UO

kiki1978 · March 2014

I'm going to go ahead and start this because I've had one on my mind from my Facebook feed.

I SO don't get these parents that let their daughters join dance and cheer teams that wear so much makeup and wear skimpy clothes. I don't think a 6 year old needs to be wearing more makeup than a drag queen. I'm not opposed to cheer or dance, just the fact that they are dressing them and "glamming" them up like teenage girls. I also have an issue with the fact that these teams go to competitions on school daysl. I've had more than one student who has missed more than a couple of days in a week to go to a cheer competition. I'm sorry, isn't going to school and learning more important?

Let's hear some more!

BuckeyeMommy4 · March 2014

My oldest daughter has been in both cheer and dance. The makeup is worn so their faces stand out and "pop" on stage. It makes a big difference in pictures. The costumes and uniforms are standard for both. If someone doesn't want their kids to wear either of those things, find a different activity.

ababymaybe · March 2014

Women are better at sucking it up when sick. At least in my household. It is funny, because if DH injures himself at work, it's no big deal (like he has had a nail through the foot and wasn't overly fazed). But illness? End of the world!

He's been up all night with a stomach bug. I am trying to be sympathetic and am giving him meds, juice, etc. But part of me is like... If I were the one who was sick I would have to still function and deal with the kids. Just like I did with mastitis. Anyway, I do hope he feels better soon but mostly I am avoiding him in hopes that it doesn't spread to me and/or the kids.

sehudson821 · March 2014

I used to cheer and coach competitively, and I do agree with @BuckeyeMommy4‌ for the most part. A little lipstick and blush goes a long way on stage. However, the glitter eyeshadow and false eyelashes on a 6 year old do seem a little extreme to me. I'm also fairly certain that USASF is in the beginning stages of enforcing a new rule that "belly tops" can't be worn by any teams other than senior level (typically high school age). So two thumbs up for that. But parents are hopefully looking into the places they're taking their children and making decisions on what they are ok with as far as costumes and make up. As buckeye said, if it's something you're not ok with, find another studio for your kid. As far as competition goes, they have to miss occasionally for travel, but so do kids who play volleyball, baseball, soccer, etc! As long as it doesn't impact their grades in a negative way, I think it's nice for them to have a day or two for what they enjoy. We all need a break sometimes, and that's coming from a teacher

sugarland726 · March 2014

I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

daltosostarby · March 2014

I like romance books more than non-fiction (except ancient history bks). Non-fiction is boring and ain't nobody got time for that.

ac1259 · March 2014

sugarland726 said:
I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

Definitely! My FIL did this for years and I don't get it! If we were having financial issues I would definitely go back to work before making DH get another job!

Arrgcr · March 2014

daltoso said:
I like romance books more than non-fiction (except ancient history bks). Non-fiction is boring and ain't nobody got time for that.

Soul mates. :x seriously though, I can't read nonfiction unless there are celtics, hieroglyphs, or ancient Gods involved.

Also I think people have to be a certain bit of creepy to read those books based on real events with murder, rape, child molestation , and incest. My aunt would read those 'based on true story' crime books and it would his me the heebie jeebies. She said she always wanted to know why/what the killer was thinking.

Devils. They were thinking devils.

joynalanson · March 2014

I don't care about waiting to get back in prebaby shape before I do anything. If I could, I'd go swimming today. If I had somewhere fancy to go, i'd be in an awesome outfit. And as far as ST, I've been walking around the house in a sports bra since October. DH has seen my body in so many states over the last few months and seen my vagina push out a baby, nothing is keeping him from all this lovin.

MarkandAbbi · March 2014

I love watching the show toddlers and tiara's. I find it so entertaining.

kiki1978 · March 2014

sehudson821 said:

As far as competition goes, they have to miss occasionally for travel, but so do kids who play volleyball, baseball, soccer, etc! As long as it doesn't impact their grades in a negative way, I think it's nice for them to have a day or two for what they enjoy. We all need a break sometimes, and that's coming from a teacher.

