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So my neighbor got me thinking...

My neighbor's daughter had two kids in 15 months. She told me her DH does ALL the cooking/cleaning/housework/baby duty (baby #2 is 10 months). So it got me thinking.. how much of the cooking/cleaning/housework does your SO/DH do?

Re: So my neighbor got me thinking...

  • DH helps clean but I do the cooking.
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  • I can't edit but we also share baby duty.
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  • I do all cleaning. He does all cooking. I do the majority of the child care but he does help a lot. He is the one to stay home with J during snow days or sick days. I do finances, he does car maintenance and outside yard stuff. Saying this makes me realize how little credit I give my husband.
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  • DH does the dishes, his own laundry, and all the outdoor maintenance. He also helps me do a deeper clean 1-2 times per month.
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  • I do all the cleaning, most of the cooking, and we split baby duties. He does do his own laundry though.
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  • My husband is big on cleaning, he does it when he's stressed etc...

    So even though I'm a SAHM and am happy to do all the "house stuff" (cook, clean, etc...) he usually ends up doing a lot just because that's who he is.

    He would help with anything extra I ask, but I try not to ask since he voluntarily does so much
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  • H does the dishes, but he does such a half ass job doing that, that I don't want him in the kitchen at all. I do all the household chores. Every so often he will put the living room back together but that happens very rarely. 
  • My husband does most of the grocery shopping, and all out door things. I do most of the childcare but that's because he works a lot and my job is more flexible. I do most of the laundry and kitchen cleaning but other household chores are pretty even.

    He does not cook but does pick up carryout when I don't cook, which happens a few nights a week.

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  • I am kind of a shitty housewife, so my H tidies after me a lot, but I still do the bulk of it, just not to his standards. I do 100% of the cooking.
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  • DH does all the good, real cooking. I'll make random weekday meals occasionally, but I'm terrible. I do all the laundry and vacuuming. Everything else we basically split. Child care stuff is pretty even except for baths. DH is usually home just as DS is going to bed, so I'm the bath giver by default.


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  • When dh is home we do 50/50 or he'll take over and send me to relax. With his hours, though, I still do probably 75% of the kids/house/dog/cooking/etc.


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  • DH does 90% of the cooking.  I do all the laundry.  Nobody cleans, we suck.  Kid duty is 80% me.
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  • He does the cooking. I do a lot of the cleaning, but he also does a good share. We split the childcare, although he tends to do more with DS1, while I take care of DS2 most of the time.
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  • He does more cooking and cleaning than I do! Well, he does more cooking and tidying than I do. I probably do more actual cleaning, if that makes sense.

    Kid duties are split. He does bath time, I do bed time, for example.
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  • H vacuums. He might load the dishwasher once on the weekends that we have the kids, but otherwise I do all cooking, cleaning, and baby care. He works about 70 hrs a week, though, so it really wouldn't get done if I didn't do it. :-)
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  • We split things pretty evenly. I do more of the cooking these days. We shop together. He does laundry and more of the outdoor stuff. Baby stuff is 50/50.
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  • I work part-time so I do more, but H helps a lot.  The only thing I do 100% is paying the bills and the only thing he does 100% is take out the trash.
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    DH takes out the trash, pays the bills, does most of the other things that require responsibility like tags and all that. We both work outside the home. He cooks once a week and I cook the other days. Dishes are kind of 50/50, I do laundry because I honestly enjoy doing it, and baby stuff is 50/50 or maybe 60/40 with me doing a little more because DH leaves super early for work.
  • DH is not allowed to cook.


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  • DH works FT and I SAH. I do most of the cleaning and 75% of the cooking (including 100% of the planning) we split the kiddo care but obvs I do more because I am home with her. He does 100% of bath time though because I have anxieties around it.

    He could/should really clean more...like at least pick up after himself.
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  • Dh is a terrible cook and when he tries he makes huge messes so I do all the cooking, he does all the laundry and vacuuming an we split the rest, usually tag team a major house clean on Sundays
    My DH is a horrible cook too, but he THINKS he is fantastic, so he does about 25% of the cooking, and I have to smile and say it's terrific or he will pout. He takes out the trash and does maybe 10% of the cleaning. He does do his share of child care, at least 50/50, maybe more since he is the bed time king.

  • DH does the bills, the trash, the cat boxes, some dishes, vacuuming, occasional cooking, tidying up and about 40% of kid duty. I told him that now that we have two kids and will both be working full time everything is going to be 50/50 if we want to survive.
  • We both work full time, but this year Dh is working out of town during the week, so I do a lot, this year. Normal years, Dh does all the cooking and bathroom cleaning (and outdoor maintence). I do a little more child care, a lot more general cleaning/picking up. I don't know if it's even, but it's what works for us.
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