A long over-due update, if anyone remembers me :)

twinkl5379 · March 2014

Hello - I think the last I posted was when H and I moved to a new larger city for my new job...which actually brought us closer to the s-kids (5 minutes apart). I'd say we have made good progress over the last 2 years that we've been here. I really love my job and I'm working for a great company (this was not the case before and a real frustration). My H and I have certainly had our ups and downs since the move, but I'd say things are stronger than ever between us. We've found a great counselor here that we've gone to every now and again and we've def. learned some things about ourselves & each other through that.

As for the s-kids, I think I am slowly building a better relationship w/ the 2 of them. I've also initiated a few conversations/texts with BM. Those have gone well, and we're friendly w/ each other (we never spoke for the first 5 yrs or so). Recently, I've taken the kids out to dinner by myself, took them to get their mom a b-day present (and I paid for it), taken them to ball practice. So it's slowly becoming more "normal". We're going to take professional family photos for the first time soon - which I initiated though I'm a little nervous about it

One of the biggest challenges H and I have faced, and it has made my role as a s-mom even more difficult is infertility. We've tried for 5 yrs with no luck. It's been hard to accept that he has kids w/someone else but can't with me. I have a handful of reasons for not seeking fertility treatment right now (though we saw a specialist and had a plan - we were diagnosed as unexplained infertility)...so we've recently decided to adopt!

We're just getting the process started; and though I'm scared of how difficult it may be, I am so excited to finally feel like we are going to have a baby together. I hope everyone is doing well, and I will spend some time reading the posts to try and catch up.

VedaFlash · March 2014

I remember you, but I have done a whole lot of lurking so I don't know if you'll remember me. I try to come out when I can these days. This board seems not quite as full as it was a few years back when I first came here. I'm so glad things are going well for your family. I think it's great you're starting the process to adopt. It sounds like your blended family's living situation improved as well as your job. Such things can make all the difference in personal happiness. Sounds like the path you are on now is a good one and wish you all the luck in adopting!

ambrvan · March 2014

Oh I'm so glad you're doing well, Twink! I remember all the strife. Glad things are going well for you. Please keep us updated on the adoption!

And so so glad to hear of the improved relationship between you and your skids! That is a major leap!