HELP ME KEEP MY KID IN BED

JackoftheBox · March 2014

We have a routine... bath, cup of milk, story, and then lights out. But every 5 mins he is up out of bed. He hasn't been going to sleep until closer to 9 and we have him in bed by 7:45.

Should i gate his room and just let him stay in there until he goes to bed? Idk what to do!

hopefulmom81 · March 2014

Do you think 7:45 is too early for him? What time do you get up in the morning with him?

JackoftheBox · March 2014

lildis09 said:

They make duct tape with cute designs... ) I am not looking forward to this...

Seriously i'm getting close to that.

I just want to be like listen KID i just want to drink my wine in peace!!! Go to bed

Helenahhandbasket · March 2014

Staples?

Sorry-- no help here. DD's still in a crib and we are leaving her in there as long as possible.

JackoftheBox · March 2014

hopefulmom81 said:

Do you think 7:45 is too early for him? What time do you get up in the morning with him?

I have thought of that. He gets up around 7. Last night he went to bed at 8:30 and then was up roaming at 4am (<-- another reason i might gate his room) and then wouldn't get up at 7:30 when i woke him up for daycare.

hopefulmom81 · March 2014

JackoftheBox said:

hopefulmom81 said:

Do you think 7:45 is too early for him? What time do you get up in the morning with him?

I have thought of that. He gets up around 7. Last night he went to bed at 8:30 and then was up roaming at 4am (<-- another reason i might gate his room) and then wouldn't get up at 7:30 when i woke him up for daycare.

Yeah, 7:45-8:00 SHOULD be okay then, to get roughly 11 hours of sleep. Maybe it is just a phase where he is enjoying the freedom of getting up. I say gate the room, go in "shh" him with no other words, kiss him and lay him back down.

MrsCodeMonkey · March 2014

We have a child lock on the inside of DD's door. The deal we made with her is that we leave her door open as long as she stays in bed. If she doesn't listen we close it. It didn't take long for her to learn. She also has some soft music on repeat.

Good luck! I hope you find something that works.

JackoftheBox · March 2014

2013mommy said:

DS is still in his crib so no personal experience but I feel like if he isn't screaming and his room is child proof just let him do his thing until he falls asleep. I'd totally gate the room and leave him be. How long has he been in a toddler bed? If it is a recent change maybe he's just enjoying the ability to get up whenever he wants.

I will totally be gating my child's room when he's out of the crib because if he ever got up at 4:30 in the morning he would never come to us, he'd just be really quiet and do something like move everything out of the pantry into the laundry room ...

Yea DS comes into our room and stares at me like a creep. Then when i didn't wake up he proceeded to tap on my forehead and repeat "get up mommy" a million times...

hopefulmom81 · March 2014

MissPeansMama said:

JackoftheBox said:

We have a routine... bath, cup of milk, story, and then lights out. But every 5 mins he is up out of bed. He hasn't been going to sleep until closer to 9 and we have him in bed by 7:45.

Should i gate his room and just let him stay in there until he goes to bed? Idk what to do!

We are in the exact same boat. After our routine DD is in bed around 8:15 but doesn't go to sleep until 9:00-9:30. She just stands at the gate and cries/whines for us. We let her cry for 15-20 minutes before going to lay her back down. My next step is to wait 30 minutes before going to put her back to bed, then not go get her at all.

I hope someone else here has a better idea b/c I can't stand listening to her whine and cry for so long.

DD is still in her crib, but also just whines and cries for us. She eventually lays down and sleeps, but she cries every.single.night. I wish she would just go to bed.

Tink112011 · March 2014

I have no real help, as my DS is still in his crib. He could totally climb out if he wanted to, but I don't think it has ever occured to him.

I am a bit non-conventional when it comes to bedtime. I stay in DS's room until he is asleep. He has a comfy rocking recliner that I curl up in. I usually bring my iPad with me too. It keeps DS in line and is actually my alone/quiet time. If I wasn't in there, he would cause such a ruckus. If he does start getting out of line (refusing to lay down, talking too much, etc), I just threaten to leave and that does the trick. But 99% of the time, he just lays quietly while I play around on my iPad.

I intend on doing the same when he moves out of the crib.

gwendarling · March 2014

So, when we first transitioned into a toddler bed, we had this same problem because she would just get out and start banging on the door etc.

I basically go in, not say a word, pick her up, put her in bed, and say, "good night. It's bedtime. I'll see you in the morning." and walk out.

Repeat.

repeat.

and then she got it.

*~Krystin1119~* · March 2014

We transitioned from the crib to a twin bed. our routine is brush her teeth, sing my gram's tuck tuck song as she calls it, hugs and kisses then say goodnight and put her gate up. She has a dream lite that we turn on and is usually asleep in about 5 minutes. It took awhile to get her to stay in her bed without screaming or crying for us.

TiffanyBerry · March 2014

Figure out what your (enforceable) rule will be, and enforce it. (<-- no, I'm not trying to be snarky. But until we say it that way, we usually don't *think* about it that way.)

So, for a while, our rule was that DD had to stay in bed. She didn't have to sleep, but she had to stay in bed and be quiet. Since I was laying with her until she fell asleep, I could - the moment she put a foot out of bed - put her back into bed. And if she wasn't quiet, I would leave the room (which she didn't want me to do).

These days, since I don't stay in with her, we can't maintain the "stay in bed" rule. But she does have to stay in her room. Recently, she tried opening the door twice one night. The moment we heard it, we were upstairs and walked her right back into her bed. (Because of the previous stage, she usually *does* stay in bed.)

When she was a baby and had learned to crawl off the bed (we have coslept forever), we went through a phase where she would try to crawl off the bed and go play in the dog's water bowl at the foot of the bed. Hilarious, in retrospect, but I got really good at moving her back into bed once she got one foot down. I think the first night I had to do that something between 30 and 40 times. And she was less than a year old! I still had to stop her from getting out of bed for days/weeks (I don't remember) after that. I fully expect that a 1.5yr old would take longer to "train" to stay in bed.

Basically, you make it so that they don't have the opportunity to not follow the rule - and yeah, if you have to sit outside the door bumping on mobile for the next two weeks, you do. Because it helps.

Good luck!

gwendarling · March 2014

MissPeansMama said:

@gwendarling - how long did it take before she got it? We've followed that exact process and still are to a degree (just waiting longer between repeats). DD has been playing this game since late January, so we are going on 2 months of it now. Please tell me the end is in sight!!!

@misspeansmama I'd say no more than a week. But I'm looking at your ticker and seeing she's about 3 months younger than my DD. My DD went through really bad night terrors around this time that made me give up trying to get her to sleep on her own, and I started sleeping in her room (!!!) BECAUSE (before anyone starts judging

) she had transitioned from an in-home daycare to a preschool and then from the infant room into the preschool room, and she was potty training. She just had a lot to adjust to.

I'm going to try this again, it's always been my go to, even when sleep training in the crib. I just need to pick the date and stick with it.

good luck!

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