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Late Term and Child Loss
lexusolsen
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Intro
lexusolsen
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I don't know where to start so I guess I will start with our loss.
On March 15 my family was in a car accident. I was with my 2.5 your old dd in the back seat while my dh drove us to the er to get her stitches for a gash in her forehead. We crashed in the way. I was 27 weeks pregnant with ds, Benjamin David. Once we arrived at the hospital I knew something was wrong because the tech kept telling me the dr had to look at the US and wouldn't let me look at it myself.
I had to delivered him via csection with my sister there for support while dh received his own medical treatment. Thankfully, we were able to be with him for a few hours and the hospital had a professional photographer take some tasteful pictures of us and our son.
Yesterday was one of the hardest days if my life- we had to id his sweet little body at the mortuary. It seems so final. I will never hold my sweet little boy again.
We are planning a memorial service for him in Saturday. I feel compelled to make sure every detail is perfect since this is the only celebration I will get to throw in honor of my little boy. No birthday parties, no baptism, just a memorial service and a reception.
Thankfully, we have a very supportive family that lives close. In fact, we are staying with my parents while we recover from our respective injuries. I just need to talk to someone else who gets it. I feel so empty and sometimes I find myself resting a hand on my belly, expecting to feel a kick.
On March 15 my family was in a car accident. I was with my 2.5 your old dd in the back seat while my dh drove us to the er to get her stitches for a gash in her forehead. We crashed in the way. I was 27 weeks pregnant with ds, Benjamin David. Once we arrived at the hospital I knew something was wrong because the tech kept telling me the dr had to look at the US and wouldn't let me look at it myself.
I had to delivered him via csection with my sister there for support while dh received his own medical treatment. Thankfully, we were able to be with him for a few hours and the hospital had a professional photographer take some tasteful pictures of us and our son.
Yesterday was one of the hardest days if my life- we had to id his sweet little body at the mortuary. It seems so final. I will never hold my sweet little boy again.
We are planning a memorial service for him in Saturday. I feel compelled to make sure every detail is perfect since this is the only celebration I will get to throw in honor of my little boy. No birthday parties, no baptism, just a memorial service and a reception.
Thankfully, we have a very supportive family that lives close. In fact, we are staying with my parents while we recover from our respective injuries. I just need to talk to someone else who gets it. I feel so empty and sometimes I find myself resting a hand on my belly, expecting to feel a kick.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. I agreed that the ladies on this board are wonderful and know just how you're feeling as we've all been there. Losing a child, is in my opinion, the hardest thing you'll ever go through. Give yourself time to grieve and I would highly recommend seeking out a support group or counselor in your area. I think this really helped me to get through those first few months.
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I am so sorry for the loss of your Benjamin. The women on this board have been an amazig source of support.
Hugs to you and again I am terribly sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss, such a terrible situation.
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