Hubby wants another baby...

TexWisJen · March 2014

Anyone else have a husband or s/o that is wanting to start trying again, but you are not quite ready? Are you giving in? Are you compromising? Or are you holding your ground?

Starting when dd was about 5 months old, my husband has been mentioning having another baby soon because him and his sister were only 18 months apart and he liked that...so everytime we dtd...he says "let's make Jordi a little sister or brother."

Although we definitely want another child...I just want our baby to be "the baby" for a while.

Schell2013 · March 2014

I was like this too. However I am pregnant now which makes our kids 18 months apart. We only want two for he convinced me that it will get easier quick and then we can go to Disney land!

TexWisJen · March 2014

@KateRN08‌ not really...he just says it...like...hey wanna make a baby ;-) Then I say, lets just wait a little longer...and he seems on board with waiting, but keeps bringing it up. He is just so in love with dd that he wants another baby...like yesterday....where I just want to spoil this one a little longer.

emmy236 · March 2014

DH was against trying for number two when R had all his medical problems and wasn't STTN (not sure why he cared because I was the one waking up with him). Now that R is sleeping, walking, eating big boy food, suddenly he's ready for number 2. I wanted to wait to TTC till this fall and thought that was going to be a fight but now I'm the one saying no. I keep reminding DH that I had a c section and the doctor said 12-18 months but in reality I want a fun summer with R and we have a bunch of weddings we're going to that I have no desire to be sober for.

TexWisJen · March 2014

@beaubecca‌ exactly :-)...I know several people that have the opposite issue... I was just wondering how others...if any, handled it. A part of me wants to give in...I am just not good with change :-)

Boo0512 · March 2014

H wanted another baby when DD was 6 months old and I was like, ummm, hell to the no.

I wanted to wait until DD was 18 months so, our compromise was when DD was 12 months we'd start trying. Honestly, I'm hoping we don't get KU right away. I'd like a little time for myself once DD is off the boob. Time will tell.

I'm not sure if anyone is really "ready" for another baby. I'm just going to roll with it and see what happens.

Angela183 · March 2014

We are not planning to ttc until lo is about 2 1/2. I don't think either of us will be ready before then anyway!

coffeeandbooks · March 2014

I am not in the same boat...because DH and I are both not ready for number two, but I defnitely think you shouldn't be pressured into number 2 before you are totally ready. You know what you want...what you can handle...you are going to be caring for baby number 2 probably more than your DH so do it when you are ready and not before.

c-elizabethf · March 2014

We are waiting to talk about ttc again around 3 years old. Who knows? Maybe things will change before.

emmy236 · March 2014

Another thing we talked about was how many grades apart they'd be. DH and his sister are less than two years apart in age but they are two grades separated which was our ideal. Close enough to be friends but not necessarily have to compete with
each other. I have cousins who are the same age difference but only one grade apart. The younger girl was more disciplined in school so by high school she was a level ahead in math and science so she was in the same classes (not same section) as her brother which only highlighted her abilities. 3 grades I heard is tough in terms of juggling schedules because they aren't in the same school as much. I'm a planner and I wanted to think what would be the best long term. Sadly I already know when I would want #3 too.

pnutg · March 2014

I can't relate because ill be ready before my H. Funny how that happens. I really wanted to start trying in May but now since it's getting so close I'm thinking July or August. I was really sick while pregnant and I want to have a fun summer with C without being nauseous 24/7. And ideally, we would like them to be 2 years apart.

MAdams728 · March 2014

Yes, DH wants another one. So do I, though. We have been NTNP, but will start TTC in earnest in April. I am excited. DH and his sister are Irish twins, and he has always said he would want kids close together, as well. I wasn't up for Irish twins, though!

aintnoyuppiemom · March 2014

Schell2013 mentioned Disney.....yeah I am already saving to take two.

Honestly OP I love that your H is so involved with your DD and in love with the family. You are one lucky women. I would cherish that. Stick to your guns you know when your ready. But if he is helpful and you can't think of a reason not to have another with him then tell him. Sounds like he is ok playing on your terms I think he knows your the one doing all the hard work so he is waiting for your que I think he just is reminding you he is ready when you are.

littledaisies · March 2014

My DH has mentioned it a few times but I'm not ready. I'm not ready physically, mentally or financially. I don't know how we would swing two in DC and the thought stresses me out. I want to enjoy the summer with my little guy and see where we are after that.

jesselayne8 · March 2014

MH wants to "get it over with" in regards to the infant stage. I want to enjoy the summer with my kids so we are waiting until August.

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