I just feel like school should always come first. I don't understand why the baseball, soccer, cheer, whatever have competitions during school time. I've dealt with plenty of parents where I have talked to them about how their child is struggling and having a hard time in first grade and then they take them out for 3 days for a competition. You are showing your child that extra curriculars are more important.

slmille4 · March 2014

sugarland726 said:
I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

Agreed. As I posted before mil stated she doesn't know why people have babies now a days and don't raise them. But FIL was working three jobs once. I'd rather both me and DH get to spend quality time with dd

slmille4 · March 2014

My UO: I think it's ok to have your baby/toddler watch tv at an early age. They are just concentrating on shapes and moving objects at a young age. Plus it gives you another free minute to eat and go to the bathroom.

Tylynngrace · March 2014

I totally agree with body acceptance but I feel like some people use it as a way to never try to change at all. I'm not bashing people that love their curves I just don't like that people that are unhealthy use it as a crutch.

monkeybutt61612 · March 2014

My husband and I share one credit card. I keep it with me most of the time. He uses his debit card. We find it helps us spend less money.

km_md · March 2014

sehudson821 said:

I used to cheer and coach competitively, and I do agree with @BuckeyeMommy4‌ for the most part. A little lipstick and blush goes a long way on stage. However, the glitter eyeshadow and false eyelashes on a 6 year old do seem a little extreme to me. I'm also fairly certain that USASF is in the beginning stages of enforcing a new rule that "belly tops" can't be worn by any teams other than senior level (typically high school age). So two thumbs up for that. But parents are hopefully looking into the places they're taking their children and making decisions on what they are ok with as far as costumes and make up. As buckeye said, if it's something you're not ok with, find another studio for your kid. As far as competition goes, they have to miss occasionally for travel, but so do kids who play volleyball, baseball, soccer, etc! As long as it doesn't impact their grades in a negative way, I think it's nice for them to have a day or two for what they enjoy. We all need a break sometimes, and that's coming from a teacher

I agree with both of you. I took dance and sometimes had to wear quite a bit of makeup, but it is for stage purposes. The schools that I attended definitely did cutsie stuff with the young ones and didn't do belly tops until the kids got a bit older. Every school is different. And I missed school occasionally for dance, just like my brothers missed occasionally for hockey or baseball. We all had honour roll grades and went on to post-secondary education. It really didm't affect our school work. If anything, it was better for us because we had to learn good time management to do the work at another time.

km_md · March 2014

MarBee1214 said:

I have another one: The show Seinfeld would be so much better if Jerry was replaced by a better actor. I think he is the definition of NOT funny and I can't stand that he can't keep a straight face during the show. I irritates me to no end.

He really is terrible! And the rest of them are so talented that I think it makes him stand out more. I do still love the show though!

jwp325 · March 2014

sugarland726 said:

I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

Can't agree more. My BIL used to do this. He's since gotten a job that better utilizes his abilities and has a larger salary and only works one job but still. SIL used to watch her friend's two kids but stopped once BIL got the new job. What irks me and DH is that SIL does nothing else around the house. BIL works, commutes, makes dinner, does the laundry, cleans the house, etc. When she was pregnant, she was sick for the entire time. We understood her not doing much around the house then, but didn't see the reason why before that.

housewifebecomesher · March 2014

allyerrn said:
My UO: Disney stuff drives me crazy. Granted... I used to live in Orlando and worked at WDW at the Magic Kingdom. I used to be Disney obsessed. It's just sad that I'm so jaded by working there, that anything Disney now drives me a little nutso. Don't get me wrong, I'll still take my daughter there some day, but I just can't take everything Disney anymore.

This bugs me too but I have no explanation for it. And will definitely take my kids someday!

sugarland726 · March 2014

jwp325 said:

sugarland726 said:

I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

Can't agree more. My BIL used to do this. He's since gotten a job that better utilizes his abilities and has a larger salary and only works one job but still. SIL used to watch her friend's two kids but stopped once BIL got the new job. What irks me and DH is that SIL does nothing else around the house. BIL works, commutes, makes dinner, does the laundry, cleans the house, etc. When she was pregnant, she was sick for the entire time. We understood her not doing much around the house then, but didn't see the reason why before that.

My UO stems from my BIL. His wife is pregnant and expecting their first. She is a stay at home wife. He works 3 13 hour overnight shifts (7pm-8am) and is looking at at least one part time job. Why the fuck can't she work? I don't think it's for him to get away from her, @MarBee1214 as they are newlyweds and seem happy so far, but I am so confused by the whole situation.

nolagal79 · March 2014

MarBee1214 said:
I'd rather weigh a little more than I wish to, and eat delicious, indulgent food than weigh less, and stuff my face with raw vegis like a damn farm animal and be miserable every time I see something I crave but "can't have."

