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please help me get over my fear of a m/c

KnockMeUpKnockMeUp
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I just had my first beta last Wed.(10dp5dt =379) and have my second one tomorrow. ?I was doing really well enjoying the moment and not letting any doubt of a m/c creep into my thoughts until today. ?I don't want to live like this throughout the pregnancy. ?I want to enjoy every moment of it. ?How did you guys cope with it and relax.
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Re: please help me get over my fear of a m/c

  • meringue57meringue57 member

    I wish I could tell you that I managed to relax and enjoy my pg.  I did not.  I actually think that I was almost holding my breath until he was delivered and I held him in my arms.  I think I got through the pregnancy by praying every night (seriously) and just trying to make it through each day and appreciate the feelings I was having.

    Good luck - hopefully you'll do better than me!!! :)

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  • jonsdeedeejonsdeedee
    I am in the same boat as you.  I am just over 6 weeks pregnant and even after seeing the sac on the ultrasound and good beta/progesterone levels, I still feel like I am holding my breath.  Its like I refuse to believe this can actually have a happy ending.
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  • Shannie1217Shannie1217
    good question.......I am still freaking over it. I don't think the fear of something going wrong ever goes away, sorry :(  It feels like with every big milestone, comes more and more worry....  I was worried absolutely sick while waiting for my betas and now I worry that I will still hear the heartbeat before my appointments......  because of all we've been through, we are a bit robbed of a normal "naive" pregnancy!!!  Best of luck to you, you will have great high numbers tomorrow!!!! :)
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  • DontblinkDontblink
    If you look in my siggy you will see I have a crazy history of loss. I will be honest it is really hard. I am in therapy since delivering my stillborn son. It is SO helpful. I am actually coping much better than I ever thought I would. Yes, I am very nervous sometimes..but somehow (i wish i had answers) I am enjoying it much more than I ever thought I would. Just try your best to think positive, live in the moment and surround yourself with positive people. I can't believe I made it to 18wks..it actually went much faster than I thought. GL to you and please page me if you ever need to talk.
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  • veggiechick120veggiechick120

    i still worry about it...i dont think ill stop until im out of the 1st trimester honestly...and even then im sure ill worry

    i think its typical for people who deal w/ IF to think about this...i know my friends who got pg on their own never voiced these concerns..

    just take it day by day. when you feel yourself getting anxious, stop and take a deep breath and remind yourself that your ok, babys ok, and theres nothing happening to make you think otherwise..it helps me most of the time to do this.

    hth

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  • LVBlvdLVBlvd

    It DOES get easier, but to be honest, I still have weekly moments of panic! I like the quote:  the decision to have a child means forever having your heart outside your body.  From now on, you will always worry about this tiny baby you are now responsible for.  I know it is so hard, but just take it one day at a time.  Before we know it, we will all have our babies, and worrying about every breath they take : )

     

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  • desabeandesabean member

    It gets easier with each milestone (each beta, u/s, moving to 2nd tri, etc.) but so far I cannot say that you completely stop worrying about it.  I don't know if it is b/c of how hard it was for each of us to get to that point or b/c we've seen/known of some terrible things that can happen or something else but it is hard to jump in with both feet and totally embrace that I will actually deliver a live baby...and I've never had a m/c myself.

    Hope you get great numbers tomorrow and you can start enjoying it a little more each day.

    Good luck!

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  • KnockMeUpKnockMeUp
    Thank you for all your support :) ?It's comforting to know that I'm not alone in feeling this way. ?
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  • Mrs.GreenieMrs.Greenie
    I have been scared to death every moment. Every day I wake up and hope I make it another day. I would like to say that once I am out of the first tri, I will be better but I know its not true. When the baby is born. I will still worry! Good Luck and congratulations.
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