I'm a FTM and am planning on giving birth at St Luke's-Roosevelt in there birthing center. I've done my reading but there's a lot you can't tell from a pamphlet, website, etc. I was wondering if any other moms out there have given birth there and could offer any tips. I am familiar with other areas of the hospital but not the maternity ward and am curious what it is like. I'm not scared or nervous about the delivery, just hospitals. I had a bad experience last year at another hospital where I had to undergo a procedure when I wasn't fully aware of the situation and was coerced into signing forms and such and was left with months of issues because of it.
Please no responses telling me that I will change my mind about the epidural when the time comes. It is something I am not open to since everyone I know that had one regrets it every time and my cousin was left in severe pain for weeks art wards. I want to have as natural a birth as I can manage and I'll only be using acrostics as a last resort.
Here are my main concerns:
I'm seeing Dr. Chuu. Is anyone familiar with her/used her before?
I checked the website and with the birthing center, does your dr have to support it to give birth there?
Have you heard of anyone being coerced into getting an unnecessary c-section or epidural (I have read horror stories about places where Drs. And nurses have told payients that they were inconveniencing them by not getting an epidural)?
Does the hospital generally respect your choices as far as drugs go? I would like to have Demerol as a last resort or no2 if it is available. Again, some drs are known to grumble at a patient's choice if it is not their own personal belief about things. Case in point, morphine has no effect on me but at the other hospital I was at, they gave It to me anyways and called me an IV drug user because it had no effect on the excruciating pain I was in so obviously that makes me an addict as a result I was left in horrible pain for 12 hours until they gave me another opioid which I cannot have because of my asthma but did not respect my wishes not to have it because I am not a dr.
How much freedom are you given to wander around?
Are parents/partners allowed to stay while you are in labour or do visiting hours apply? (In other areas of the hospital certain liberties are sometimes taken with visiting hours so I'm wondering if that applies here,too)
Sorr for the questions and the long post. Any help is appreciated