I feel like being a trouble maker today...

fitmama418 · March 2014

So I'm just going to leave this here...

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12281040/how-much-does-your-baby-eat#latest

tisunge602 · March 2014

OMG... .that poor baby!! It makes me tear up just thinking about that little one crying that long. Some people.

[Deleted User] · March 2014

I can't even....

jennifertewart · March 2014

That poor baby!!! I don't know how any mom can physically let their baby cry like that. I don't think I could stop myself even if I tried to go comfort N when he starts crying.

fitmama418 · March 2014

For the record, I will let it be known that I don't judge anyone that believes in CIO once their child is past a certain age and WITHIN REASON (in other words...6 hours is well outside the realm of reason).

I know my daughter's cries. If she's overtired or just fussing, I will let her CIO for a maximum of 10 minutes (sometimes I don't even make it that long) before I go in to check on her. Most times? She puts herself back out. If she has her "I'm hungry/wet/dirty/something else is wrong" cry going on? My ass is in there instantly.

fitmama418 · March 2014

And earplugs, guys. EARPLUGS.

[Deleted User] · March 2014

^^ All of this. I actually read an interview with Dr. Ferber recently ( not that I'm promoting him at all) but it was interesting because he was saying people have taken his method completely out of context. It's all about knowing your child and the difference in their cries and what they need. We have been trying to let little man fuss on his own a little more because I was throwing him on my boob every single time he made a peep, because I was just deliriously tired and it always put him back to sleep. I still wake up and pay close attention to him making noise but I'm working more on paying attention to if it's a need cry or a " WTF I touched the blanket and woke myself up and now I'm confused but still want to sleep" cry/fuss

Here is the article just because...Again, I'm not promoting or even doing the CIO at this point. It was sent to me by a friend who did though.

https://www.parenting.com/article/the-truth-about-ferberizing

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

My whole thing with is she tried to justify it by saying her pedi said they dont HAVE to eat in the MOTN... I think she is trying to find SOMETHING to justify not doing it because quite frankly, she seems lazy. I don't care if you need to feed LO 12 oz of milk at night to get them to sleep you don't just sit there and let them cry it out. She is going to be the first person to try to blame everything else if that child were to have problems later on, I hope LO does not, but she won't have anyone to blame but herself.
:-O

cagoldi · March 2014

Am I the only one that has a pedi that has never asked about his sleep? He's still so young that I don't know what she'd expect so I would be a little surprised by the question.

What annoyed me, aside from the fact that she's a selfish creep, is she thinks she is the only one in an abysmal state of sleep deprivation. We're all dead-tired, we just make sure to roll our asses out of bed when the baby needs us.

It's astonishing that she thinks a baby that young is figuring out to self-soothe. What that really fosters is learned helplessness.

I don't know her situation but if she has a SO I have to wonder about them also. If A was crying and I just left him DH would look at me like WTF is wrong with you?

ETA: forgot a word

annalisel · March 2014

Our pediatrician explicitly said to us at the 4 month appointment last week that babies DS's size don't need to eat in the MOTN and suggested that we not pick up DS and/or feed him in the MOTN so that he breaks that habit. (Just to reassure you, we are not doing this.) But, I could totally see how someone could misinterpret our pediatrician's suggestion to mean let a baby cry indefinitely.

cagoldi · March 2014

annalisel said:
Our pediatrician explicitly said to us at the 4 month appointment last week that babies DS's size don't need to eat in the MOTN and suggested that we not pick up DS and/or feed him in the MOTN so that he breaks that habit. (Just to reassure you, we are not doing this.) But, I could totally see how someone could misinterpret our pediatrician's suggestion to mean let a baby cry indefinitely.

Are we talking a BF baby? I never discussed it with my pedi but all my female family members BF and they said to expect to feed the baby at least once in the MOTN until they are about a year.

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

I play it by ear. They let us know when they are ready to sttn without waking to be fed

amberrrjade · March 2014

I wanna slap a ho

annalisel · March 2014

cagoldi said:

Our pediatrician explicitly said to us at the 4 month appointment last week that babies DS's size don't need to eat in the MOTN and suggested that we not pick up DS and/or feed him in the MOTN so that he breaks that habit. (Just to reassure you, we are not doing this.) But, I could totally see how someone could misinterpret our pediatrician's suggestion to mean let a baby cry indefinitely.
Are we talking a BF baby? I never discussed it with my pedi but all my female family members BF and they said to expect to feed the baby at least once in the MOTN until they are about a year.

No. Sorry, I forgot that could be a factor, but the pediatrician practically scolded us about this. He said that if we didn't break this habit now, we would regret it come 6 months when DS develops object permanency and figures out that crying in the MOTN will bring us to him.

barista411 · March 2014

My DD's pediatrician NEVER asked about sleep. I would ask about it at every visit. Her response every time, even up until DD was one and was still not STTN, she would smile and say "enjoy the extra snuggles."

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

chelsiechristine said:

Reading her response literally made my heart ache :-(

Me too. Kids are not an accessory you just dress up and tote around for everyone to ooh and ahh over. I don't even like my son crying for a few minutes, so I cannot even fathom 6 hours. Who does that and why did you even want a child? I am glad I don't know her IRL, bc I would have called CPS. That is neglect.

Zilly13 · March 2014

I can not comprehend how someone could let their baby cry for 30 minutes let alone 6 hours.

With dd1, there were a few nights when she was about 15 months (not weeks!!!) that I had to let her CIO when nothing else worked to soothe her MOTN tantrums. That was horrible.

Thinking of someone letting a small baby cry is so beyond horrible. I've climbed in my dd1s crib and rocked her for hours to avoid her crying. So yeah, I don't get it.

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

SMH. She has her first and last name as her username, her FB pops up very easily. She has a pic of her LO on it. In light of that post, not a wise idea for her to have her info out like that.

amberrrjade · March 2014

Dang Tilapia getting all sleuthy

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

amberrrjade said:

Dang Tilapia getting all sleuthy

LOOL. IJS. People like that really bother me. Of course I had to be nosy and look her up to see what would happen. Oh well, she shouldn't have used her full name.

rbtrumpet · March 2014

How sad!!

I can on TB tonight because L ate for 2 hrs, slept for 45 min, then wanted to eat again. (We either hit the 4MW a few weeks early, or we're having a second 3-month growth spurt.) I was getting slightly annoyed with her, and wanted to be around other mothers. Now I'm just so glad that I get to feed and snuggle her!!! Extra snuggles tonight!

We have been letting her fuss a bit before getting her up, mainly because she recently discovered that she can suck on her hands, and genuinely self-soothes herself some times. But I don't think I've ever gone more than 5 min before picking her up to comfort her!

Poor baby!!!

amberrrjade · March 2014

What @rczamora‌. Message me her name on FB I wanna look her up too!!!

amberrrjade · March 2014

(Like send it in a message on fb not on the bump. )

EandIMommy86 · March 2014

rczamora said:

@TaviaBrad‌, so get this, I looked her up on FB after you said something…and WE HAVE A MUTUAL FRIEND!

Omg. Bwaahaha.

missesru · March 2014

So I've been away from TB for a loooonnnngggg time (I used to be on all day-daily when I was pregnant with #1 and after I had her, not so much with #2). I decided to sign on today to see where everyone's babies are at. Then I see this. I think I need to GBCB myself. I can't even. That poor baby. I want to hunt her down and steal her baby and hold him for hours.

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