Just need to vent.

shan8210 · March 2014

With this being my first pregnancy, I want to do things right. Im takin vitamins, eating right, I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs. My fiance and I allowed his brother and his girlfriend move in because they came from another state. Temporary. After they had moved in she got pregnant (the brother already has a 5yo not in his custody) . Now im only 16 weeks and shes about 6 weeks ahead of me. Everyone in my household (my fiance, his brother, and her) all smoke cigarettes. Yes her. Its the most disgusting thing to see a pregnant woman smoke in my opinion. My fiance has the respect to step outside to smoke, noone else does. How badly can this hurt my baby? They have to be moved out by the month of her due date ,but im so stressed with them being here. She doesn't work and never has and probably never will. What can i do to ease my stress when im home? I appreciate the advice to anyone who has to offer.

dezbear · March 2014

Um I'd make them go outside. And it takes all my strength not to slap a pregnant smoker.

GlitterMuffin914 · March 2014

If you're being kind enough to offer them a place to stay, the very least they can do is follow your rules. Tell them the new rule is everyone smokes outside.

In the mean time, keep your windows open if possible to encourage air flow. Get an air purifier to keep in your room. It'll take a bit for that smell to go away if it's been happening for a while, but keep everything fresh and clean and it'll go back to normal.

nilvero · March 2014

They need to follow your rules! Especially since you took them in. I agree with PP about keeping things as well ventilated as possible.

Cmgudan · March 2014

Totally agree. Pregnant or not, if you don't want smoking in your house, people should not be doing it. If that is something they can't live with, that is fine, but I would want them to move out.

mrsdanielleM2010 · March 2014

I would have your fiancé say "you can smoke outside, or you can live outside." It's his brother, but you're his fiancé and mother of his child. He needs to back you up.

emmylu30 · March 2014

Eeks. Have you fiance talk to his brother if your uncomfortable in doing so about them smoking outside or at least in the garage. I can't imagine how you've survived this long with the smell.

halle83 · March 2014

The most obvious reason they need to step outside is the second hand smoke you're getting as a result, as well as the harm to your growing baby.

The other aspect Id be worried about is that smoke is settling in your curtains, couches, walls and ceilings. That smell and its effects will still be around long after your house "guests" leave and once your baby arrives.

Tell them to take it outside no ifs, ands, it buts about it.

Ashleyrfiles · March 2014

Studies show that second hand smoke exposure has the same risks as if you were smoking yourself. I would tell them to take it outside.

shan8210 · March 2014

Thanks everyone, have never really been comfortable with discussing things with him, so ill have my fiance do it. But we should be moving ourselves within the year and itll be a fresh start no smoke house. The smell makes me nauseous and they know that. But they're hardly responsible enough to prepare themselves to move, so even though they know the deadline, they wont be prepared. Shes bringing baby clothes and things into my house as well that isnt making me happy, lol thanks to all

JulyMomma2U2 · March 2014

mrsdanielleM2010 said:

I would have your fiancé say "you can smoke outside, or you can live outside." It's his brother, but you're his fiancé and mother of his child. He needs to back you up.

This. I'd have your Fiancé step in and put a stop to it. I can't imagine someone being that disrespectful.. You are going out of your way allowing them to stay with you, the least they can do is respect your wishes... And I'm with PP.. I can barely refrain from smacking pregnant smokers... Drives me nuts. I'm sorry you're dealing with this!

JSS1002 · March 2014

TheEmpireNeedsYou said:

Uh, your house, your rules. Tell them to take it outside or not at all.
I was going to type this almost word for word.

Ditto, what the fuck? You and your fiance should just say "hey, no smoking in the house" and that's the end of it. Or they can find somewhere else to live.

pshaortao · March 2014

Agreed with every comment. My brother in law smokes and I've complained in the past that I have to close the windows because I can smell secondhand smoke coming in. Fortunately, he has been respectful and moved further away when our windows are open.

MMason12 · March 2014

It sounds like they live with you -- and if it's your house than it is your rules. I would without a doubt put my foot down and say there is none, zero, zilch, nada, smoking in the house under any circumstances. If they would like to go outside and smoke then they are more than welcome to, but inside smoking is off limits.

I grew up in a house where my parents smoked until they quit, and the damage that smoking does to everything around the house -- the walls, carpet, furniture, blankets, clothes, EVERYTHING! You will never be able to get it all out. It's gross. I seriously would not let them smoke inside ever again.