LGBT Parenting

Intro to Us :)

My wife and I got married 9/20/13
We are dabbling in reading about getting pregnant, etc.  She has a heart condition and I have a mental condition LOL (vaso vagul i basically cause myself to pass out if i hear medical stuff). So.... we will see who gets to be the preggo one.  Right now it looks like it will be her, she is 29 and I am 34.  (Backwards!) I may try the 2nd time around... TBD.  
Next week we have our first appt- the cardiologist- to see if she CAN be pregnant and still be OK physically.  In the meantime, I will troll the forums :)

I didn't like/use the knot when wedding planning, I hope this better suits us! WE need to learn the ins & outs of these forums. 

First question-- how do we keep cost down and chances UP! ?
Married 9~20~13
L- 34 M- 29
First IUI (L) 5/27/2014 triggered- BFP
Singleton due 2/17/15


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Re: Intro to Us :)

  • I just joined today too and I think I'm super trolling... Good luck with your ttc journey and I hope you get the clear from the cardiologist.

    Cost down and chances up? Are you going to an RE? It's worth it to do hormone tests and an HSG just to make sure everything's in working order. Other than that, it's expensive! We spent quite a bit on our ttc adventure and I think the budgeting skills we learned through the process will hopefully help once our twins arrive. I personally think we would have saved a lot of money it we had skipped the home ICI attempts, skipped clomid all together and gone straight to the injectable meds and monitoring. It would have been nice to just have one or two really expensive cycles rather than 10 moderately expensive ones. But that's just me.

    A & K, married 7/1/13.

    After 10 months of ttc via medicated IUIs and two early losses, we finally got our boys- Perfect premie twins born 5/27/14.

     

     

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  • Welcome!  The cost stuff is hard.  Unfortunately most of the stuff that increases your chances also increases your chances of multiples -- and then that's more expensive down the road.  But a good RE can help.
    Married my wife 8/2007 ~ TTC #1 since 7/2011
    9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
    IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
    ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
    FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
    Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
    FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
    EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
    *Everyone welcome*

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  • Welcome!!

    I would definitely recommend actually calling your insurance company and your wife's insurance company (if you have insurance) to see if they'll cover anything related to infertility. Policies really vary and some people are surprised to find that their insurance will cover something.

    Good luck!
    ****loss discussed*****

    We're queer. I'm 33, have severe stage 4 endo, and had both fallopian tubes removed. My love ("Manada" on the boards, 32) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tavin and Casey at 21 weeks gestation.

    Our IUIs
    with @Manada: IUI# 1-7 (December 2012- September 2013) all BFN. Tried natural, femara, clomid, puregon/follistim, clomid and menopur combo, both the ovidrel and HCG triggers.

    Our IVFs:
    IVF #1 my eggs November/December 2013: Cancelled IVF due to poor response

    IVF #2 my eggs/Manada's uterus January/February 2014
    BCPs and lupron overlap Stimmed: 1/22-2/2: Bravelle and Menopur (dosage ranged from B300 and M150 to B375 and M150 to B300 and M225)
    2/4 retrieved 10 eggs. Endo was much worse than expected. Only 3 eggs fertilized; February 7 transferred two day 3 embryos, froze one. All great condition.
    BFP eve of 6dp3dt; Beta 1 (11dp3dt): 110; Beta 2 (13dp3dt): 175; Beta 3 (15dp3dt): 348; Beta 4 (19dp3dt): 2222; Beta 5 (21dp3dt): 4255
    1st ultrasound (3/6  6w 1d): TWINS!!!! Twin A measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 118bpm. Twin B measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 113bpm. 

    ***July 18, 2014 we lost our beautiful babies at 21 weeks gestation. They were born too early. Tavin Sara T. and Casey Elizabeth T. are beautiful and precious and we will love them and miss them forever.***

    FET #1 December 2014
    Intralipid infusion on Dec 10. Transfer of 1 day 3 nine-cell embryo into my uterus on Dec. 19. (acupuncture immediately before and after)
    BFP on Dec. 27; Beta 1 Jan 2 (14dp3dt): 665, Beta 2 Jan 4 (16dp3dt): 1859, Beta 3 Jan 6 (18dp3dt): 4449, Beta 4 Jan 10 (22dp3dt): 12,251.



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  • The more I read, the more I agree with @‌ 2momsinca
    I am looking into insurance but basically mine is "better" for most things and Dw got old to b on it last week (ugh self insured doesn't have to follow any rules until obamacare, what a battle!). Looks like it covers "infertility testing" but not solutions. Hoping that means re visits ... And ultrasound bc that's pregnancy which is covered? They told me they don't know what iui is and to call with billing codes... Needless to say after the cardio we will see the gyno and get more answers and get the "codes"... I hope we can just pay for sperm and actual iui-ing!
    Married 9~20~13
    L- 34 M- 29
    First IUI (L) 5/27/2014 triggered- BFP
    Singleton due 2/17/15


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  • Welcome to our group. We have a TTC check-in on Mondays. Please join us for that.

    I would encourage you to work with a RE to help your chances. Unless there are fertility issues, they may not let you jump to injectables right away. If your insurance doesn't cover them, they are very expensive. One cycle of Gonal-F is about $3,000-$4,000 - this is what one of the nurses at our RE's office told us. Thankfully, we have excellent coverage for IUI.

    Me: 30  DW (aka C): 29

    Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12

    ***CP mentioned***

    We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm.  8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy.  We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET.  I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013. 

    11/14/14 -  Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good. 

    12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2

    12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)

    1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2

     ****All Welcome!****

    We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.

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  • SweetPea0307SweetPea0307 member
    edited March 2014
    Welcome! The balance between cost and increasing your chances is a tough one.

    My wife and I are currently going through a program where we only spend $250 for the IUI (1 per month) + cost of sperm. So pretty cheap (as these things go), but without any of the drugs or monitoring that might increase chances. But so far we've had 3 IUI's with 3 BFN's, so hard to say if this is the right balance. Though, like @ball.and.chain said, the stuff that increases chances also increases the risk of multiples (which my wife and I are not okay with), so maybe it's the best we can do.

    Good luck! My one tip would be fully fund an HSA or an FSA if you have one.

    Me: 28 DW: 28

    Together since 5/30/02. Married since 8/31/08

    IUI#1 - 12/13/13 = BFN

    IUI#2 - 1/22/14 = BFN

    IUI#3 - 2/21/14 = BFN

    IUI#4 - 3/23/14

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