I love the scene in eat.pray.love where she says "we are going to finish this pizza, and tomorrow, buy bigger jeans." and something about how a man doesn't turn away a naked woman because she's got a few extra pounds...he's just excited to have a naked woman.

This exactly!!! Try living in New Orleans on a diet and see how far ya get. So I look more like a Lane Bryant model than a VS model - I'm healthy and happy so screw it - pass me a bowl of gumbo!

brideandbreve · March 2014

sugarland726 said:

I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

This. I think it's selfish for a woman to pull that SAHM card when she knows they can't afford it.

We have friends who are in a situation like this. The husband has a job where he can get extra pay if he takes long trips out of town for meetings and projects in other branches around the U.S., so to cover her quitting her job to stay at home with the kids (and continue to get pregnant; they're on baby #3, and their first was only born in 2011), he is never home.

The other friends we have like this? They live way outside of their means, but she quit her job as an event planner to stay at home with their first child back in early 2012. He lost his job months after the child was born, and she still refused to go back to work. He now works an office job, and folds jeans at the local Hollister on evening/weekend shifts.

I'd rather go to work and contribute towards our financial well-being, and allow my husband the opportunity to be home every afternoon for dinner with our kids, and to spend weekends hanging out as a family versus me being a SAHM at the expense of my husband's time with his children.

(FWIW: I have nothing against SAHMs. I have nothing against fathers/husbands who have jobs that take them away from home. I, however, am a judgmental chick when it comes to women who still insist on being a SAHM when they know that they can't afford it on their husband's income, leading him to get multiple jobs outside of his 9-5.)

joynalanson · March 2014

slmille4 said:
My UO: I think it's ok to have your baby/toddler watch tv at an early age. They are just concentrating on shapes and moving objects at a young age. Plus it gives you another free minute to eat and go to the bathroom.

My 9 week loves sports and nature shows. We talk to him during and "explain" what's going on.

Toribaker171 · March 2014

slmille4 said:
My UO: I think it's ok to have your baby/toddler watch tv at an early age. They are just concentrating on shapes and moving objects at a young age. Plus it gives you another free minute to eat and go to the bathroom.

Allie watches BabyFirst shows on Netflix, and sometimes Disney and other movies! It's not for the education so much as she just likes the bright colors. I see no problem in it. Not like it's an all day thing, just long enough for me to get some things done, plus it really just makes her sleepy and she'll take a nap before it's over.

Eta: Explanation

sehudson821 · March 2014

@kiki1978‌ schools allow kids to miss for athletic events for their school teams in middle, high school and college. Unless they're missing every single week or very excessively I don't see a problem with it. I don't think that they're necessarily teaching them that other things are more important than school, just letting them live! Being a doctor, police officer, teacher, etc. is important and they take days off too. I think that we all need a little wiggle room.

bethughknee · March 2014

MarBee1214 said:

I wasn't even allowed to miss church for sports...let alone school. My parents were both teachers.

When my first job in high school stopped letting me not ever be on the Sunday schedule and I was going to have to miss church to work, my mom made me quit. True story.

I was allowed to miss both times I went to Disney World for marching band, though. But I brought my Bible of my own accord.

bethughknee · March 2014

chapi0514 said:

I love Cher!!!! :-bd

kiki1978 · March 2014

sehudson821 said:

@kiki1978‌ schools allow kids to miss for athletic events for their school teams in middle, high school and college. Unless they're missing every single week or very excessively I don't see a problem with it. I don't think that they're necessarily teaching them that other things are more important than school, just letting them live! Being a doctor, police officer, teacher, etc. is important and they take days off too. I think that we all need a little wiggle room.

That's true. I guess it really depends on the child and their family. How the child is doing in school is important and how many days they have already missed for vacation, competitions, etc. I have had kids whose parents have taken them on vacation for a week, and their child can handle it. I just think if my child was struggling I don't think I would take them to ski in Colorado for a week (I actually had a conference like this with some parents).

thegosiers · March 2014

housewifebecomesher said:

My UO: Disney stuff drives me crazy. Granted... I used to live in Orlando and worked at WDW at the Magic Kingdom. I used to be Disney obsessed. It's just sad that I'm so jaded by working there, that anything Disney now drives me a little nutso. Don't get me wrong, I'll still take my daughter there some day, but I just can't take everything Disney anymore.
This bugs me too but I have no explanation for it. And will definitely take my kids someday!

