Stm's: are you enjoying your NB more this time around?

clo1982 · March 2014

I feel like I am enjoying this little guy more than I did dd which makes me feel super guilty. I think it is just because it isn't scary and new so I'm not overwhelmed like I was last time. But I feel much more attached to him like I'm really trying to get as much newborn snuggle time as possible as opposed to just getting through the day and keeping my head above water like last time. I was in awful pain last time from my c/s and dd was very difficult as a newborn where this little guy is super laid back and I'm having an easy recovery so I'm sure that factors in. Maybe it's also because I don't plan to have more kids so I know this will be it for me. Anyone else feeling like this?

clo1982 · March 2014

@bunnyfungo I was telling my mom how I feel guilty about dividing my attention and she keeps telling me that it's the best thing for the first baby because it teaches them patience and independence, both traits they will need once they start school. So I have been trying to remind myself of that when the guilt starts. I'm sure you are doing an awesome job and more than anything your lo's will be glad they have a sibling once they are older. They won't remember any of this stuff we stress over! But I do understand and can empathize with the stressing!

DTNZ4Ever · March 2014

I am totally enjoying the newborn phase. Although DS2 is just one week tomorrow and DS1 has been busy this week with school and spending time with my parents I have had to split my time too much. Luckily DS1 is 5 so he is into spending time with the baby too,

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StephBrim24 · March 2014

Yeah, like the other ladies, I feel like I COULD appreciate this LO more if I had the time to do so. I'm certainly less anxious and overwhelmed with learning how to be a mom to a newborn, but having a 2 year old keeps me from actually appreciating him the way I want to. I feel awful guilt having to neglect one of them most of the time. I cry sometimes just looking at DD (2 year old), knowing that she's having to deal with so much.

ring_pop · March 2014

Yes!! I hated the newborn phase with DS1. Everything has been easier this time, including my own recovery and the baby. It helps that DS1 is in daycare.

katykatykaty · March 2014

StephBrim24 said:

Yeah, like the other ladies, I feel like I COULD appreciate this LO more if I had the time to do so. I'm certainly less anxious and overwhelmed with learning how to be a mom to a newborn, but having a 2 year old keeps me from actually appreciating him the way I want to. I feel awful guilt having to neglect one of them most of the time. I cry sometimes just looking at DD (2 year old), knowing that she's having to deal with so much.

This for me, too. This baby seems much more laid back than DD is, but I still feel lots of guilt dividing my time between them. But yes, I'm definitely enjoying the newborn phase much more than I did last time. The lack of sleep doesn't even seem that bad.

And hugs, @bunnyfungo. It'll get better.

BabiesFTW · March 2014

I'm feeling a lot more relaxed and not as overwhelmed but I don't know if I'm enjoying it more. With DD#1 I held her all the time and loved giving her everything. With this LO I put her down all the time because there's so much to do and I need to also pay attention to DD.
I feel like I don't have enough time for either one. I want to spend more time snuggling with LO but I don't want to ignore DD either.

aLsMay24 · March 2014

So at less than 2 days I can agree to this simply for the fact my recovery is a million times easier this time then it was with DS. I felt better 3 hours after DS2 was born then I felt 3 weeks after DS1. I can just do more on my own and be more involved with everything. Plus I'm not so scared I'm going to break him!!

memo9 · March 2014

Yes!!!

I feel so much more bonded to this baby than I did DD. Her first few months were such a blur. This birth was much, much better and I think that may make a difference too.

I definitely feel guilty though.

jwls84 · March 2014

I am loving the newborn phase! And I do find the second time around is way easier for me. I know what to expect, I know how tired I am going to get. I also find it isn't too scary this time and I have way more patience and am way more laid back!

Aturl · March 2014

I am def enjoying him as a newborn idk that it is more than dd but it is more than DS1 simply because my recovery has been so much better this time. This is our last so I am a little sad as each day passes that he gets a little older. It's also hard with dd only being two. Plus she has decided she wants to potty train and it is so difficult sometimes to try and make potty breaks with her every 30min while also tending to the baby. Which leaves ds1 who is five and I feel like I depend on him to be so independent already.

karacakes98 · March 2014

I know I'm enjoying this one more than her siblings. Last baby, experienced mommy, and the sleep deprivation isn't too bad so far...

KariB509 · March 2014

I feel like I'm in less of a survival mode now than I was after I had ds. I was also so concerned with starting bad habits, like holding him too much, that I tried to limit myself. How dumb of me. I wish I had enjoyed him more.
I don't want any more children so I'm sorta just saying screw it about starting bad habits because it's my last baby and I'm going to enjoy it now because l never get to again.
So, to answer your question, yes.

jazzyexpo · March 2014

I feel the same way. This te we are definitely more relaxed. Dd was a high maitenance baby and this guy is so laid back. I also think it's because we've some it before, so we know what to expect and not to expect or really to have no expectations at all.

NortyLeigh · March 2014

I feel bad but I am not enjoying it this time around. DS1 was and is such an "easy" baby. DS2 cried often and doesn't sleep at night. When he wants something he starts screaming bloody murder and stops breathing at times. This causes him to get really red and pour sweat. All within a minute of starting to cry. I feel like certain things are easier this time, knowing what to expect, but overall, this kids pretty difficult. I feel like I can't give my first son all of the attention he needs. I know that it will get better and I do love my newborn to death, I just want it to get better now!

jennybean80 · March 2014

Yes and no. It's hard splitting my time between the twins and DS1, plus I kind of feel like each twin is getting less time than if they were singletons. But they're easy babies and I'm loving all the cuddles and snuggles!!