Update Thread - Everyone can play!

Mrs.AmyDylan · March 2014

So I'm totally guilty of posting for advice, sickness, DH traveling, etc and then never updating my SAIF peeps. Not sure if you all care, but I know I wonder how everyone's ER trippers are doing, daycare woes, etc panned out.

So update what is going on or any resolutions to past posts, advice taken or just general chatter.

I'll go first:

I asked about shoes for my little walker. I bought J some super-cute stride-rite shoes. She still isn't a huge fan of shoes, but she is starting to understand that they must be on when we are in public if she wants to be down.

Little Gym. I haven't signed up yet. I might just wait a month or two until it is too hot outside and it will give us something fun to do.

DH traveling. He still travels about one week a month. It isn't going to change. I still don't like it, but my mom told me to suck it up and deal (in a much nicer way). She is right and I can't let myself panic or wallow when he is gone. Wine every night he is gone helps.

TJ1979 · March 2014

This is great, I love follow up posts but am bad about them myself.

Day care continues to be a huge stressor for me. I hate the place she is at, and it makes me sick to my stomach every morning when I drop her off. MH usually does pick up, but I swear, every single time I do the pick up, there's something wrong. Last week she fell off of a stack of cots waist high and landed on her head, and the day care didn't feel like that was worthy of a phone call. I was livid.

The great news is, we were able to make a nanny share work out with some old friends who are new neighbors. The nanny starts on the 31st, which absolutely cannot come soon enough.

And on a lighter note, I poured E her very own salsa with her dinner last night, and she was pleased as could be, and ate every bite of her dinner. Well, not the cauliflower, but I can't say I blame her on that one. It smells funny.

@mrs.amydylan I hate that YH travels so much. Single momming it is so hard sometimes. I give so much credit to real single moms, I don't know how they do it.

TJ1979 · March 2014

mg0202 said:

My only update is that nail cutting is so easy now. I pull up either barney or Elmo videos on my phone. J is fascinated and I trim the nails in just a couple of minutes. I have no problems bribing her this way, there was so much stress over this issue and now it is no problem.

@mg0202 I'm so glad you found something that works! MH has started teaching E 1-2-3 then something happens, such as 1-2-3, E gets thrown in the air, or 1-2-3, we tickle each other. So he does the same thing with her nails. She knows it's going to happen on 3, then we clap for her. She can also now count to 3. Well, she can count to one, du, chee!

mdiblasi10 · March 2014

@TJ1979 so glad you found a nanny! I can't imagine feeling so worried and stressed every day dropping her off

Keep us posted on the nanny!

mnj05 · March 2014

I haven't posted about anything specific in a while but we have been illness free since January!! No more ear infections since the tubes and the only bit of fever/congestion H has had was last week when two molars came through. Our next hill is his circumcision next week. He's got some corrective issues to take care of and when we scheduled it for December, he had an ear infection so we had to put it off. Restricting his activity for two weeks ought to be fun.

mnj05 · March 2014

@TJ1979 - so glad you found a nanny!! I hope this works out much better for y'all!

TJ1979 · March 2014

@mnj05‌ That's so great that there haven't been any more ear infections! GL with the circ!

kmc84 · March 2014

I haven't really posted much lately, but here goes!

A has 4, yes, four, teeth poking through or visible through her gums-they seem to be fast and furious! Luckily, she is a champ. Some Motrin and extra snuggles keeps her pretty happy.

DH an I are going back to the RE on 3/31 for a consult with the RE who took over the practice. I have heard good things and I'm hoping he is receptive to why worked for us in the past, since my ovaries do not behave as expected! I'm going to do some research into the immune testing and see if it's something we should pursue. Sadly (luckily????), I have had a lot of testing done already from the Beers list @luvboston sent me due to my existing health issues. We are excited and nervous and u have some serious baby fever

A is not weaned yet, but we are down to morning and bedtime only. She uses my massive freezer stash during the day. I'm so greatful that she didn't protest less booby time! She handled it so well! I definitely have a little guilt about pushing a bit to wean

I still have yet to have a PP period, so I have no idea when we may actually start treatment again.

(Holy cow, that got long

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@TJ1979‌ I'm SO happy you got a nanny!!! Yippy!!

Mayzie15 · March 2014

@TJ1979 you must be counting down the days until the 31st for your nanny. Daycare is hard enough without the extra stress.

Since returning to work things are a little easier. I've made some adjustments like picking my DS up instead of dropping off and working earlier hours. It's still hard and hoping it gets easier.