Related: I don't understand it when adults are Disney obsessed, like with Disney themed weddings or season passes. It's weird for a couple without kids to go to Disneyland every weekend, IMO.

angiek1 · March 2014

MarBee1214 said:

KaitiMac said:

Papa John's pizza SUCKS.

Domino's does too.

But the thin crust...come on

and the yummy garlic dipping sauce!

angiek1 · March 2014

My UO is that I hate all the blogs/articles/etc that promote SAHM or WM stances. I hate the posts that say things like "my kids won't remember if a house is clean but the memories made instead of cleaning" or vice versa. I feel like all of those posts are made to make the other kind of mom feel like shit and make people feel superior to other moms. Drives me NUTS! I feel like a woman can't win -- I worked full time so I'm a shitty mom or b/c I stayed at home I'm a shitty mom b/c I chose not to have a career... either way I think all of the articles do women a disservice.

joynalanson · March 2014

Got another. Krispy Kreme is trash. Sugar with dough in it.

km_md · March 2014

thegosiers said:

housewifebecomesher said:

My UO: Disney stuff drives me crazy. Granted... I used to live in Orlando and worked at WDW at the Magic Kingdom. I used to be Disney obsessed. It's just sad that I'm so jaded by working there, that anything Disney now drives me a little nutso. Don't get me wrong, I'll still take my daughter there some day, but I just can't take everything Disney anymore.
This bugs me too but I have no explanation for it. And will definitely take my kids someday!

Related: I don't understand it when adults are Disney obsessed, like with Disney themed weddings or season passes. It's weird for a couple without kids to go to Disneyland every weekend, IMO.

It's not at all weird. Disney has things for people of all ages. And for people like me who have gone since they were very young, it holds a lot of special memories. Now I don't go every weekend, and there are many other places that I would love to travel to, but I really love going to Disney. I even got married there - it wasn't Disney themed or anything, but it was a beautiful and stress free day. It is just like any other kind of fandom - there are some who love it and some who hate it!

MIT721 · March 2014

Rojovol34 said:

alwaysadream528 said:

joynalanson said:
Got another. Krispy Kreme is trash. Sugar with dough in it.

Agreed. They are disgusting. I only will eat cake donuts. No fillings (jellies, creamed, etc.) either.

Yes yes yes. Dunkin donuts for life. Especially the holes. Now I need them in my belly right now.

OOOH. Ok I see your perspective and I LOVE DDs. However a piping hot donut from Krispy Kreme is like none other. Of course I live in NC where people run a few miles and eat a couple of Krispy Kreme boxes for fun but you know... Bygones.

slmille4 · March 2014

sugarland726 said:

jwp325 said:

sugarland726 said:

I don't understand the husband working two or three jobs for the wife to stay at home with the child.

Can't agree more. My BIL used to do this. He's since gotten a job that better utilizes his abilities and has a larger salary and only works one job but still. SIL used to watch her friend's two kids but stopped once BIL got the new job. What irks me and DH is that SIL does nothing else around the house. BIL works, commutes, makes dinner, does the laundry, cleans the house, etc. When she was pregnant, she was sick for the entire time. We understood her not doing much around the house then, but didn't see the reason why before that.

My UO stems from my BIL. His wife is pregnant and expecting their first. She is a stay at home wife. He works 3 13 hour overnight shifts (7pm-8am) and is looking at at least one part time job. Why the fuck can't she work? I don't think it's for him to get away from her, @MarBee1214 as they are newlyweds and seem happy so far, but I am so confused by the whole situation.

One of my coworkers husbands is like that though. He comes from a very Italian family that thinks the wife should stay home. He works crazy hours and my coworker basically had to put her foot down and say no I went to school for 7 years I want to work! They are about to have their third tho so think she's gonna stay home out of pure necessity now.

Babychuu · March 2014

My UO is that I HATE Dunkin' Donuts. I hate their donuts, I hate their coffee, I even hate the color scheme.

Krispy Kreme 4 lyfe.

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