Looking for support from someone in similar situation

Tonic3121 · March 2014

It's been 2 months since we lost our dear Hattie at 7 days old. Her heart was grossly enlarged and could not fight any longer. We still don't have genetic testing back and it might be the end if may before we find out

they are testing for ehlers danlos syndrome which we do not know of any cases in our family. We just turned 38 and I am so scared we are too old to try again if this was not genetics....anyone else in a similar situation? I know another will not replace our dear daughter but so scared that this might be the end of our baby making days at the same time....feel so alone and lost ....

milb11 · March 2014

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Hattie. We found out via our genetic testing that our son had Down's Syndrome. I am not 38 but I am no spring chicken either. It is very scary to think of how many things can go wrong genetically as we as women get older (and frustratingly unfair). Scary enough, especially after a loss, to not want to subject yourself to it again. I just wanted to send you big hugs.

MCH77 · March 2014

I will turn 37 in May and lost our son Jan 15 to a virus.

I have no words of advise. Sorry. It just sucks. I'm so sorry for your loss. ((Hugs))

nohalo21 · March 2014

I'm sorry to hear about your dear Hattie. We lost our daughter at 18 weeks due to a possible placental abruption. She was born with a cleft palate although there is no family history. I just turned 35 in January and they are quick to throw out the age thing. It does scare us to move forward but we have a good team of specialists that are looking out for us. That fear will never go away unfortuntely.

Jellybean71514 · March 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss of your sweet Hattie. I lost my son Joseph 2 weeks ago they say it may have been a infection that broke my water ... I still don't have labs back to know for sure - I was 22 1/2 weeks long. I am 38yrs old and my fiancé just turned 40 last weekend ... I cried to him earlier today about also feeling lost and alone but I think that's a natural part of grieving ... I understand what you're saying about the age factor ... I too think about our age but am determined to continue for our rainbow - I have so many friends over 40 just now having babies both naturally and with IVF so hold tight to faith if that is the path you choose- my fiancé and I are holding strongly to that and have full intention on trying again and not giving up. Hugs to you during this time xoxo

stefuge · March 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't have any experience with the issue you mentioned, but wanted to send some ((hugs)) and say I am so sorry for your loss of sweet Hattie.

Mrodriguez898 · March 2014

So so sorry for your loss. I did not lose my Oliva for the same reason you lost your sweet Hattie but know you are not alone. (Hugs)

Tonic3121 · March 2014

Thanks so much everyone just having a real difficult time with everything as I am sure you all are too! Thank you for sharing your stories!!

jonahsma · March 2014

Just wanted to offer ((hugs)) Iam so sorry

ikrystal · March 2014

Not in the same situation, but also wanted to offer support and hugs. Best wishes

Heatherhah · March 2014

Hello when I lost our DD Sydney I was 38 years old. I got pregnant with our rainbow baby 6 months later I was 39. I am now 41 and she is 16 months I wouldn't worry about age . It is just a number these days. I am so so sorry for your loss. We are all here for you!!

Heather

Tonic3121 · March 2014

Thank you that gives me a little hope

Noethola · March 2014

**ticker warning**

Not a similar situation, but I wanted to give support. So very sorry for the loss of your daughter Hattie.

OSUWifey09 · March 2014

***SIGGY***

I don't have any words of advice but do want to offer more hugs and support. I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Hattie.

sparrowmomma24 · March 2014

My situation is similar but different. At 27, I've lost 3 children (11 weeks, 13 weeks, and 22 weeks). I have no children. You'd think I have plenty of time, but the doctors have told me that I have to be done having children by 30. I'm not married right now (Ellie's father, my fiance, left me when he found out I was pregnant. He said we weren't worth it and sent me packing back to Missouri..we lived in New York). So now I'm dating someone and it's hard to take things slow when I feel like I should be rushing to have a baby. But I don't want to "replace" Ellie either. It's a hard line to walk.

Tonic3121 · March 2014

Awe I'm so sorry for what you are going through as well

it is just a hard and cruddy situation all around

hugs!! It helps so much to have the outside support from others! It's so hard knowing you have lost a beautiful baby and not knowing what god still has in store for us

Tonic3121 · March 2014

And thanks for all the hugs and kind words everyone!!

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