Several ladies here suggested the Ferber book and it helped a lot. LO is up twice a night and I'm hoping that will get better too.

Had my dreaded hysteroscopy this morning they found more than thought but I didn't feel the shots and my experience wasn't bad. Opk turned positive last night so we should be good to cycle in April

Being newer to the board I wanted to thank all you ladies for your help and suggestions over the past few months

JBDamonM · March 2014

I haven't been around as much since I started my new job last week.

Also a little Debbie downer to follow....... My last post (I think) talked about my dad being in the hospital. His official diagnosis is stage 3/4 cancer of the head and neck, with a poor prognosis. In addition to the crazy, never ending demands in my sisters and I over the past 2 weeks - I've been having a VERY hard time with my anger. It sucks and the whole thing is consuming me, if I'm not mad, I'm crying because I'm sad. Thank god I have Molly - she is literally my bright spot in every day. Not much else to report. I'm really hoping DH and I are back at the RE sometime in the next few months but we can't seem to get our ducks in a row...... Not to mention I can't even imagine treatments in top of everything else of late. Urgh.....not stressing too much over that though, it will fall into place one way or another. Hope everything is well with everyone else. Miss my SAIF ladies

mnj05 · March 2014

@JBDamonM - big hugs sweetie! I'm sorry about your dad's diagnosis and the amount of stress you're going through. I hope you find a way to work through it.

I'm with you on going back to the RE. We really want to as well but finances are not working out well for this to happen. DH refuses to put anything regarding this on a credit card, and honestly I do too. We did it all cash the first time around and will again, it's just taking longer than we'd hoped and it's frustrating.

kmc84 · March 2014

@JBDamonM‌ I'm so very sorry about your dad's diagnosis

((Big squishy hugs))

Mrs.AmyDylan · March 2014

@JBDamonM‌ huge hugs.

Mayzie15 · March 2014

@JBDamonM I'm so sorry about your dad. My thoughts are with and your entire family during this difficult time.

ccam · March 2014

I'm so sorry about your Dad @JBDamonM

TJ1979 · March 2014

@kmc84 Heading back to the RE is so exciting, wishing you lots of luck!

@mayzie15 I'm glad the Ferber book is helping. GL with your cycle in April!

@jbdamonm Big hugs dear. I'm sorry for everything your family is going through.

Robeano · March 2014

Good thread idea!!

@TJ1979, so happy you have a new childcare option!!

@JBDamonM‌ I'm so sorry to hear about your dad

So I got a new position at work, it's for 9 months, full time, and it's overnight. Well it's a sleeper shift at least. Hubby and I are really trying to pay off some serious debt and I'm hoping that I'll get pregnant in the next 9 months cuz this would help me have a great maternity leave. Although I am struggling with being back at work, SO much drama I am willing to work super hard for a set time to improve our lives.

My other update is SIL, FACS is working closely with her. Teaching her how to be a good mom. And that's the extent of it. Nothing will happen anytime soon cuz they won't remove the child until it is the last resort. So who knows what is gonna happen.

JBDamonM · March 2014

Thanks for the well wishes ladies! Didn't mean to drag down the thread

kaf7 · March 2014

Great thread AmyDylan. Hugs @JBDamonM‌.

I think I updated that the balloon clouds worked out for LO's party. I did submit my ivf fees for income taxes. And I havent tried to drop that 5am bottle yet. Had my WTF via phone on Wednesday. Suggestions were one of three things if we had another 10 grand to burn: (which we dont)

1. Try ivf again with our frozen sperm and a poor responder protocol with growth hormone thrown in for me. RE is not optimistic about this one.

2. Use frozen sperm and donor eggs. Not for us. We wouldn't have bothered working so hard to use dhs sperm in that case.

3. Purchase a gnrh pump on our own somehow from the states because it isnt licensed in canada, on our own use suprefact in it and put that on DH for a year and hope for another miracle. This may actually be our cheapest option and its the one DH wants to try.

We wouldn't be proceeding with our past clinic because we now live so far away. Our RE said if it was his wife he would take option 3 even though its unsupervised and off label. He said that we have to do what we need to to feel we've given it a shot if that's what we want. Ultimately he wasnt optimistic about any of it and doesn't want us to be financially ruined. As I said DH wants to pursue option 3 but I'm a pretty by the books gal and I am not sure about my comfort level or the logistics of it.

