NERVOUS TO TAKE HPT

jchambers4 · March 2014

Not sure if I am posting in correct board but here goes...

We have been TTC for about 4 months and this month I have yet to get AF and am 6 days late. I haven't taken an HPT because though we'd be excited if it were positive for some reason I am feeling nervous/scared/anxious. And I am afraid of getting a positive and it ending up being chemical pregnancy or something going wrong. I guess I am paranoid.

We know we want a baby for sure but after only 4 months of trying it's like WHOA, are we really ready. Will I make a good mother, can I really go through child birth? Because honestly the whole process has always freaked me out. So now I feel so guilty for having these thoughts or 2nd guessing? Anyone else experience these feelings?

I know I am an over thinker, I do it for everything. I hate being this way. LOL

mb314 · March 2014

Just take the test. Pregnancy (and parenthood) are full of worries, nervousness, anxiety, etc. The anxiety of not knowing is worse. It's better to face whatever the result is now. Go pee on a stick.

abbyful · March 2014

Just pee on a damned stick already. Why the drama? It's not going to change the result.

Mizoo · March 2014

Peeing on something will not magically make you more pregnant if you are. Just dooo it :-)

jchambers4 · March 2014

I know, I will POAS this weekend for sure! I don't want to do it during the week and have to go to work after getting results.LOL

I am just saying, reality is setting in and it makes me feel a rush of all these emotions, wondering if I am just crazy of if anyone else has had these feelings.

Manateearmz · March 2014

You should probably just pee on the stick. With both of my BFP's I went into work the same day.

MrsMaui12614 · March 2014

I am sure most women have had those questions "I hope I'm a good mom"..."Am I ready for this"... You will be fine. Take the test and it will probably lessen your anxiety. My guess is half of your issues are from not knowing what the result is going to be. I got KU on our honeymoon 2 weeks after going off BCP and here I am. Deep breathe, nothing happens in the world by mistake and avoiding the truth isn't going to help you.

jchambers4 · March 2014

MrsMaui12614 said:

I am sure most women have had those questions "I hope I'm a good mom"..."Am I ready for this"... You will be fine. Take the test and it will probably lessen your anxiety. My guess is half of your issues are from not knowing what the result is going to be. I got KU on our honeymoon 2 weeks after going off BCP and here I am. Deep breathe, nothing happens in the world by mistake and avoiding the truth isn't going to help you.

Thanks. you're right. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't alone in feeling this way.

shan24 · March 2014

I know the feeling. I bought a test when I was 5 days late and let it sit in my bathroom drawer for over 24 hours. We weren't TTC (although we're very happy about it), but I think deep down I knew I was pregnant and POAS would have made it real.

Although, I will say that I felt better after I knew for sure.

marajay6 · March 2014

Pregnancy and motherhood is going to totally drive you crazy if you are too scared to see the result of an HPT. Find your confidence and learn to roll with the punches.

Squiddly · March 2014

I don't understand why you can't go to work after you POAS?

jchambers4 · March 2014

Because my DH wants to be there to see the results.

He's super excited.

theresat858 said:

Squiddly said:

I don't understand why you can't go to work after you POAS?

Because clearly she can't focus on work if she finds out she is pregnant, because it's such a huge surprise after having unprotected sex for 4 months.

jchambers4 · March 2014

wow I thought these boards were so people could express their thoughts and concerns and get support and advice.

don't get why people feel the need to be so snotty and rude. ah well.

jchambers4 · March 2014

Nicb13 said:

jchambers4 said:

wow I thought these boards were so people could express their thoughts and concerns and get support and advice.
don't get why people feel the need to be so snotty and rude. ah well.

Oh geez. Haven't heard this one before.

well, that's is what message boards are for, sad some ppl just can't find it in themselves to be polite.

I've been looking around her a lot and have seen some other discussions that are incredibly ridiculous and I don't feel the need to comment to make them feel stupid for posting. Didn't think mine was that bad. I am just felt like venting. sorry it upset some of you so much.

Thanks to the rest of you who showed support and could relate.

tealowl · March 2014

jchambers4 said:

wow I thought these boards were so people could express their thoughts and concerns and get support and advice.

don't get why people feel the need to be so snotty and rude. ah well.

** quote fail **

Do I still get a BINGO even with a quote fail?

jchambers4 · March 2014

Thanks @ theresat858

You're right and that's the plan POAS tonight.

jchambers4 · March 2014

snarky, rude...same thing. But whatever.

I decided not to share my thoughts with friends or family yet as they are all bugging us so much to have a baby so we decided not to tell them until we know for sure. Don't want to get them all pumped for no reason. Which is why I thought the boards would be a good place to hang out for now.

PrimRoseMama · March 2014

I think you need to chill out. I understand being excited, but you need to stop being ridiculous. POAS & move on with your life. It's pregnancy not a coronation. :-??

Also, these message boards are for entertainment. You get support by giving it. Not just showing up to write to us like we are your personal diary.

8411mommy · March 2014

Its okay to feel a little nervous. I remember being 5 days late. I told my husband and he jumped straight out of the bed at 5am to go out and get us a HPT! lol we drove everywhere and finally a grocery store opened up at 6am so we could buy one. Went home and POAS and it was a BFP! We had been trying for almost 3 months. Its so exciting and nerve racking the first time around! Don't worry and POAS when you are ready with your husband. If he wants to be there for it that's great. But if he doesn't have any idea yet whey not POAS today and surprise him with the news tonight! Hope this helps!

Helenahhandbasket · March 2014

jchambers4 said:

I know, I will POAS this weekend for sure! I don't want to do it during the week and have to go to work after getting results.LOL
I am just saying, reality is setting in and it makes me feel a rush of all these emotions, wondering if I am just crazy of if anyone else has had these feelings.

Um, I POAS at work and got a BFP. And had to sit thru a meeting. I was keyed up for sure, but you do what you have to do.

awc1986 · March 2014

I waited until I was 4 days late before testing. I was also nervous as is was our first time of trying after our miscarriage, 3 cycles earlier. I was scared of the BFP because i didn't want to go through another MC. I took the test after work and it was immediately positive. If you don't think you'll be able to focus, take the test when you get home. Good luck.

momthatlifts · March 2014

Yeah I took my test right before work and threw it in the trash. Forgot about it and took another that night. It was extremely faint. You will live. Take a test. If you want to be pregnant the only way of knowing is if you test

EmuTavi · March 2014

I completely understand how you are feeling. I just got my BFP yesterday after being 5 days late. The whole chemical pregnancy thing freaks me out and has/had me worried. I don't think I will feel 100% until I go in to the doctor and they tell me it's a go. Take the test and get it over with, it's like ripping off a big happy band aid (hopefully). One thing to look forward to it once you take the test, if it is BFP hubby will treat you like you're porcelain. Mine was reprimanding me last night for making his lunch for him and cleaning up dinner.

YTLCNURSE · March 2014

jchambers4 said:

I know, I will POAS this weekend for sure! I don't want to do it during the week and have to go to work after getting results.LOL
I am just saying, reality is setting in and it makes me feel a rush of all these emotions, wondering if I am just crazy of if anyone else has had these feelings.

So are you saying that once you POAS this weekend that you will not be returning back to work? I'm confused.

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