I know I should be happy for them they are a great couple, but after losing my baby and see there brand new son just feels like a kick in the teeth.
With Easter next month is anyone else going to avoid family holidays so you don't have to see new babies?? Love my DH family but it just hurts seeing there healthy beautiful baby when I know I should have been expecting my own..
Re: Lost my baby 2 weeks ago.. HD cousin had her baby yesterday
BFP#1: 2/2/13 ~ exact m/c date unknown but around 3/20 at 10 weeks ~ diagnosed with PMP ~ D&C on 4/5 ~ TTA for at least 1 year due to PMP ~ cleared to TTC 1/14
BFP#2: 2/7/14 ~ m/c 2/20/14 ~ possibly due to chemical pregnancy ~ TG no D&C is needed
Surprise BFP#3: 4/4/14 ~ super duper extra happy (and nervous) about this one - EDD 12/9/14!!!
John Joseph was born on 12/12/14 at 7 lbs. 11 oz. He is the most beautiful rainbow baby we could have wished for!
I'm freaked out about how I will feel for her delivery.
***prior pregnancy mentioned***
I had a complicated and traumatic delivery with DS. 11 months later she had an uncomplicated delivery at full term. Her delivery was hard but beautiful for me to experience with her (she let me in the room except for when it was time to push and immediately after). I was happy for her although I wanted what she had.
I'm going to try to draw from that to support her this time, but I point blank told her that I was sorry if I needed to bow out. She understands... I explained that it had nothing to do with my joy for them but rather than healing from our loss.
I find that being tactful but straight forward is important to communicate boundaries without harming relationships.
GL... (((Hugs)))
PG#1 - 3rd cycle BFP. Team Green. HELLP syndrome @ 34 weeks.
Later diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, possible link to HELLP.
PG#2 M/C 3/14 - Surprise BFP 2/13. Beta's doubled every 52 hours from 3w5d-5w5d
Viable pregnancy scan at 5w5d; 2nd u/s showed 2 days of growth in 7 but a HB of 120
3rd u/s on 3/10/14 had no HB and baby had only grown 7 days over 14
D&C 3/17/14 - complications - DX Retroflexed uterus, multiple tears to cervix
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Something that I think has helped me is a homeopathic remedy. I have never been a believer in the 'sugar pills' but the calm I feel with it has helped take the edge of the rollercoaster I have been one for 5 weeks. Its called ignatia if you're interested.
I completely broke down yesterday, because my dad seemed so happy that he was going to be a grandfather; I never told him I was pregnant because we were waiting until at least 12 weeks to share the news with everyone, but I lost the baby at 8 weeks. I never told him about the miscarriage.
My brother already told him, and my SIL is only 7 weeks along. I felt awful because I should have been sharing the news of my pregnancy with my father, and then even worse because I started to wonder if I should have told him when I was earlier along.
As soon as I feel like I'm starting to heal and move on, I find out that someone else close to me is pregnant. I too feel like I just can't win :-(