random bursts of panic

RedBird11 · March 2014

I feel guilty because a couple times a week I will be fine and then out of nowhere I get a rush of panic thinking "oh my gosh what did I get myself into? I can't do this!" when I think about having a baby. I start wishing I wasn't pregnant. The feeling goes away after a few minutes but then I am left feeling incredibly guilty for having those thoughts. I am so excited to be having a baby and it was definitely planned. I have always had issues with panic attacks though. I just hope I don't have the same thoughts once LO is here. Anyone else facing similar emotions?

Another thing I get is a sudden rush of sadness that my DH and I won't have all the alone time we are used to and I am terrified of us drifting apart. I really have no reason to think we will have trouble though, we have a great relationship.

Most of the time I am really happy and excited, I just wish I wouldn't have moments of panic and doubt.

ksulli · March 2014

I still do that. And I'm on my third pregnancy/second child. It's a HUGE life change, I think it'd be weird not to have moments like that. Did you get married or buy a house yet? Same thing, even when you know it's the right choice, there are 'holy crap' moments.

RedBird11 · March 2014

Thank you. Especially for saying it would be weird to NOT have those thoughts. That actually makes me feel a lot better. I am just having a rough day.

baileymama3 · March 2014

I get freaked out too. It comes in waves. Sometimes I am so excited and other times I wake up laying in bed and think, "what the hell have we done, EVERYTHING will change!"

I think/hope it's normal-- cause I am right there with you!

Pandamom416 · March 2014

I had one of those yesterday. My DH and I were snuggling quietly on the couch and I suddenly realized that we won't have moments like that much longer.

Luckie519 · March 2014

I think most of us have probably had the same feeling at one time or another. A big one for me is that I already have DS and I keep thinking how much harder this time around is going to be with a newborn and a toddler.

I feel like mine and DH's schedules are already so busy and we don't get much time alone, so obviously another baby is not going to help the situation. I just know that we will adjust and everything will work out (it always does).

ambarnett1 · March 2014

I can totally relate. I'm 20, this was unplanned, and we just got married in February. Before the wedding I had panic attacks about if I was doing the right thing (even though I knew it was) and now I get the same thing you get. I'm so happy about my son, but becoming a mom is scary. I think all of us have had this at some point despite how excited we are. It's normal. Don't feel guilty. You're human. Life is scary and it's okay to be scared and anxious sometimes.

Ksample89 · March 2014

I'm still in disbelief that the baby will be coming out soon. I've gotten so content with being pregnant. No issues at all besides a little feet swelling. Has been a great experience. I'm freaking out about the next step- actually giving birth and taking care of a little baby.

cd92007 · March 2014

Thank you for posting this - it's so hard to openly admit these feelings but I feel the EXACT same way - I could have 100% written this post. Every single word are thoughts and feelings that I currently have. Hugs! I think once we see these babies everything will make sense and fall into place.

Teresa1896 · March 2014

It's totally normal to feel that way. I'm done being pregnant but not quite ready for a newborn! And this is my 2nd, so I know what we're getting ourselves into this time.
Babies are made to survive their parents. You will be fine and so will your LO.

RedBird11 · March 2014

@cd92007 Hugs back at you! I have been wanting to write about this for a while now and I finally was able to get myself to do it today. It is hard to admit feelings of doubt.

macynsnoop · March 2014

Thanks so much for this post! I think I have been in denial most of this pregnancy that a baby would actually be coming out & what this would mean interns of hubs & my life changing. The other day I totally had a rush of panic when it just hit me & I wondered what the hell we were doing & damn, it's too late now! I am freaking out on a daily basis now that my due date is under 2 weeks away. I can't imagine how life will be like with a baby & I worry about how the dogs will react & how the relationship will change with hubs. I try to remind myself of all the people who have babies, who are in my same situation & they do just fine. I guess just take one day at a time. Everything has a way of working itself out.

MrsZ0811 · March 2014

Totally know how you feel. I have issues with panic attacks and they have been getting worse and more often the closer I get to having this baby. Even though this was 100% planned and we are very ready and very excited there are definitely still times where I am freaking out! But that's what goes with the territory of big life changes, some thing happened right before our wedding, and again right when we were buying our house. I always try to talk to my DH about all the things that we are excited about with the coming baby and that seems to help calm me down.

Grace682 · March 2014

Wow! I'm glad to see I'm not alone!!! You literally had me in tears reading this. Since my mid twentys I started to get panic attacks and since becoming pregnant they've reached a whole new point. SO and I aren't married and although I'm engaged I still feel overwhelmed. I've had a decent pregnancy up until about a month ago when my BP reached a high and hasn't come down since. Therefore I've been on modified bed rest for the past 2 weeks. As you can see we're not alone and this to shall pass. That's what I tell myself. Be strong and know you're not alone. ((Hugs))

Sunshinelou · March 2014

All very, very normal!

csmily51 · March 2014

I feel this way to a T. I have anxiety issues as well, and have had numerous days where I just melt down because I love our life, and our relationship, but I know we will be fine. It's just so hard to see all of it play out. We had been TTC for over a year and a half, and I honestly never thought it would happen, when it did I was in disbelief, and then couldn't shake the idea it was going to end, etc. Thank you for posting this and making me feel less crazy and selfish.

ilianabeltran118 · March 2014

Thank you for this post I am feeling the same way and it is becoming increasingly frequent as my due date approaches.

smashton14th · March 2014

With this being my second i am freaking out about having two. Sometimes i want to go into labor but lately i have been wanting to keep him inside for a while longer...

RedBird11 · March 2014

Thanks everyone for all of your support. I needed a place to vent about the emotions I was having. And thanks to everyone who shared that they were going through similar emotional ups and downs. Its nice to know I am not alone but I am sorry that you all are going through it at times as well.

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