Call me weird but...

ashleykay102 · March 2014

I would rather pump the milk and give it to our child through a bottle then actually attach the baby to my breast. Thoughts?

MrsJG3 · March 2014

Um......

sucredee · March 2014

Weird....that's way too much work when it can be so easy (barring any problems that it). But if you are willing to do it then good for you.

Chichigo · March 2014

It can be hard (but not impossible) to maintain supply long term that way. You need to stick to a pumping schedule.

kjsmith9 · March 2014

EPing isn't "weird" - but this post is...

RoosterWrangler · March 2014

I actually thought I would prefer to pump and give a bottle before I had my son. I work with animals and see a lot of miserable mothers swarming with litters of puppies or kittens fighting over their nipples -- something about it just weirded me out. I also have never had a maternal bone in my body and actually had no interest in breastfeeding my son while I was pregnant with him. I told myself I would try it, just because I knew it would be best for him.

I had a very difficult in the hospital getting him to latch properly after he was born and my nipples were split and bruised. I had a pump, but instead of getting it out and using it, I decided to stick with the nursing and work on his latch. In the end, I'm glad I stuck with it, because I LOVE breastfeeding my son.

It's so much easier than pumping (which I loathe now, because I have to do it while I'm at work) and I love the bond that I have with my son. I've now made it 6 months (my first goal was 1 week) and I plan on keeping it up as long as I can.

Jupiter62 · March 2014

Pumping is more work that giving milk straight from the tap.

But if it works for you, then go for it

blush64 · March 2014

When I read this the first time it said something much different and I had trouble believing this was a serious post.

If you prefer to pump, pump. Edit There is nothing wrong with pumping and giving the baby a bottle, there is nothing wrong with giving formula and nothing wrong with breastfeeding. Do what you feel comfortable with.

You will both bond in different ways and If you are pregnant you are already bonding in a way your husband can't. This part is in response to what you said before you deleted it.

Laurakat81 · March 2014

Good for you???

ILMomma · March 2014

EP isn't weird, however, this post kinda is. A lot of people choose to EP so why would u be weird for choosing to?

ashleykay102 · March 2014

Perhaps I should elaborate. I guess I'm looking more towards responses of pros/cons of breastfeeding vs pumping....

Thats what I meant by "thoughts".

atcwag · March 2014

I HATE pumping with a fiery passion from hell. Why in the world anyone would WANT to take twice the time to do anything is beyond me.

BootsOrHearts · March 2014

Pumping is a pain in the ass. As PPs have said, it's twice the work of either formula feeding or breastfeeding. I would definitely BF if I could. There's no milk to store, heat up, spill, no bottles to wash and it's with you wherever you go.

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thedash · March 2014

I did not see the original version of this post but some women who have been sexually abused or assaulted feel this way and choose to EP. If you have an issue like that but want your baby to have the health benefits of nursing then EP is fine. It's a very personal decision to BF, FF or EP and the women on this board are supportive and great about not judging your choice. If you are asking just for our advice I will say that EP is lots more work and many women struggle with not feeling like they have time to bond and relax with baby due to the time they spend pumping and washing parts and bottles. That was my experience once I went back to work. I quit EP after 5 months with DS. I have been nursing DD for over 6 months with no plans to stop. I find it much easier and more enjoyable.

MrsJG3 · March 2014

Whoa this OP was massively edited. As long as you feed your baby and it works for both of you then all is good. As for what you originally posted there are many ways a spouse can bond/spend time with baby aside from feeding. Choosing to nurse isn't being selfish and babies "sucking" on boobs is what they were made for so not "weird."

jordannpaige10 · March 2014

I don't think I could have handled EPing. Nursing is easy, no pump/parts/bottles to clean.

Whatever you are comfortable with and works for you.

I personally my whole life, and during pregnancy, thought the idea of breastfeeding was awkward, and had no interest in it. I even bought plenty of bottles and some formula. My MIL kinda talked about it a lot while I was pregnant, and coming from a family of formula mommas I was unsure, but researched it and decided I would just TRY it. Needless to say, the birth of my daughter brought out a new person in me. I immediately breastfed and worked through the struggles we had week 1 and it was the best decision. I sold my bottles and we've been BF For 17 months!

inluv4life2 · March 2014

I had to EP my DD and made it 6 months before my supply croaked. I am currently working like crazy to get my 1 mo old to nurse directly now that his tongue tie has been corrected. It's the hardest I've ever worked at anything. And he's working just as hard!

If you want to EP then go for it but I would give anything for that bf relationship I imagined and to not have to pump every two hours to maintain my supply. Pumping sucks!!!

I'd say give it a try and see how it goes. You may change your mind.

ashleykay102 · March 2014

Thanks for the responses! I was not trying to be "weird" about the post. I was just seeing if others felt the same way or not. Because I got such negative responses, I decided to re-word what I was trying to say.

Heres the reasoning behind my thoughts:

My mother never breast fed me because she thought it was 'awkward', therefore, I grew up thinking the same. I was not sexually abused. I have seen research where its better for the child to receive breast milk and Im all for whats best for the child. So, I figured I would EP so that the child can still get the benefits of the milk.

Ive read pros and cons of both, and yes, one con to breastfeeding is that the spouse cannot feed the child too, only the mother can. That concerns me, as I want him to experience feeding our child as well. Another con is apparently the pain is greater in breastfeeding vs EP? Idk if thats true or not.

I like what people are saying about 'more work in EP' factor and I actually never thought of that. In the end, maybe I will end up breastfeeding. Guess we will see.

lollipoppoop · March 2014

I EP but its not by choice and I would not have chosen to EP.

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