Why are you Team Green?

jnnfrrose6 · March 2014

If you're Team Green, what made you decide not to find out the sex of your baby? We are team green and I'm curious what made other people decide to be as well. Short version for us, we were team green last time but ultimately found out to tell FIL before he passed away (ended up telling him the day before he passed away). We chose not to tell anyone else, though. After that experience, it just doesn't seem important at all what the sex of our baby is and so far it's looking like no one is on their deathbed, so we'll get to stay team green to the end.

katnipeverclean · March 2014

With DD I felt like I had to know in order to prepare ALL THE THINGS so that everything would be perfect after she was born. After at trip the NICU, a raging case of PPD/A and a constantly screaming crying baby with colic I realized that it doesn't make one lick of difference so I'm trying to be more go with the flow this time. Babies don't need coodinated planned nurseries with monogrammed burp cloths and all that stuff I thought was so important with DD, They are going to be who they are so why even bother?

Plus, since I am having a RCS I have to essentially pick this baby's birthday. I'm none too happy about this, so not knowing the sex will give me something to focus on instead of OHMYGOD THEY'RE GOING TO CUT ME OPEN TOMORROW!!!

hgtvmom · March 2014

We are team green because we thought it would be fun for US. I couldn't care less about what our friends and family think on this. If I have ever had the temptation to give in, the hounding of others has helped me dig my heels in.

As a bonus, it's really helping us keep everything we buy neutral. It would be so easy to get caught up in all the pink or all the blue out there. No little girl needs a pink swing, pink car seat blah blah blah, but it would be super tempting to go that route if we knew. So far, we have nothing that can't be reused for the next kiddo, regardless of sex.

katnipeverclean · March 2014

Pup4gdb said:

We are team green because we thought it would be fun for US. I couldn't care less about what our friends and family think on this. If I have ever had the temptation to give in, the hounding of others has helped me dig my heels in. As a bonus, it's really helping us keep everything we buy neutral. It would be so easy to get caught up in all the pink or all the blue out there. No little girl needs a pink swing, pink car seat blah blah blah, but it would be super tempting to go that route if we knew. So far, we have nothing that can't be reused for the next kiddo, regardless of sex.

1) Me too! People bugging me or saying you'll never got the whole way there just makes me more determined. I'm damn stubborn.

2) Yes, this is nice. We did buy all big stuff in gender neutral colors (teal and lime) because we knew we would want to use it for baby number two. It was hard though to turn down all those cute pink car seats and strollers though (with DD we found out). I almost gave in to the pink a few times, but my practical side won out!

hgtvmom · March 2014

@SarahVol131‌ I could use my practical side if we knew, but DH has NO practical side! It would be super hard not to give in to him!

I am also to a point that I realize that baby will not care if it is wearing "boy" stuff or "girl" stuff. someone was just complaining to be yesterday that they couldn't buy any SF Giants stuff for the kid because she didn't know what it is. Ummm... It's orange and black. As long as there are no ruffles, it's all good for boys or girls. Even with the ruffles, a boy wouldn't care. And we will know boy/girl long before the kid is able to complain about how we dress him/her.

I kinda told my mom the same thing about a baby mattress the other day. She is getting it for us. The kid will sleep where we set it down for the most part. And it won't be able to complain that it has a $80 mattress instead of a $180 one. My response was "as long as it's not flammable and won't suffocate the kid, pick out a mattress of your choice."

Chiropractors and therapists won't be needed for a few years. :-)

mcvgal · March 2014

With DS, we just never really wanted to know, I really wanted that moment of DH announcing it at delivery. We didn't have much ready since he arrived at 30 weeks, but we still got all big ticket items gender nuetral becasue we knew we wanted at least 1 more.

The day DS was born was really scary, no one really expects a preemie. And even though I wanted the moment of DH announcing it, I wanted him up by me holding my hand during the emergency c-section. I remember crying because I was scared and when the doctor said "It's a boy" those tears turned to tears of joy because I knew he was safe.

I have no idea how birth will go this time around but I want to have that moment again, when at least for an instant everything is pure joy and not worrying about myself.

On a selfish note, I love how annoyed people get that we are Team Green:)

Jillybean100 · March 2014

We were team green with DD and loved finding out at the birth and then also picking a name after seeing her so we're sticking with team green for this baby too.

tealowl · March 2014

Pretty much same/similar reasons as everyone else! I love the not knowing, I like that it'll be a surprise at birth (Plus, S/O will get to cut the cord AND announce the sex hopefully right then).

I just disagree with all the separation of boy/girl stuff - clothes and toys, etc. I didn't want a gender placed on my unborn child. I just want to be pregnant. Baby doesn't need a name right now, or a social construct. Just let me grow him/her first, please. All I cared at the ultrasound was seeing a healthy baby, not a penis or vagina.

