I am wondering how everyone has been handling nighttime nursing sessions, particularly in the first few weeks after you got home. Specifically:
1. Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH?
2. Who changes baby?
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else?
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
I am 35 weeks with my second and would like to discuss with DH how this is all going to go once the baby arrives. The first time around I had a c-section but still got out of bed myself to change the baby and nurse her on the couch because I couldn't get comfortable in bed, but it was really a lot on me. So I am looking for different ideas. Any thoughts you guys have would be great!
Re: What is your nighttime nursing routine? Please share!
2. Who changes baby?
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else?
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
1. Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH?
Me, all me. DH says that he can't be tired at work, so I am the one to do all the night stuff.
2. Who changes baby?
Again, me. DH is disgusted by poopy diapers anyways...says it looks like queso dip.
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else?
I bring DS out to the living room and nurse him on the couch sitting up. It is more comfortable for me.
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
I am not unhappy, but I would prefer that DH help a little more. Even when he has the following day off he claims he "doesn't hear" DS and that by the time he wakes up I have already taken care of it.
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Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH? Me - I have him sleeping in his RNP right next to me.
2. Who changes baby? Me - the changing table is on the dresser in our bedroom and we have a dim light there to help me see.
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else? I nurse in bed with the boppy, sitting up (since we are both still learning) so that I can put him right down when he's finished and goes back to sleep. Then I can just settle in and catch some sleep too.
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different? I'm happy with it. I'm faster at changing diapers and getting to the baby before he gets too wound up or awake so the baby sleeps more - which means I do too! On the weekends, DH still helps, but I have to wake him up to get the baby!.
1.Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH?
Me. Every single night since ds has been born. Dh would help a little when he was on maternity leave with me. I nurse so I just have always got up. I STILL get up every single night with him and I am back at work full time as of last week. Even on DH off days, Mondays and tuesdays (he watches ds on those days) I have to get up for work and I am still the one who gets up with him in the middle of the night.
2. Who changes baby? Again. Me, all me!! DH never wakes up at night the whole time im feeding and changing ds he is over there sleeping like a baby!
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else? I will go in the living room and change ds and then come back and sit up in bed and nurse that way we can just lay back down and go to sleep.
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
Am I happy to get up with ds at night? yes, i do enjoy it and it has never bothered me that dh doesn't get up with LO until last week when I started back to work fulltime and im a fucking zombie in the day! I resent the fact that i can't stay at home and dh doesn't help me with ds. he says he will get up and feed him but i feel is pointless to try and wake his hateful ass up and have him feed him and then me still have to get up and pump anyways. Just seems pointless and I would rather not deal with a hateful man at 3 o clock in the morning. I am starting to resent that I can't be a sSAHM and I have to work and leave my baby. just fucking sucks. : /
Initially, I wished for more help from DH, but DD and I got into our own little routine and it works well for everyone now!
Since DH can't nurse it's pretty much all me. Occasionally he takes either the midnight feed or 6am feed with a bottle so i can get a long stretch uninterrupted. On weekends I go back to sleep in the morning while DH entertains LO. He wakes me when it's time for the next feed.
2. Who changes baby?
Whoever gets up with him, so generally me. It only takes a couple minutes. No big deal.
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else?
Usually in the living room in the couch. Nursing while lying down is hard with my small boobs and I get uncomfortable sitting up in the bed like that. I'd also probably fall asleep sitting in the total darkness. And i might get pissy with DH if i have to listen to him snore while I'm up.
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
I am now. It took some getting used to, and I was exhausted for a while, but now it's routine. DS had also gotten faster at nursing, sleeps longer stretches, and goes down more easily these days, so that helps.
BFP 11.8.12 * EDD 7.17.13 * MC 12.20.12
BFP #1 1/26/13; EDD 10/5/13; MMC and D&C 2/26/13.
BFP #2 7/8/13; EDD 3/19/14; DD born 3/2014 due to pre-e
BFP #3 8/24/15; EDD 4/29/16; MC 9/6/15
BFP #4 10/31/15; EDD 7/10/16 MC 1/23/16
BFP #5 12/20/16 EDD 9/2/17, DS born 8/2017 due to pre-e
BFP #6 10/19/19 EDD 7/2/20
1. Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH? If DH is off, he gets up and changes her, otherwise I do.
2. Who changes baby? DH
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else? Since she is sleeping in her crib, I feed (with the boppy) in the glider. She doesn't leave her room between 9 and 7, sometimes later. (Last night she slept 10-5:30, ate, slept again 6:15-11:30 when I woke her)
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different? It works well for us. DD sleeps great, DH helps when he is off, we get a decent amount of sleep!
The best thing we did was set a day vs night routine from the beginning. She knows swaddle+dim lights+lullaby= nighttime.
dx PCOS 2007
BFP #1 (natural) 12/23/2010. Stillbirth due to IC 4/2/2011
TTC #2 starting 03/2012
RE starting 07/2012
05/2013 BFP on a Letrozole (Femara)/trigger!
Cerclage, Procardia, Makena, GD (with insulin), MBR, and we made it!
Our Angel was born sleeping at 20 weeks due to IC.
1. Who gets up out of bed to get baby? You or DH? - DH is in charge from 7pm to 10pm (I sleep), and then I get up starting around 12am and do the night shift so DH can rest before work. On weekends, DH does the 6am-8am shift too.
2. Who changes baby? Me, right before /i feed her
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else? In the ;iving room so that I can pump after she is fed. (I have to pump and thn feed thru a bottle)
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different? I asume thar we might change things once I go back to wok, but no idea what we'll do yet
2. Who changes baby?
3. Where do you nurse? In bed sitting up, in bed lying down, somewhere else?
4. Are you happy with this arrangement or would you have preferred something different?
BFP #3 on 7/23/16 EDD 3/30/16