My neighbor's daughter had two kids in 15 months. She told me her DH does ALL the cooking/cleaning/housework/baby duty (baby #2 is 10 months). So it got me thinking.. how much of the cooking/cleaning/housework does your SO/DH do?
I do all cleaning. He does all cooking. I do the majority of the child care but he does help a lot. He is the one to stay home with J during snow days or sick days. I do finances, he does car maintenance and outside yard stuff. Saying this makes me realize how little credit I give my husband.
Started TTC 2/2009 Started fertility treatments 11/2010 Ovarian dysfunction, LPD, male factor 6 failed medicated IUI's Pregnant 5/2011 - Miscarriage at 6 weeks due to triploidy Decided to adopt - 6/2012 SURPRISE! Pregnant without intervention - 7/2012 Sweet Baby James Born 3/2013 Decided to be "One and Done"
....OR NOT. Pregnant 12/2018 despite birth control pills Here we go again... Due 8/26/19!
H does the dishes, but he does such a half ass job doing that, that I don't want him in the kitchen at all. I do all the household chores. Every so often he will put the living room back together but that happens very rarely.
My husband does most of the grocery shopping, and all out door things. I do most of the childcare but that's because he works a lot and my job is more flexible. I do most of the laundry and kitchen cleaning but other household chores are pretty even.
He does not cook but does pick up carryout when I don't cook, which happens a few nights a week.
He also is responsible for about 90 percent of animal care.
DH does all the good, real cooking. I'll make random weekday meals occasionally, but I'm terrible. I do all the laundry and vacuuming. Everything else we basically split. Child care stuff is pretty even except for baths. DH is usually home just as DS is going to bed, so I'm the bath giver by default.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
When dh is home we do 50/50 or he'll take over and send me to relax. With his hours, though, I still do probably 75% of the kids/house/dog/cooking/etc.
He does the cooking. I do a lot of the cleaning, but he also does a good share. We split the childcare, although he tends to do more with DS1, while I take care of DS2 most of the time.
He does more cooking and cleaning than I do! Well, he does more cooking and tidying than I do. I probably do more actual cleaning, if that makes sense.
Kid duties are split. He does bath time, I do bed time, for example.
H vacuums. He might load the dishwasher once on the weekends that we have the kids, but otherwise I do all cooking, cleaning, and baby care. He works about 70 hrs a week, though, so it really wouldn't get done if I didn't do it. :-)
We split things pretty evenly. I do more of the cooking these days. We shop together. He does laundry and more of the outdoor stuff. Baby stuff is 50/50.
DH takes out the trash, pays the bills, does most of the other things that require responsibility like tags and all that. We both work outside the home. He cooks once a week and I cook the other days. Dishes are kind of 50/50, I do laundry because I honestly enjoy doing it, and baby stuff is 50/50 or maybe 60/40 with me doing a little more because DH leaves super early for work.
DH works FT and I SAH. I do most of the cleaning and 75% of the cooking (including 100% of the planning) we split the kiddo care but obvs I do more because I am home with her. He does 100% of bath time though because I have anxieties around it.
He could/should really clean more...like at least pick up after himself.
Dh is a terrible cook and when he tries he makes huge messes so I do all the cooking, he does all the laundry and vacuuming an we split the rest, usually tag team a major house clean on Sundays
My DH is a horrible cook too, but he THINKS he is fantastic, so he does about 25% of the cooking, and I have to smile and say it's terrific or he will pout. He takes out the trash and does maybe 10% of the cleaning. He does do his share of child care, at least 50/50, maybe more since he is the bed time king.
DH does the bills, the trash, the cat boxes, some dishes, vacuuming, occasional cooking, tidying up and about 40% of kid duty. I told him that now that we have two kids and will both be working full time everything is going to be 50/50 if we want to survive.
We both work full time, but this year Dh is working out of town during the week, so I do a lot, this year. Normal years, Dh does all the cooking and bathroom cleaning (and outdoor maintence). I do a little more child care, a lot more general cleaning/picking up. I don't know if it's even, but it's what works for us.
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Re: So my neighbor got me thinking...
Started fertility treatments 11/2010
Ovarian dysfunction, LPD, male factor
6 failed medicated IUI's
Pregnant 5/2011 - Miscarriage at 6 weeks due to triploidy
Decided to adopt - 6/2012
SURPRISE! Pregnant without intervention - 7/2012
Sweet Baby James Born 3/2013
Decided to be "One and Done"
....OR NOT.
Pregnant 12/2018 despite birth control pills
Here we go again...
Due 8/26/19!
So even though I'm a SAHM and am happy to do all the "house stuff" (cook, clean, etc...) he usually ends up doing a lot just because that's who he is.
He would help with anything extra I ask, but I try not to ask since he voluntarily does so much
He does not cook but does pick up carryout when I don't cook, which happens a few nights a week.
He also is responsible for about 90 percent of animal care.
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
Baby RJ, born 1/25/2014
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G: 6.10
L: 11.13
He could/should really clean more...like at least pick up after himself.
Our Little Raspberry Born 3/27/12