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My DD is 22 months and we have been TTC since December with no luck so far (still early I know) and I know it makes it extra hard to get pregnant with me still breastfeeding. I wanted to stop breastfeeding by the time she was 2 and our doctor and my husband has said that the only way DD and I are going to stop breastfeeding is if we stop cold turkey. I feel like that's just mean but even after trying to limit the amount of times we nurse DD never gets used to the smaller amount. She still asks to nurse all the time. I feel like this has to happen soon since we're getting close to the 2 year mark and we want to have another baby. Today is the first day we're no longer going to nurse and I cried so much last night and told my husband I was going to need lots of support. I know it's time to stop but it's still so hard. DD doesn't even get much milk from me, if any, so I know she'll do fine nutrition wise. It's just a comfort thing for her.... and me. Support and advice would be very much appreciated. Snuggle lots with those little ones while nursing, it'll be over before you know it. 
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  • MyaflowersMyaflowers member
    No advice here either, but good job for sticking it out this long! Reading your story made me tear up because I have a sweet DD who is also very attached to nursing, and I know it will be so emotionally difficult to wear when the time comes. {{HUGS}} to you and DD as you make this difficult transition.
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    *wean* not wear. Stupid mobile won't let me edit!
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  • carrieandtimcarrieandtim member
    I also believe you don't need to go cold turkey. We got pregnant when DD was 15 months old and I nursed her until she was 19 months old - per my OB telling me to stop by 20 weeks pregnant. Close to when DD was 17 months, I limited it to morning and night. Around 18 months I stopped the morning feed and gave her breakfast quickly after she woke up. She never asked for it again in the morning because she got a yummy breakfast!! Now, the night time feedings were the most difficult to wean her off because she used it to fall asleep (definitely not doing that with this LO!) The last night we had together, I cried and cried while she nursed. It was so hard! But we did it and she is doing very well. I think the more gradual, the better. Something we noticed after weaning was her attachment to me and not wanting to have anything to do with her daddy. We chalk it up to stopping our intimate time together and her yearning for us time. Maybe not everyone had that, but we sure did.

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    I've tried in the past to limit the amount of nursing and DD never gets used to the change, she'll still ask for it constantly. I took us down to three times a day in November and then two times a day in February and she stills asks for it all the time. 
    I've never charted. Honestly, I don't know anything about it, we got pregnant very easy with DD. 
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    Thanks all for the support. It's been going pretty well honestly. I think that tells me she was ready. I guess it's a good thing I did this now because this afternoon I got a BFP. 
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  • URMySunshine77URMySunshine77 member
    carrieandtim said:
    I also believe you don't need to go cold turkey. We got pregnant when DD was 15 months old and I nursed her until she was 19 months old - per my OB telling me to stop by 20 weeks pregnant. Close to when DD was 17 months, I limited it to morning and night. Around 18 months I stopped the morning feed and gave her breakfast quickly after she woke up. She never asked for it again in the morning because she got a yummy breakfast!! Now, the night time feedings were the most difficult to wean her off because she used it to fall asleep (definitely not doing that with this LO!) The last night we had together, I cried and cried while she nursed. It was so hard! But we did it and she is doing very well. I think the more gradual, the better. Something we noticed after weaning was her attachment to me and not wanting to have anything to do with her daddy. We chalk it up to stopping our intimate time together and her yearning for us time. Maybe not everyone had that, but we sure did. Keep in kind that getting pregnant doesn't just happen because you're trying. It can take a year or more!
    @carrieandtim: We are in a similar situation. DS is 14 months and we are TTC. I think that I might have ovulated yesterday because I had EWCM for three days. Were you able to see your fertile window before the PPP? Also, when you conceived, how often were you BFing? I really hope that we were able to catch that first egg before PPP. 

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