FRUSTRATING!!!

Yaz14 · March 2014

I just got the most frustrating news. I don't know what to think or feel. I had my first OB appointment today. According to my dates I should be 9w1d pregnant. They weren't going to do an ultrasound but said that since their ultrasound tech was free would I like one. Of course I jumped at the chance to see what was going on in there. When they did the ultrasound they discovered that I have a retroverted uterus meaning that my uterus tilts back making it hard to see anything. This I vaguely remember my doctor telling me years ago. So the tech decided to do a vaginal ultrasound. When she did this she found the embryo and yolk sack and she said it was measuring at 6w2d AT THE MOST. She also couldn't detect a heartbeat or fetal pole which she said would be quite normal if I really was only 6 weeks. This makes absolutely no sense if my dates are correct which I am certain they are. My last LMP was on 19th Jan and my husband and I had unprotected sex only ONCE on 6th Feb. I got my BFP on 18th Feb. If my dates are correct I could possibly be one week out at the very most which would make me 8 weeks pregnant. There just is no way that I am only 6 weeks. My husband and I only had unprotected sex that one time apart from a few times in the past 2 weeks.

The ultrasound tech and midwife were both a bit bewildered themselves. They said that it could just be that my dates are way off (like I said this is pretty much impossible), I have an extremely slow developing baby or that I really am 8-9 weeks along and that the embryo stopped growing at 6 weeks which will mean I will start miscarrying soon. I am so fucking FRUSTRATED and upset as is my husband. I have continued to have pregnancy symptoms, including nausea on and off, sore boobs and terrible breakouts. The sore boobs and breakouts especially have in fact only gotten worse in the past few weeks. I don't feel as though my symptoms have lessened in any way.

I have to go and have a beta HCG blood test tomorrow and then another in 2 days to check that my HCG is in fact rising. I also have to have a follow up ultrasound in a week. The midwife said that if the baby is growing normally she would expect it to have almost doubled in size by then. I am going absolutely out of my mind crazy here! Does anyone else have experience with this type of thing or have any advice? It would be greatly appreciated. Thanks ladies

Rochellelonsdale · March 2014

I had a similar situation happen I was suppose to e 8weeks as my first ultrasound measured 6weeks I was asked to come back in two weeks and the sack was at the same measurements .. My hog levels were still rising and I had no bleeding until the ultrasound was finished
They rushed my scans though and sent me to the doctor and the doctor informed me I was at the start of a miscarriage, my symptoms had stopped the week before but I did not think anything of it, they tested my hog levels twice after the ultrasound and they were still rising

After attending hospital in emergency they said they could not perform a kurate because there was no more bleeding and I had no pain

I eventually got home and then the cramping and bleeding started .. I miscarried

But the good thing is you are still showing symptoms

I just wanted to share my story because I had the run around for four days .. So my advice is that you make sure your doctor is on top of it because I would hate for you to go through what I went through

Goodluck and I hope everything turns out well for you and your husband

MMason12 · March 2014

I would agree with PP and symptoms mean nothing! They really don't. Back in Sept I had a missed miscarriage. We found out a little over 9 weeks that our baby stop growing and having a heart beat around 7.5 weeks. The entire two weeks I 100% still felt pregnant. I had every symptom in the book.

If you only had sex once then your dates should be fairly accurate. It's normal during the first trimester to be off by a week or so on ultrasounds, but it's not normal to be as off as you are. It's going to sound mean, but if I were you two I would start to prepare myself for the worst news. I obviously cannot say for sure but it sounds like you're the same thing I did -- a mmc. I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how sad and frustrating it is.

meg1147 · March 2014

I am currently in the waiting game right now. I measured about a week and a half behind what I thought I was as well...I have another ultrasound a week from today and am really hoping everything has grown...

Sending positive vibes your way!! Waiting is the worst part.

baloneydisc · March 2014

Unfortunately symptoms mean nothing. I had a missed m/c before getting pregnant with DD. I should've been 9w when we found out the baby stopped developing at 6w3d (two days after we heard the heartbeat). I still had pregnancy symptoms for about a week after my m/c was complete. Based on the info you've provided it doesn't look good. I'm sorry for your loss.

AlwaysForgetful · March 2014

I actually had that happen. We had only DTD ONCE. So I pretty much knew when baby was made. The ultrasound just showed a sac and I should have been 8 1/2 weeks along. They told me I was either going to have a m/c or my dates were off. They opted to wait till what I estimated as week 12 to do the next ultrasound. That ultrasound put me at only 2 days behind what I originally thought. Baby was fine. She is now 6 months old.

I have no explanation on the lack of growth and then the sudden catch up. I never had anything like that on any of my other 4 and I was always right withing a day or 2 of all my estimated dates.

Yaz14 · March 2014

Thank you ladies for all your stories/advice, especially @AlwaysForgetful - your story gives me a glimmer of hope. Unfortunately the evidence staring me in the face tells me it ain't gonna be good. I'm not sure if it's just because I'm actually looking out for it or because it's suddenly happened but my symptoms seem to have lessened significantly overnight, which is obviously not good. I'm going to sound like a total Negative Nancy but I think I would rather prepare myself for the worst and possibly be pleasantly surprised rather than hold onto any little shred of hope and be devastated. It's really raw at the moment. My husband and I have lay around since last night just crying - my husband never cries so it really sucks seeing him like this. I went and had my first HCG test this morning and then went into work where I was a blithering mess so my boss sent me home. I really just wish that it would be over with already. This sucks.

Mizoo · March 2014

So sorry you are going through this @Yaz14. ((hugs))

AlwaysForgetful · March 2014

@Yaz14 (Hugs)

Yaz14 · March 2014

@RedheadBaker - I apologise if you're saying this as a way to make me feel better but loss of symptoms is actually a recognised sign of missed miscarriage/miscarriage. Yes multiple people have said that they continued to experience symptoms during/after mmc but no one has said that they went on to have a healthy baby after losing their symptoms in the middle of a potential mmc. I'm really not trying to be bitchy or argumentative but I am feeling pretty down about losing my pregnancy symptoms especially in the middle of everything else that's going on.

Yaz14 · March 2014

theresat858 said:

Yaz14 said:

@RedheadBaker - I apologise if you're saying this as a way to make me feel better but loss of symptoms is actually a recognised sign of missed miscarriage/miscarriage. Yes multiple people have said that they continued to experience symptoms during/after mmc but no one has said that they went on to have a healthy baby after losing their symptoms in the middle of a potential mmc. I'm really not trying to be bitchy or argumentative but I am feeling pretty down about losing my pregnancy symptoms especially in the middle of everything else that's going on.

Actually if you scroll down a bit, there are always posts about how its entirely normal for symptoms to come and go in a healthy pregnancy.

I know that symptoms come and go in a normal, healthy pregnancy. But the fact that my symptoms have almost completely disappeared after being told that potentially I have had a mmc just freaks me out that little bit more. I can't look at my loss of symptoms right now and think "oh well, that's normal"

I'm having a really hard time trying to remain positive.

sdumont · March 2014

Yaz14 How are you doing? I am going through something similar, it is really hard. I am sorry.

Yaz14 · March 2014

@sdumont Unfortunately it seems to be bad news. My HCG dropped from 54,200 to 49,800 over 48 hours. Midwife tells me that's not good and to not hold my breath. I still have to have an ultrasound in a few days to confirm but I think I know what to expect...

I'm sorry you're going through something similar. How's it going?

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