TJ1979 · March 2014

Hugs @kaf7.

mdiblasi10 · March 2014

I am so sorry @JBDamonM Big hugs.

Good luck with whatever you decide @kaf7. Always rooting for you.

pb_bride · March 2014

Thanks for this update thread, Mrs.AmyDylan.

big hugs to you, @JBDamonM. I wonder if some therapy may help with your anger? You have every right to be both angry AND sad about your dad & your various family/IL issues. Just wondering if talking to a professional will help you manage the anger somehow, you know?

Not much to update on us. I weaned M exactly 2 weeks ago and there hasn't been any issues. He hasn't asked for it and I haven't had engorgement. I still feel a bit sad about it, but it gets a little better each day.

We went through 2 months of 4 molars + 2 colds (mid-Jan -> mid-Mar). Thank goodness that is behind us. But M is now drooling crazy so I think the canines are coming soon. enjoying our quiet nights when M STTN.

M is now 16.5m and he only says 4 words. I am going to wait until he turns 18m and may get EI for speech eval. He has no trouble understanding myself and DH - in 2 languages. On top of that, he is learning sign language very fast these days. WE signed to him for 10 months before he finally signed back (at 14m). Now he learns a new sign every few days.

pinkmickey24 · March 2014

@JDamonM Hugs. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

Update: It looks like DH got the job. The person he interviewed with today told him he got the job and would tell the person he interviewed with on Wednesday to proceed with the next steps. DH is still waiting to hear back from him. DH has agreed to open the doors to a conversation about the possibility of #3.

luvboston · March 2014

kaf7 said:
Great thread AmyDylan. Hugs @JBDamonM‌.

I think I updated that the balloon clouds worked out for LO's party. I did submit my ivf fees for income taxes. And I havent tried to drop that 5am bottle yet. Had my WTF via phone on Wednesday. Suggestions were one of three things if we had another 10 grand to burn: (which we dont)

1. Try ivf again with our frozen sperm and a poor responder protocol with growth hormone thrown in for me. RE is not optimistic about this one.

2. Use frozen sperm and donor eggs. Not for us. We wouldn't have bothered working so hard to use dhs sperm in that case.

3. Purchase a gnrh pump on our own somehow from the states because it isnt licensed in canada, on our own use suprefact in it and put that on DH for a year and hope for another miracle. This may actually be our cheapest option and its the one DH wants to try.

We wouldn't be proceeding with our past clinic because we now live so far away. Our RE said if it was his wife he would take option 3 even though its unsupervised and off label. He said that we have to do what we need to to feel we've given it a shot if that's what we want. Ultimately he wasnt optimistic about any of it and doesn't want us to be financially ruined. As I said DH wants to pursue option 3 but I'm a pretty by the books gal and I am not sure about my comfort level or the logistics of it.

Hugs
I would go with option 3
I am on off the universe person and I know I can take care of myself and when to seek help of you two know you are like that the pump could prob work. I bet others have done it and would research it. Which province do you live in?
https://www.soft-infertility.com/download.php?id=79

trigirl79 · March 2014

I've not been on as much. 2 weeks ago my mom had a TIA (mini stroke) after years of neglecting her own care. Now we have a million med appts for follow up. She's OK physically in the short term but needs to make some lifestyle changes. Huge stressor.

A was sick last weekend and now is finally feeling better but entered a phase of being too distracted by everything to eat during the day. She was taking 6 oz bottles, no 2-3, maybe 4. Ugh. So, more frequent feedings, MOTN feedings, and weird sleep schedules all around.. She's also gone from army crawling to working on real crawling.

Still spotting after a week - saw RE yesterday for BW and US. Started on 14 days of BCP last night, hoping for IUI mid April. Sad that it's not really the timeline I was hoping for but I keep telling myself it's not the end of the world. I really hoped we would have some sort of natural cycle miracle.

So feeling a bit overwhelmed with appts and life these days, aren't we all though?

The good news is it's finally warm here and when A wakes up from her nap, we're heading out for a mommy daughter run then time with friends at a park later. And possibly a nap for me!

Hugs and good thoughts to all of you who need them, and I hope everyone has a good weekend!

kaf7 · March 2014

@luvboston, thanks for your input. I knew that SOFT had pumps. I'm not in Ontario and the other problem is that women only need to be on a pump for the one month of their cycle for the same condition but to produce sperm my husband would need to be on it for at least 6-9m to produce sperm and them however long after that we TTC. The clinics that do have one or two pumps aren't currently willing to tie a pump up for that long on one patient.

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