about to lose my mind...motn wakings

Banana_Pancakes09 · March 2014

Hello, I haven't posted here in a while but am desperate and I don't know what to do. LO is almost 10 months and will.not.sleep. I am lucky if I get 4 hours of sleep a night and if I do, it is rarely consecutive. LO was a great sleeper until 4 months and now really could not be any worse.

She will go down okay and awake but wakes up every 2-3 hours still. I have tried letting her cry, going in to check, water, etc and nothing works. She just screams bloody murder. Then the second I pick her up she is fine and won't go back to sleep until nursed and asleep. Between this and my insane job I feel I am about to lose it.

When we introduced solids more she stopped eating bottles during the day at daycare. She will nurse from me still just not eat bottles. They were never an issue before. Any words of wisdom????? I know it will pass but I cannot handle this for another year or longer. I need more than 2 hour stretches of sleep and 4 hours total.

coffeeandbooks · March 2014

Hey, banana, where is she sleeping? Moving LO to his own room made a difference for me. Also, it seems insignificant, but I think a night light helped us too.

Also, do you feel like she is really hungry? Can daycare up her intake during the day?

littledaisies · March 2014

I wish I had a solution but we are dealing with the same. My guy doesn't sleep for more than 3 hours. We moved him into his own room but that actually made it worse so we started co-sleeping. It didn't help increase the time but I got more sleep. Now I think our co-sleeping days are over. He is ALL over the place in our bed. Even though we have a king, he still doesn't have enough room so he ends up waking up upset because he can't move around freely. As much as I love co-sleeping, I think it's time he moves back into the crib.

Boo0512 · March 2014

I'm sorry, I don't have any advice, just commiserating. My dd used to be a great sleeper until she turned 4 months old and it's gotten worse and worse. Dd will be 10 months in a few days and she also wakes almost religiously every 2 hours, all night, every night.

I keep hearing that one day it will just click and she'll start sleeping. That's the only thing that keeps me going!

jesselayne8 · March 2014

Have you tried having your husband go in there to soothe her? DS will go right back to sleep if DH goes in there. I had to get DH on board though. Our deal was that before 3am, he would go in and after 3am I would nurse DS. That got us down to one wake up a night.

Banana_Pancakes09 · March 2014

When my husband goes in it is the same thing

she will go back to sleep when getting held but pops those eyes open and cries the second she is back in the crib.

jayro10 · March 2014

Banana_Pancakes09 said:
When my husband goes in it is the same thing she will go back to sleep when getting held but pops those eyes open and cries the second she is back in the crib.

This was us, too. For months. A couple weeks ago, I finally gave in to the sleep training. We modified it a bit though. I still nurse/rock her to sleep or until she's really drowsy, then put her in her crib. She always wakes up and hollers, but I just say "good night, I love you" and leave the room. After about 2 weeks, she now just goes right back to sleep on her own. I watch on the monitor and she sometimes sits up and flings her lovey around a bit, but then lies down. It was SO hard to just walk away when she was crying out, but I'm really glad we (I) committed to it because we are all getting a good night's sleep. Last night, she only woke up once! Good luck.... I know how hard it is to be so sleep deprived.

bumpuser3155624 · March 2014

@jayro10‌ - we are close to sleep training also. How long did you let her cry? Did you progress longer with each time you went in?

delino · March 2014

jayro10 said:

Banana_Pancakes09 said:
When my husband goes in it is the same thing she will go back to sleep when getting held but pops those eyes open and cries the second she is back in the crib.
This was us, too. For months. A couple weeks ago, I finally gave in to the sleep training. We modified it a bit though. I still nurse/rock her to sleep or until she's really drowsy, then put her in her crib. She always wakes up and hollers, but I just say "good night, I love you" and leave the room. After about 2 weeks, she now just goes right back to sleep on her own. I watch on the monitor and she sometimes sits up and flings her lovey around a bit, but then lies down. It was SO hard to just walk away when she was crying out, but I'm really glad we (I) committed to it because we are all getting a good night's sleep. Last night, she only woke up once! Good luck.... I know how hard it is to be so sleep deprived.

This is what happened with us. In the end we've all been better off and her crying wasn't long even from the first night. Maybe 5-7 minutes before laying down and going to sleep. I know others whose lo cried for an hour + (with checkins). We've been consistent when she wakes in the motn too. One night she woke and cried and laid down on and off for 15 minutes which felt like an eternity. Last night she fell asleep with her bottle before 7:30 and we didn't hear from her until 7am.

jayro10 · March 2014

jacqueandadam said:
@jayro10‌ - we are close to sleep training also. How long did you let her cry? Did you progress longer with each time you went in?

We modified it a bit because I'm a huge baby about sleep training. So I still nurse/rock to sleep or till she's very drowsy, then I put her in her crib. She usually wakes up a bit and cries out. I used to pick her back up right away and get her back to sleep, but she would wake again as soon as I put her down. So now I put her in bed, tell her good night and I love you, and leave the room. At first, she cried for about 10-15 minutes before lying back down. Now, she just goes right back out.

We tried sleep training a couple months ago and it was a disaster. We made it one night and gave up. I think the reason this modified approach has worked so well is that she was more ready for it. She still protests, and only naps in my arms during the day, but we are making progress.

TheyCalledHerKate · March 2014

Have you tried cry it out at all?

Cgoode517 · March 2014

We also used our own version of Ferber and it took about 3 days. Now he goes down for naps and bed with no fussing at all and sleeps all night. One thing I read when I was researching was that it's important for them to fall asleep on their own in their crib so that when they wake up in middle of the night, they know where they are and aren't scared. I know you said she goes down ok but I wasn't sure if maybe you put her in her crib after she's already asleep. How long have you let her cry when she wakes up? I know it's hard to hear her cry but when C started waking up at night again, we let him cry/fuss and after 20 minutes or so he fell back asleep and quickly learned to put himself back to sleep at night. Also have you tried (or had day care try) gving her breast milk in a sippy cup instead of a bottle?

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