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Don't stress, they say...will someone please tell me how?

LongIslandMama1114LongIslandMama1114 member
edited March 2014 in 1st Trimester
Not sure why the paragraph deleted itself...I apologize.

On March 10th, I found out that I'm pregnant. We are over the moon excited but cautious due to a prior miscarriage. I'm doing my best to not worry or let things get the best of me. I do not want to stress! (who does, I know lol) Well, yesterday my SO went to work only to be told it would be his last day. The shop he worked for closed it's doors. I'm trying to be optimistic and tell myself it's better to have happened now rather than when the baby is born and I'm out of work. I'm finding it difficult to stay calm all the time though.

Any suggestions on what I can do to just relax? Even if it's just a funny story to take my mind off it LOL
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Re: Don't stress, they say...will someone please tell me how?

  • KaumooKaumoo member

    Sorry to hear about your SO being out of work.  Hope he can find something soon.

    I know how you feel about trying not to stress out.  A few days after we found out we were pregnant, I found out my parents were separating.  I'm 33 so you think I wouldn't take it so rough...not the case.  I blame the hormones.  I find watching comedies is helpful.  Hopefully the little one likes all the jiggling & laughing.  I also heard yoga is helpful.

     

    Good Luck:)

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  • LongIslandMama1114LongIslandMama1114 member
    Thank you for your response...I think a comedy is on the agenda this evening! I've never done yoga but I think now might be a good time to start :)

    Sorry to hear about your parents. Though I'm sure the hormones are playing a part, I'm sure that's not easy at any age!
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  • awc1986awc1986 member
    Congrats on your pregnancy! 

    Sorry to hear about your SO. My DH is being made redundant 3 weeks before my due date. Fortunately he finally got a new job offer yesterday, which is a huge sigh of relief after so many rejections and interviews. I know that stress very well though. The best you can do is support him in his job search and be patient with him when he's frustrated. 

    Just bear in mind that this kind of stress will not harm baby. When people refer to stress causing problems in pregnancy, they're talking about the kind of extreme stress caused by living in a war zone or a 3rd world country. You've got plenty of time for hubby to find a job before baby gets here, so try and remain positive (easier said than done, i know). 

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  • lauren3717lauren3717 member
    When I was 33 weeks pregnant with my first, my husband suddenly got really ill.  He couldn't even stand up, put on clothes, or anything because of the debilitating pain (and he's not one to complain).  It was really scary, but personally, I found that focusing and trying to throw myself into finding a good doctor, documenting his symptoms, etc. kept me from sitting around and freaking out.  Hang in there.  Try to stay calm.  I hope for all the best for you and your husband.  
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  • LongIslandMama1114LongIslandMama1114 member
    Thanks ladies! I worry about stressing too much which causes me to stress! Lol We both feel this is a blessing in disguise and that something better is around the corner. He wasn't happy at that job anyway so fingers crossed this opens the door for something better :)
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  • MrsAdventureMrsAdventure member
    I am sorry you have to go through this. I was about as far along as you, my first time pregnant, when my husband was let go. I had a major meltdown. We're talking cried like a small child until I was a hiccuping, sobbing wreck in the middle of our hallway. Not my proudest moment. But it is worth noting that our housing was part of my husbands pay, so not only did we loose our best source of income, but we had 30 days. Needless to say, I was left wondering how not to stress over things. I took walks. Being out in the fresh air helped me feel better. Take the time you need to get your stress levels down.
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  • LongIslandMama1114LongIslandMama1114 member
    I'm so sorry @MrsAdventure! That must've been horrible. Surprisingly, I'm dealing much better than I thought. It helps that on Friday we're leaving for a pre-planned and pre-paid for vacation. It'll be nice to get away from the stresses and COLD of this place for a bit. Hope it all worked out better for you guys :)
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  • MrsAdventureMrsAdventure member
    Things did work out. Not ideally, but well enough ;) That's so great about the vacation. That will do you and your SO both a lot of good to get away. Have fun!!!
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