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Support Check In-

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in June 2014 Moms
Seemed like last week was pretty quiet!

Hope everyone is doing well this week!!

If not- let it all out here!!
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Re: Support Check In-

  • jshropjshrop member
    I feel like my moods are swinging more than lately. However, my concern is still supporting hubs through this rough patch he's going through. He's still somewhat distant and I find myself asking "are you okay?" a lot through the day, sometimes to the point he's annoyed. I am struggling with towing the fine line between support and pushy. On a good note, he's back to snuggling up to me at night. It's been a while since he's done this. I feel like it's a good sign.


    One other thing I'm struggling with is my lack of job/income right now. I'm at the point where I feel like I'm unlikely to be hired for a job because I'm near the end of pregnancy. I know I will go back to work when she's born but right now it's tight, and I hate it, and I know that's part of hubs issue. Sometimes it keeps me up all night, other times I get the "fuck its." I just feel like we are in such a transition place of our lives.
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    jshrop said:

    I feel like my moods are swinging more than lately. However, my concern is still supporting hubs through this rough patch he's going through. He's still somewhat distant and I find myself asking "are you okay?" a lot through the day, sometimes to the point he's annoyed. I am struggling with towing the fine line between support and pushy. On a good note, he's back to snuggling up to me at night. It's been a while since he's done this. I feel like it's a good sign.


    One other thing I'm struggling with is my lack of job/income right now. I'm at the point where I feel like I'm unlikely to be hired for a job because I'm near the end of pregnancy. I know I will go back to work when she's born but right now it's tight, and I hate it, and I know that's part of hubs issue. Sometimes it keeps me up all night, other times I get the "fuck its." I just feel like we are in such a transition place of our lives.

    So sorry to hear all of this =[

    I am glad he is starting to attatch himself a little more.. In time I hope it gets back to normal. Maybe the time and space is what he needs..

    Prayers your financial situation gets better.. Keep pushing forward.. Its almost over with!!
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  • jshropjshrop member
    Thanks ladies! I didn't realize how much all of this was bothering me until I typed it out and felt the tears. Oh well. You're right, we're almost there, I just have to keep pushing through.
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    jshrop said:

    Thanks ladies! I didn't realize how much all of this was bothering me until I typed it out and felt the tears. Oh well. You're right, we're almost there, I just have to keep pushing through.

    Nothing wrong with crying!! Let it all out!!
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    I am sorry you are going through this. Try & keep your head up.
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  • Mom&nurseMom&nurse member
    jshrop said:

    Thanks ladies! I didn't realize how much all of this was bothering me until I typed it out and felt the tears. Oh well. You're right, we're almost there, I just have to keep pushing through.


    Hugs are thoughts. I'm in a very similar situation. So close its scary. Good luck.
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  • Mom&nurseMom&nurse member
    My SO got hurt on the job in January. We have been getting the run around with work comp ever since. He has child support that he pays on his other children too. We lived off his overtime income.

    I noticed he was getting less then our state minimum. They can't tell us if child support is coming out or not. There are no pay stubs on the checks. Only $300 mailed for dates x-y. No one gives us answers. Now he has to have surgery on April 2 nd due to his injury. We should be getting more money. At least $450 per week. So they have to be taking out support but DSS has nothing. Plus it's been 3 weeks since the last check. We get... It's in the mail. It's supposed to be 10% fine if 10 days late. No lawyer will touch it until they deny him. I just want to cry and do everyday.

    I know he did not ask for this. He is trying to help at a buddy shop for extra cash but that he works m-s 8-6 and only $300 per week. That's less them min wage.

    That means no crib or nursery for our baby.


    Sorry to jump ship but as I'm typing this in tears I get a call from my church. Offering prayers, support and spiritual guidance. What I needed the most.

    Now I know all those material things do not mater. My baby is not going to suffer from not having those extra things. But this week we struggle to put food on the table as we have $40 for the week.

    I really just need people to pray for my strength. As leaving my SO would be the easy thing to do but not the right. It gets hard in life and its what we do to fight for it that defines us.

    I start my new part time job tonight and meet with my church members tomorrow morning. Then work all weekend at my full time job. I'm going to stay strong for me and my baby and talk to my dr about possible meds on Thursday as all I do is cry most days.

    On the plus side. I do feel like I have my SO back. Other then our worries I see the look of love in his eyes again.
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    Mom&nurse said:

    My SO got hurt on the job in January. We have been getting the run around with work comp ever since. He has child support that he pays on his other children too. We lived off his overtime income.

    I noticed he was getting less then our state minimum. They can't tell us if child support is coming out or not. There are no pay stubs on the checks. Only $300 mailed for dates x-y. No one gives us answers. Now he has to have surgery on April 2 nd due to his injury. We should be getting more money. At least $450 per week. So they have to be taking out support but DSS has nothing. Plus it's been 3 weeks since the last check. We get... It's in the mail. It's supposed to be 10% fine if 10 days late. No lawyer will touch it until they deny him. I just want to cry and do everyday.

    I know he did not ask for this. He is trying to help at a buddy shop for extra cash but that he works m-s 8-6 and only $300 per week. That's less them min wage.

    That means no crib or nursery for our baby.


    Sorry to jump ship but as I'm typing this in tears I get a call from my church. Offering prayers, support and spiritual guidance. What I needed the most.

    Now I know all those material things do not mater. My baby is not going to suffer from not having those extra things. But this week we struggle to put food on the table as we have $40 for the week.

    I really just need people to pray for my strength. As leaving my SO would be the easy thing to do but not the right. It gets hard in life and its what we do to fight for it that defines us.

    I start my new part time job tonight and meet with my church members tomorrow morning. Then work all weekend at my full time job. I'm going to stay strong for me and my baby and talk to my dr about possible meds on Thursday as all I do is cry most days.

    On the plus side. I do feel like I have my SO back. Other then our worries I see the look of love in his eyes again.

    ((Hugs)) so many prayers for you!! I hope things get worked out for you as quickly as possible. Trying to fight with the government is such a difficult task some timed, but try not to give up!! I hope everything at your doctors works out and they help you along!! xoxoxox
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