Pot? Long

jacqgomar · March 2014

Are there any moms who used to smoke marijuana before they were pregnant? And if so do you plan on returning to recreational use at any point?

I started smoking when I was a cancer patient to help with the side effects form treatment. I liked it so I continued to smoke. Once I found out a baby was on board I stopped. I'm BF now, and will be until Quinn is a year old. I won't be smoking anytime time soon.

I'm just not sure if I will ever smoke again. For sure I won't ever smoke when I have the baby around, ever. It would only be at times when she is sleeping over at my moms or DH and I are out and won't be home for hours.

I know by posting this I will be judged, and that's ok. I'm a good mom so far, I just want to hear your thoughts if you are in the same boat.

fitmama418 · March 2014

First, cancer? I hope you're in remission and feeling better. You go, girl! As for weed, I may be a bit of a pearl clutcher on this topic but...I just don't get why you even want to do this. But then again, why do I love booze? Just think it's a bit of a weird thing to ask...and a very personal thing. Also, the "I'm a good mom so far" comment kind of irked me; who suggested anything to the contrary? I think there's something deeper going on here.

*shrugs*

barista411 · March 2014

Personally it's just not worth it to me. It is illegal here so why would I put myself and my family at risk. In order to get it I am potentially putting myself in a dangerous position. Then once I posess it I am putting myself at risk for legal issues. I can't imagine spending a night in jail away from my kids or trying to explain to my kids where I was. Even if you do it responsibly and get a babysitter what if something were to happen to your child while you are getting high? What if they have to go to emergency room? Are you going to show up to ER high? I know these are a lot of these are worst case scenarios but as a parent you have to be prepared for worst case scenarios. I very rarely drink because the thought of being impaired and something happen to my kids absolutely scares me.

Kim22 · March 2014

If you live where it is legal, do what you want. If not please think about what I'm about to say.
My BIL is a police officer. A routine traffic stop gone bad because of drugs lead to him being shot twice and his back up officer being killed. I would not want to associate myself or my family with the types of people who would benefit from illegally purchasing drugs of any kind.
I will never forget any details if that night or the tense days that followed until that person was caught during a second shoot out with officers in another state. I know the average recreational user doesn't think about this part of drugs. Although my BIL has recovered and returned to work, we were all forever changed by that night.

AlisonM12 · March 2014

nciesla said:

First, cancer? I hope you're in remission and feeling better. You go, girl! As for weed, I may be a bit of a pearl clutcher on this topic but...I just don't get why you even want to do this. But then again, why do I love booze? Just think it's a bit of a weird thing to ask...and a very personal thing. Also, the "I'm a good mom so far" comment kind of irked me; who suggested anything to the contrary? I think there's something deeper going on here. *shrugs*

This comment bothered me, too. Maybe I'm reading into it but it's just kind of weird that you say "so far".

As far as the pot goes, if it's legal in your state do what you want but if it's illegal my advice would be to stay as far away from it as possible. It would just lead to trouble. You're a mom now, every decision you make affects your LO.

LibberDuck · March 2014

I'm not a fan of drug use, just because I've seen too many people ruin their lives that way. BUT, I would just like to say that marijuana is not legal, even in states that have legalized it. It is still against federal law and while most federal agents and LEOs won't be concerned about it in a state where it has been legalized, it wouldn't be a risk I would be willing to take, unless it was for medicinal purposes.

I guess I just don't understand the lure of it. I get it when you're young and experimenting. I really get it when you are sick and using it medicinally. I just don't get why an adult woman with a sweet baby would still want to feel that high. No judgement, I just don't understand it. Maybe it's because I just never got into it, but I have known people who have and it definitely lead them into harder drugs.

riserst · March 2014

I believe that once you have children you give up the right of using any kind of drug recreationally. Your actions affect others whether they are present or not. Medical use is different.

dobrydney · March 2014

The whole doing something that impairs me is what bothers me about it. That's why I don't drink either. I feel like it's not worth the potential consequences. Yeah, I'll sometimes have a glass of wine but I don't get getting high or getting drunk. Do what you want, but that's just me. This is coming from a tattooed pierced mama, definitely not uptight!

riserst · March 2014

shanbp said:

riserst said:
I believe that once you have children you give up the right of using any kind of drug recreationally. Your actions affect others whether they are present or not. Medical use is different.
Including alcohol?

I think alcohol is a little different. It is legal and 'most' can handle a couple of beers or a couple glasses of wine and be ok.
It has been many many moons since I have had pot (prob 18 years)...but the stuff we got was pretty potent. After one hit I could not function. Walking was next to impossible for me. I did not care for it because I felt I had no control over it. I understand it is not like that with everyone.

fitmama418 · March 2014

shanbp said:

I believe that once you have children you give up the right of using any kind of drug recreationally. Your actions affect others whether they are present or not. Medical use is different.
Including alcohol?

Another difference is alcohol is sold legally in or from sealed containers. You know what you're getting. You never know what marijuana can be laced with and the potency varies as PP's have said. There's a HUGE difference between the two if you ask me.

jacqgomar · March 2014

I said so far beacuse I'm a FTM and Quinn is only 4 months old. Like some FTM everything is new and you learn as you go, so naturally I worry if I'm doing the "right" thing or not.

jacqgomar · March 2014

Cupcakesandquilts said:
It sounds like you're being level-headed, at least to my MOTN mind. I'm a social worker and have done child protective services in the past, and if how you actually handle recreation use in the future is how you're describing, I see no problem. But there is the possibility of slipping into regular use, are you concerned about that?

I'm not concerned about slipping in to regular use. My child is my number one priority. I was just curious, my husband and I were talking about the subject and I wanted more opinions. I don't think I would like it the same as before.

amberrrjade · March 2014

Everyone knows I'm anti drugs however pot is different to me. Before LO was conceived I smoked/ate. Obviously I'm still not but I probably will again in the distant future. M will probably be around 6. I'm waiting until I'm done breastfeeding all my future children. It will also be done no where near my children and responsibly. I'm just not a drinker. Flame flame flame away

McJen715 · March 2014

I don't think it makes you a bad parent if smoking is something you do on occasion when your children are not in your care. Sort of like alcohol, both impair your state of mind. As long as you do it when your child isn't in your care then I don't find it to be a big deal.

My H and I smoked pot on the regular before we got married (7 years ago). I haven't since then but he still does occasionally. We also live in a state where it's legal now (and his dad had his medical card before, so he bought it off of his dad).

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