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Tell me I'm not a horrible mom

KaramelSutraKaramelSutra member
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Ohmygod. The past two nights have gone so well. Minimal crying. One wakeup. Amazing. Tonight? I put him to bed and there was no fussing. Slept for 2 hours then woke up PISSED. I tried to console him without picking him up and he continued to cry. I picked him up and rocked him and shhhh him for a while and he belched. But then began crying again.

I gave him orajel, Motrin, and teething tabs because he was acting like his mouth hurt. No dice. Picked him up again. Decided now it's been almost 3 hours, should nurse him again. He's content, drowsy. Turn on his GloWorm, and wouldn't you know he's just making out with her?

This by far has been the hardest night. I'm afraid if I stop I'll make things so much worse but I don't know if I can have him cry like that (although when it was a pain cry I did everything I could to make it better). Someone tell me I don't suck and it will be ok?
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Birth: 10lbs 11oz, 21.5 inches <> 1 mo: 14lbs 7oz, 23.5 inches2mo: 18lbs 15oz, 25.5 inches <> 4mo: 26lbs 8oz, 27.5 inches6mo: 29lbs 8oz, 30 inches <> 9mo: 32lbs, 32 inches12 mo: 37lbs, 34.5 inches <> 15 mo: 38lbs 6 oz, 36 inches. 20.5 inch noggin18 mo: 43lbs, 37.75 inches 21 inch head2yr: 47 lbs, 42 inches. 21.5 inch head. Woah.  

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Re: Tell me I'm not a horrible mom

  • Bamgal25Bamgal25 member
    You are not a horrible Mom. I'll be honest, I'm not into CIO, so I would say that if he is crying really hard, you should continue to pick him up like you did. I posted something earlier today and got a lot of encouragement, so maybe check out my thread. Hang in there, I know it's hard!
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  • VitaLunaVitaLuna member
    No advice. Sometimes babies just want their mama's comfort. I'm not a CIO person.. Tried it once and the sound of her screaming made me want to puke. My LO has recently started to stay awake playing like your LO is. If she's content, I just let her do her thing. If she cries, we snuggle.

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  • elm005elm005 member
    If you suck then I am right here sucking with you! One day we will miss even these hard nights.
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  • ajbookajbook member
    You know your LO best, if mommy snuggles are what he needs, give him the snuggles. I'm not saying completely give up on your efforts, just follow your instincts. You're doing a good job!
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  • eyriseyris member
    We're about a week and a half into sleep training and the MOTN wake ups have been terrible for the past several days.

    I think we screwed him up on Saturday (family was in town) and now it's like we're starting from scratch.

    My book (Sleeping Through the Night, Mindell) says that when they wake up in the night to do what you usually do - rock, nurse, whatever.  Well, I've tried that but it doesn't work for him anymore.  I can rock him completely to sleep and as soon as I put him back in his crib the screaming starts.  He's done it for the past two nights and cried for a whole hour.

    The couple of nights prior when he woke up and wouldn't go back down without crying I just brought him in our bed and he slept on me, but my back is KILLING me from doing that so I can't and putting him straight in the bed just isn't going to work (too soft pillow top mattress, I sleep on 100 pillows and there just isn't enough space between DH and I to make me feel ok with it).  Sleeping on me seems to be the only think he's happy with but I just can't anymore.

    Hoping we both get through this and our little guys learn to go back to sleep on their own.  And the sooner the better!
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  • Salemkitty13Salemkitty13 member
    I kicked my DH out of the big bed so DS and I could bedshare. Even doing that he was up all night wanting to sip and fuss. I have had him STTN in his crib off and on but he regresses after his shots each time. 
    Point is ... We are all doing what we feel is best for our families. You are not a bad mom. If you feel that the training is working out for y'all, keep at it. If not, modify it or try something else. Follow your instincts. You will always be his best teacher! Hugs to you! 
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  • DaisyZHDaisyZH member
    You don't suck. We did CIO and the first night I gave in because she cried so much. After that she took to it much better and now her sleep habits are so improved. I do think it's worth it in the long run, but don't stress whether you choose to continue or not. Either way you're a great mom that loves and wants the best for your baby.


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