Pre-baby blues?

Asantusa1 · March 2014

Is anyone else having pre-baby blues? They just started and I find myself crying a lot last few days. Scared about my ability to be the mom I want to be.

Please tell someone else feels this. How can I overcome it? drop anxiety and saddness and love the rest of my time with baby before birth?

DH and are are 1400 miles away from family and thought of life with baby without them has me down.

momo214 · March 2014

I don't know if mine is to the same extent yours is but also find myself getting down. Lately it's bc my DH who has never been lovey or romantic hasn't been doting enough and acknoledging my pregnant self. He's more than fabulous and shows his concern by always helping with dishes, cleaning etc. I'm just hormonal. I can certainly understand being down around this time. I'm also a FTM and TERRIFIED about being a mom and balancing work, motherhood, marriage, and a social life. If talk to your dr about it if you really start feeling down. We are all here with you dear!

awc1986 · March 2014

So sorry you're feeling like this. You should consider mentioning it to your dr next time you see them, as they may be able to help.

I know what you mean though. I'm having serious doubts about my abilities as a mother and I can't get my head around the fact that I'm going to be raising a child in the next 7 weeks. I don't have any older women around me to teach me as mine and DH's mothers have both passed, as have my grandmothers. My SIL is really useful, but she's very "no bullshit" and I don't know how she'd deal with my whining!

It just frightens me that I'm finding this part of my pregnancy so hard, but everyone says it only gets harder when the baby gets here.

cnbean · March 2014

I think its very normal to feel a little down and anxious about the huge life change coming. I know that I had moments when I was pregnant with DS that I was sad about the life I was "giving up". But if these feeling are something that you are dealing with frequently it wouldn't hurt to talk to your doctor about it.

deanna1313 · March 2014

I think this is completely normal to be nervous about what's to come. Our lives are completely changing and change makes even the least anxious person anxious sometimes.

I am worrying about the nursery getting done, getting the house ready, breastfeeding and handling the baby. I am very experienced with infants and children and I'm still nervous.

Talk to your dr for sure. Make sure that they are aware of your situation and what is going on because they may want to monitor you before and after you deliver if it becomes really tough to cope.

Hang in there and find another Mother to talk to.

sarahjanisse · March 2014

I've been dealing with this too- I find myself having selfish thoughts like I will be strapped to the house all summer with no energy or ability to go anywhere with freedom. I KNOW I will not feel this way when he gets here because I will be so in love...but I also know then spontaneous care free social life we had is over.

yvanehtnioj · March 2014

My hormones also seem to have ramped it up a bit since 3rd tri started. It's probably a normal reaction but I agree with everyone who said to mention it to your doctor. One of the most common things I hear about PPD is women stay silent because they're either ashamed or dismissive of their feelings. Hope you feel better soon!

pandadair · March 2014

In that same boat with you. Like everyone has already mentioned, definitely bring it up to your doctor. And know that you're not alone and you can always vent frustrations/air concerns/generally unload on this board.

ETA: Whoops, not in the same boat as far as family so far away. That is rough. I saw lots of people struggle through it in the military. Have you looked into support groups where you are? Maybe try searching meetup.com for mom/parent groups for people with young babies. I plan to do that once this little guy is here.

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