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Gifts for dr & nurse?

Burberry0421Burberry0421 member
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I have a really amazing doctor that has been with me for a couple of years, but now that I am in the hospital an hour away, it's looking more & more like I won't be headed home to deliver with him. If I can make it 36 more days, I can do it, but I'm having lots of contractions & I'm still losing cervix. Anyway, my question is what is a good gift to give your dr? I was thinking of getting a massage gift cert for his nurse, but I'm stumped about what to give my dr. Any thoughts?
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  • spacepotatoesspacepotatoes member
    My mom is a nurse and same deal - no gifts. Flowers and a thank you card is all I'd do. A box of chocolate or something for the nurses to share usually goes over pretty well, too.
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  • Burberry0421Burberry0421 member
    I would be taking it to their office or sending it to the office. They won't be delivering me because I am having PTL in a hospital an hour away, but I want to acknowledge their care with something special. They have seriously taken exceptional care of me & my pregnancy. Plus, I like them as people. I adore my dr - he's hilarious & we just have a great relationship. 
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    Burberry0421 said:
    I would be taking it to their office or sending it to the office. They won't be delivering me because I am having PTL in a hospital an hour away, but I want to acknowledge their care with something special. They have seriously taken exceptional care of me & my pregnancy. Plus, I like them as people. I adore my dr - he's hilarious & we just have a great relationship. 
    Doesn't really matter if it's the hospital or a separate office. It's an ethical (and potentially legal) issue.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
    I think a really nice personal note, and maybe a photo of the baby, would go a really long way.  Otherwise, you might be able to send some kind of food treat to the whole office (edible arrangement, cookies, something like that).   
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  • ncbellencbelle member
    Unless you routinely gift others you are already paying for services, I don't really see the need.  A  thank you note is a nice gesture if you feel you received excellent care.


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  • rainydayluckrainydayluck member
    I was in the hospital for a month before I delivered and after I had DD, I had flowers delivered to the nurses station with a thank you note.

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  • NorthernGal248NorthernGal248 member
    I'm planning on having flowers and chocolate delivered with a birth anouncement. My midwife is amazing and I want her to know that she is truly appreciated.

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  • BBColt78BBColt78 member
    I bought things for those on staff at the hospital. We ordered pizza for them as a thank you. Though it was their job, I just felt the need to thank them, and I know food goes a long way!
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  • mysticlmysticl member
    edited March 2014
    I understand that you want to thank some wonderful care providers.  Send a card.  Better yet tell everyone you know how wonderful they are and get them some more business. It is unethical for them to accept gifts and if they did so they would cease to be wonderful care providers.  

    The reason (at least one of them) is that these gifts could be seen as bribes.  It could convey that you now expect them to go above and beyond since they accepted your gifts.  Maybe another patient does not feel they received the same level of care as you did.  If that patient finds out about the gifts she may think that you received that exceptional care because you "paid" for it in gifts.  Even if it is a false perception that patient now thinks she has to give the doctor and nurses something extra to receive good care and could very well spread that news to other patients thus damaging the practice.  

    ETA: Said patient could also contact the state licensing board causing the doctor and nurses and whole boatload of trouble.  
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  • homedivahomediva member
    My husband is a doctor and sometimes his patients bring him yummy treats (which usually get brough home to his pregnant wife!). I think a thank you letter is a great idea!
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  • bugannebuganne member
    I'm a doc, and thank you notes are amazing.  They really mean a lot.  We keep all of our notes/drawings from kids and thank yous from grown-ups posted in the office for difficult days. 

    My guess is that most people who are providing excellent care find it a pleasure to do so--and just letting them know that is more than enough. 

    We are honored to take care of our patients :-)
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  • tjkdlhbtjkdlhb member
    edited March 2014
    As a teacher, I would 1000X over prefer a thank you card with a personalized note.  That means so much more than any other form of gift.  I expect many drs and nurses would feel the same.



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  • awc1986awc1986 member
    I think a nice thank you card would be enough. That way you can say how much you appreciate their help, but you don't have to worry about gifts being refused. Anyway, like PPs have said, they're just doing their job!

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