And yes, I'm delighted that it annoys people to no end. =]

However, the cons to me are: Trying to come up with two names you love rather than one, that's proven to be difficult. And it's more difficult than I thought to find neutral clothing (not that I mind putting 'boy' stuff on girls and vice versa, its just annoying). Hell, we can barely find a car seat thats not blue or pink colored!

coybig · March 2014

::arms folded with pouty lip::

@KleMcK made me.

walterjenne · March 2014

DH wants to be involved in every little way possible so this way he will get to tell the world the sex and name of Baby P.

We also delight in the in the fact that it drives some people crazy and that it forces us to prepare for not just this child but and future kids since we wont have gender specific stuff. I do dislike not being able to buy many clothes because I would like to dress baby in gender specific outfits.

Katieryan13 · March 2014

I agree with pretty much everything everyone else has said. I also think it might give me that extra boost in the delivery room if I need it!

What makes me angry is when someone says they want to know the sex of the baby to be prepared, like we won't be prepared because I don't know if it's a boy or a girl? Grrr...

AutumnBonfire · March 2014

DH talked me into it the first time and it turned out to be a lot of fun keeping it a mystery. He let me decide what to do this time around and I thought it would be fun again to keep it a surprise. DH really liked being able to be the one to announce the sex at the birth.

I'm do also enjoy that it really annoys other people.

It is hard picking two names. DH doesn't come up with any ideas and he's shooting down all of mine so far, so it would be easier only having to pick one instead of two.

abrazz · March 2014

We found out with DD. I wanted to be team green but DH wanted to know. We made a deal that we wouldn't find out with the next one. I couldn't believe he was a little boy. I was sure we were having another girl. We almost found out with this one but DH doesn't want to know. I don't know why we don't need to know. We have everything we need since DD's major purchases were all neutral (except for one pink bouncy chair) and we have clothes for both to start out in. Other than that, it's just pretty neat to find out at delivery.

BBColt78 · March 2014

::::butting in::::

I was Team Green with DD and on the April '11 board we did a Team Green check-in every two weeks. There are a million check-ins and you probably don't need another, but it was actually fun. We talked about the dumb comments from others, "I can't do that, I'm SUCH a planner." and other comments like you girls posted. We also discussed names, ways to announce to others at birth, clothing finds and that sort of thing. Had to mention it

::::butting out::::

SweetTamale38 · March 2014

We just want to be totally surprised. We are looking forward to hearing the doctor say, "It's a...."

lashachris · March 2014

I was team green and was determined to not find out. However, I didnt feel the emotional connection to this baby as much as I did with my son (wasnt team green) I think it might have been because I really didnt think this baby would make it, since im high risk and all. I think it was my defense mechanism unfortunately. And finding out allowed me to truly put things in Gods hands and I glad I found out as we now feel closer to the baby, and are still continuing ti buy things baby nuetral with a few bows in between.

allycheer00 · March 2014

For me, there is no reason why I need to know. I will not buy a ton of gender specific things after my child is born, so I don't see the need to start doing it now.

Knowing the sex is not going to help me become better connected to my child and, for me, calling the child by name while they're still in the womb is weird. I have to meet them first.

Probably the biggest reason is that I'm one of those people who passes the days by having something big to look forward to. Yes, having a child is a BFD but not finding out the sex as well adds to the excitement. Saying that I love surprises is an understatement. And as PP said, it'll be an extra boost in the delivery room as I'm sure I will need it.

Lastly, I'm also one of those people who doesn't like to do what everyone else is doing. There are a ton of people around me expecting around the same time. They are all finding out. I strive to dare to be different and I like to stick out. Maybe it's a little bit of my Taurus stubbornness in me also. I don't want to know because you want me to.

tarynkim · March 2014

We found out with my son so I wanted to try something different this time. I feel so much more relaxed and knowing the sex just doesn't feel as important:) Last time I thought I needed everything to be just so, but I soon found out that none of those little things I stressed so much over really mattered! I just knew our ultrasound tech was going to slip, but she held strong so now that we've made it through the anatomy scan it looks like we'll be going the distance as team green!!

tarynkim · March 2014

I've been a little surprised at people's annoyance when they find out we don't know the sex! Weird, and also amusing!

MTAtlanta · March 2014

I just thought it'd be a lot more fun to wait and it really was! Sounds corny but it's fun to guess and do all those old wives tails experiments. :-)

It made our families crazy but i didn't care. It was annoying when others would say, "well I'm just a planner." Knowing the gender is not required for planning esp if you want to have more kids bc it's practical to have the big stuff in neutral colors...and you tend to get more practical gifts.

This time dh wanted to find out so we did but it would have been wonderful to wait like the first time.

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