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2nd Pregnancy...Mom Guilt

ebalkitsebalkits member
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So, we're expecting our second and my morning sickness has kicked in big time in the past couple of days.  I'm nauseous all day, extremely exhausted and my emotions are all over the place.  I'm a SAHM to my 21 month old daughter and I've been having a hard time keeping up with her.  I feel so bad because I just don't have the energy to play with her as much as I usually do, especially the physical stuff like chasing her around.  For the most part, she's pretty good about occupying herself, but I feel so bad when she's trying to engage me in activities and all I want to do is curl up in a ball and lay on the couch.  I try my best, but sometimes I just can't do it.  What's worse, is that my patience is wearing very thin and I'm finding my tolerance level for her occasional tantrums/disobedience to be getting lower.  A few times I've gotten short and even snapped at her and of course, I feel super guilty when I do.  If this is anything like my last pregnancy, I know I have several more weeks at least of feeling this way.  Anybody else out there experiencing this?
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Re: 2nd Pregnancy...Mom Guilt

  • cMichelle0423cMichelle0423 member
    I'm going through the same thing with 1 year old. He's such a mama's boy too which makes it hard even when DH is around. It's gotten better but even now that I'm starting my 3rd tri, it's still hard to find the energy.
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  • ebalkitsebalkits member
    I'm glad I'm not the only one who's been resorting to TV...lol I know that she'll have no memory of this and that the time spent directly with her is only going to get worse with the arrival of the new baby, but it is hard to shake the guilt sometimes. I do find comfort in hearing others are going through the same thing, so thanks for sharing!
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  • mb314mb314 member
    I understand where you are coming from.  I am not a stay at home mom, but we were recently on vacation, and I felt so sick that I kept plopping DS down in front of Elmo TV (even though he really just wanted to play).  I've also gotten short with him. 

    The way I see it is that I think it's good for kids to have siblings so that they learn they are not always the center of attention and that they have to share mom/dad's time.  It starts not necessarily when the baby comes, but before when we're pregnant.  Our LO's will turn out just fine if we don't give them all of our attention for the next few months (and things will get better during the 2nd tri, I hope!)
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