn't the experience you had wanted, but you def have a little stud that I'm sure makes it all worth it!!

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sebullows · March 2014

You are amazing! I was begging for an epi after 2 hours on pit.. It didn't work and I was screaming for DH to kill me. How in the world did you go that long in that much pain? You are my HERO. I'm sorry you ended up with a cs but I'm so glad you're both healthy. I have a hard time dealing w having a cs but then I think, I tried, I felt all the pain, I pushed for a long time, there was nothing I could do. I feel better when I think about that. I hope you start recovering better! Congratulations on your beautiful Jaxon!

LoveMoose85 · March 2014

Big Hugs to you!!! I'm so sorry your plan that you wanted so bad didn't work out for you. It's clear to see though, that you have a wonderful attitude about what had to happen and that all you cared about was the love and safety of LO. Congratulations! Our LOs are only a couple hours apart

Momstheword83 · March 2014

Congrats on your beautiful son!

BethRN1987 · March 2014

Congrats

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theluckiest9 · March 2014

Congratulations on your sweet boy!

LiFeIsAmIrAcLe · March 2014

I've been anxiously waiting for this announcement!!!!

Oh my. He is absolutely precious. I'm so sorry you had such an incredibly hard labor. Can't wait to see your L&D pictures.

ring_pop · March 2014

Congratulations!

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lindsey1031 · March 2014

I had the exact same experience! Though much shorter - 30 hours and I started in the hospital. Be sure that you are not hard on yourself about any of it. You did everything you could and were stronger than you ever could have imagined. He's here and safe. You will heal! Take good care of yourself.

kimberpoo · March 2014

good for you for holding out so long! your son is amazingly adorable. be glad that it turned out the way it did...both of you are healthy and together. you did your best and that is all you could hope for. there is no shame in not having a med-free / vaginal birth.

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lalaith50 · March 2014

Wow that us quite the story! So sorry it wasn't the experience you wanted, but congrats on your beautiful baby!

amholley1 · March 2014

Congratulations! Your baby boy is adorable. You are seriously such a strong mama. I can't believe you went so long without medical intervention. You did everything in your power to stick to your plan and that's amazing. I am on awe of your will power. You are amazing

laurenann89 · March 2014

Congrats on your beautiful boy and what a story!! You did it and a great job at that, so be proud!!

beachcomberbride · March 2014

What a story! You have my 36 hours beat!

I also didn't get to have the natural home water birth that I had planned, but somehow, all of the best laid plans don't seem to matter once you're holding that perfect little bundle of joy in your arms